My "boyfriend" told me he wants to change our "title" to "seeing each other". I have my own definition, but I need some advice. He basically explained that he wants to lower the expectations in such a way that we won't get mad at each other for anything because the expections we do have will be met. He still wants to be all affectionate and isn't wanting us to be "seeing other people." What is all comes down to for him is that he doesn't want me to get upset with him for things a boyfriend might do- like say he's going to come over and then not even call. (this has happened, and he said that he had fallen asleep. I'm 99% sure that that's really what happened). To me, I think this seems like he wants to be able to have me around if/when he wants me, but for me not to get mad if I can't have him around when I want him. Like he wants to be with me, and for me to be there for him, but he doesn't want to have to be there for me. I don't know... Can anyone explain this to me?
2006-11-17 21:58:08 · 16 answers · asked by nicisprite 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not the smothering type like one person above me said.
Your boyfriend sounds like he's trying to have his cake and eat it too. You nailed it when you said: "To me, I think this seems like he wants to be able to have me around if/when he wants me, but for me not to get mad if I can't have him around when I want him. Like he wants to be with me, and for me to be there for him, but he doesn't want to have to be there for me."
I knew a guy who was sleeping with this girl for a year and a half and he refused to call her his girlfriend..he just told people they're "seeing each other." This generally means a non-exclusive relationship, and while he was sleeping with her, he was also seeing other girls and possibly sleeping with them too.
Tell him you're not looking to take a step backward and that if he wants space that badly then he can have all the space he wants because you're leaving him. He doesn't want to be committed to you? Then he shouldn't get sex or anything else from you. Don't get used.
2006-11-17 22:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by monkey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seeing Each Other Meaning
2016-11-12 21:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by jodie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be onto something. Bottom line is that he is not ready for the commitment that being a boyfriend entails. He'd like a bit of breathing room, and perhaps, also to be free to play the field. Even though he doesn't want you both to "see other people" now, this will probably help pave the way if he decides to go there. He also may be suffering from "grass-is-greener" syndrome. Meaning, that he wants to make sure he is not "missing out" on anything. Just looks like he is not ready to be the bf that you are looking for and he knows it.
2006-11-17 22:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by tcom1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seeing Each Other Definition
2017-01-04 10:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he doesnt want to be locked down for any reason. Because (Just seeing each other) is a start to a relationship or just a sex buddy. so you better watch out about falling for this guy because he might be on a virge of seeing some other girl, or girls.
2006-11-17 22:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by KEN DOG 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just general dating with only each other...that's what it means to me.
2006-11-17 22:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by @ubreY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Means loving each other.
2006-11-17 22:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by Roja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This to me is such cop out. Its the perfect thing for a guy to say in order to get what he wants with out you having a right to get mad or upset. If this were me, which it was, end it. You deserve someone who wants what you want.Don t settle.
2015-03-08 22:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by ellie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be two reasons, first your boyfriend seems to be in total control, you feel as if you couldn't breathe without him near, he knows this an it a mind control thing, or he feels that he has you right where he wants you and your not going anywhere..playtime?
2006-11-17 22:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by xkorn510 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of a casual relationship, you have moved up a notch.
2016-03-17 07:31:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋