my boyfriend and i have known each other for at least 4 years and now we have a baby together. now we stay with each other. he lives with his mom cause she 80 and feels he needs to take care of her. my problem is that she never stops butting in our business and now i just want to move out. my son will be 9 months in a week and some times he pulls her hair and one day she said that she was going to spank him! i told her that no one is allowed to put there hands on him or else i will call the police. she believes that she has the right to spank him cause she's grandma but, the child is mine and i don't want any one hitting him. then she makes these threats about taking him to another state to visit family again i told her no and she again wonder's why she can't take him with her. i'm not being mean but she can't hear very well and she can't see very well either so why should she even drive at all? worst she wants my son to call her mama and call me by my name- is this lady crazy
2006-11-17 22:31:23 · 11 answers · asked by lady luck 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
he does speak with his mom and she just get's angry but it's putting a strain on everything and i've already told him that we have to leave. i don't have a problem leaving him but i do want my son to have a father. she didn't hit him but i dont even think that she should say that at all. i told them that i dont want to hate him so i think it's best. i do have family close but it's just ashame that she's doing this and it's done on purpose so that he wont leave. oh yeah he has another child but she does not live with us cause grandma said that she was too much to take care of and had to leave. she does visit sometimes but my question to my boyfriend is why does she have an opinion at all these are not her kids!
2006-11-17 23:05:03 · update #1
Thats a tough one. First off, nine month old babies don"t know not to pull peoples hair, so if she wants to spank him, she is nuts. Second, next time she sticks her nose into your business, just tell her that it isn't any of her concern, and to butt-out. (Be rude if you have to) Third, I would not let her take your child anywhere if you don't feel safe with it. If something happens after you let her take him against your better judgment, you will never forgive yourself.
The most important thing you can do, however, is to talk to your boyfriend and let him know how this makes you feel. Don't take any unilateral action, he is going to have to back you up every step of the way. If he is not willing to help you deal with him mother, then tell him that you want ot move out if things don't change. That will probably bring him around.
Good luck.
2006-11-17 22:47:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies always pull hair and will eventually start hitting and throwing things. I hope your baby hits her good right in the head to knock some sense into her. Your boyfriend is right to be there for his mother, as everyone should be there for their family. I would understand a spanking but only by the parents and only when the child is older. I have 2 twin nieces that just turned 3 and they call my mom mama and call my sister jessica which is what her name is because everyone always calls her jessica. and me and my sister always call our mom mama. So i guess they got that from us. I am sure they will grow out of that though.
Just have ur husband call u mama ( lol) may help a little. Why not be ur hubbys mama. Good Luck.
2006-11-17 22:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by crissy00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, yeah she is. Calling her mama and you by your name? What kind of crazy talk is this?? Can you financially afford to get your own place or have family you can live with close by your boyfriend? It doesnt sound like you want to say goodbye to your boyfriend, just his creepy mother (who would ever think of spanking a 9mth old???). I hope you can remove yourself from this sort of environment, for yourself and for your son.
2006-11-17 22:42:05 · answer #3 · answered by MaPetiteHippopotame 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT live with relatives! on either side. It will only be your place with your rules when you get a place of your own. It doesn't mean that your boyfriend can't be there for his mother. He could visit her often if he wants to help out. If he really wants to help, he should side with you, if not...then he sure isn't husband material.
2006-11-18 01:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by champion of the underdog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend need to be the one to deal with his mother. He needs to set some boundaries when it comes to you and your son. Try to communicate and work it out, if nothing changes or you feel threatened then leave.
2006-11-17 22:42:14 · answer #5 · answered by PLDFK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep I really think its time to get your own place. Stick to your guns and raise your baby how you see fit.
2006-11-17 22:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move out......bf will follow sooner or later.JUst don't put pressure on him.
2006-11-18 00:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by strictmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run to the hills....grandma has issues..if b/f doesn't join ya then go w/o him.
2006-11-17 22:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay, she wont live too long.
2006-11-17 22:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go! Go quickly and don't look back.
2006-11-17 22:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by crx81 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋