i'm lost and ready to quit?

Question

i'm so depressed i saw my soon to be ex on a date again.i don't want to be a part time dad. and i still love her with all my heart.i've lost all hope and faith in god.i need a miracle to save my marriage,my family and probably my life.help

Answer 1

Ok, take a deep breath first. Then, call your friend(s) and see if they want to go out to your favorite hangout to relax, and just talk about everything that you are saying here. Tell them that you need to vent. Remember, almost everyone in the world has lost a loved-one one way or another. People know what you're going through, and the steps you can take to keep you going enough to heal, and get your mind back in shape. I thought it was the end of the world when I lost my first love. I thought I had my soulmate. Appearently, the thought wasn't mutual. I feel for you and stay strong.

Oh, and I know this may or may not help, but would you lose faith in god if she got into an accident and lost her life? Then, you would never be able to see her again. Please remember that some people have a much much worse situation than you have. I'm not trying to be negative, but that has always helped me out when I'm down in the dumps. I try to remember the people that are less fortunate than me, or have had a really really bad life.

Answer 2

Hello!! :o) You're very depressed. And I understand that. But no matter what happens to your relationship with your 'soon-to-be-ex' - you will ALWAYS BE someone's DAD. Never forget that. Whenever we become depressed and 'things' are not working out just as we had hoped - we often become very narrowly focused and ONLY concern ourselves with how WE feel. But how YOU feel is NOT the only thing that matters. There is a child in this world who is depending on you. And that child's LIFE is effected by the decisions you make. [Good or bad] And if you decide to do something as drastic as ending your own life - you will be [in effect] murdering your child's FATHER. Don't do that to your kid. Lead by example. Get up off the floor [so to speak] and show your kid[s] how a man deals with situations that are seemingly beyond his control. And keep in mind that God does NOT help those who resign themselves to curling up into an emotional 'fetal position'. God helps those who show HIM that they ARE in fact - doing their BEST to make the most out of a horrible situation. Wishing that 'things' were like they once were is nothing more than living in the past. Take stock of where you are NOW and make the best of what you've GOT. Be grateful for what you DO have and ask God to take you by the hand and lead you to where HE wants you to BE. Craig!! :o)

Answer 3

hard times come in everybody's life.. u just have to keep faith in God Almighty cuz HE n only HE is always there for us.. we just have to repent n ask for guidance n forgiveness..
seek help from God.. cuz only God can do miracles...
tell ur wife that how true u r to her.. n that uv seen her on a date..n that u dont want to leave her,,, n tell her how much u luv her .. n also that how much ur divorce will effect ur childs life... etc etc...
n even then .,. if shes not willing to cooperate.. then God mite have something better in store for u

i hope n pray to Allah that everything turns out right for u guys.. n that he guides u to the right path... n that u get the best in both the worlds .. Ameen:)

Answer 4

Judging by some of the answers you've given, it's kind of hard to feel sorry for you. Maybe you should focus on changing your own life, and stop answering questions with a dumb remark, then maybe you'll feel better about yourself and others can take you more seriously. I'm just sayin.

Answer 5

you will never find happiness in other people you are responsible for your own happiness you cant force someone to stay with you or love you there are other woman in this world you will eventually get over it it take s some time ,blaming God for your break up is ridiculous, people Willl always fail you but God still loves you you will be OK

Answer 6

This may sound overly simplistic but work on the things you have control over. Like your life. You have no control over her so try and accept that. I've been where you are. There's something better waiting for you. Hang around and see.

Answer 7

as much as WE would all love to help you ...frankly it is only you that can help yourself.... i am extremely sorry for your suitation ... i couldnt imagine the pain your going thru... but as for losing your faith.... no matter what it is you believe in ....they are testing you. i believe we are all here to learn lessons on earth and it sure does sound like your going thru a biggie right now.... but you mentioned that you have children .... i believe they will help give you the strength to get thru this all.... if you are feeling so hurt and desperate about losing the lady you love imagine that hurt they are feeling for loosing their mother!
so be close to your children..... cry together....heal together...and most importantly ask for HELP! from friends...family .... angels....higher powers.... i no they are there just waiting to help you thru this .......and when you get thru this...... you will be a better person.... good luck to you and your children for now they are your family!
love and light
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Answer 8

u have lost faith in God but we dont............we ll pray 4 u tht May ALLah save ur family .keep u happy 4 ever
GOd bless u brother:)

Answer 9

Losing your faith want get it done...It will get it undone...

Answer 10

dont give up!!!!!!!!!!!