ok . well my boyfriend who i live with has been asked to go out for his friends birthday on a night out in a different city and stay over. my problem is i dont really want him to go. His 2 friedns who he goes out with her both single and iam scared what he will get up to - his 2 friends are always really nice to me but really are a pair of dogs and i just dont no what there like when i am not around - am i being really stupid - its starting to play on my mind thinking things and i dont want to tellmy boyfriend this coz he will just say i am being stupid.....any advice
2006-11-17 21:27:17 · 21 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you can't keep your boyfriend in a cage... can you? A couple those old buddies went taking out and you're worried there up to no good. Well that part you are probably right about. But maybe they just want to go out and go drinking or telling old stories. Guys like that. You might want to stick him with that line "be good don't get in any trouble"
If you're living with him you must trust him to some point. If you start getting paranoid and jealous of things that haven't happened those will eat it you. You have to say he hasn't done anything wrong, you haven't caught him doing anything wrong so don't invent things.
When he's away make sure you have things to keep you busy. Stay with friends, invite over male dancer... whatever do is keep yourself occupied and don't be calling them on a cell phone every five minutes (that were really pissing off).
It's okay to worry but to no really worried about something that has not happened is not good
Mark
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2006-11-17 21:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by GirlsTellAll.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are like dogs, If they are away and have the chance they may screw. Think about it this way most likely they will play the role go out and nothing will happen. Like Lions hunting very few attempts result in a kill. Let's say you go out that same weekend and you are at a bar, 3 guys from another place are acting the role. What chance is it that you will jump in the sack with these guys considering you will never see them again. You are his girlfriend how many times does he score even with you there naked and available. Don't worry they do not have high success rates.
2006-11-18 05:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you should let him go, after all you dont want him to see you as a jealous clingy girlfriend do you? I'm insecure myself and wouldnt be happy letting him go but if you dont trust him, the relationship isnt going to go anywhere, quite the opposite it will go downhill! Tell him that you will miss him when you go and how much he means to you, maybe you should even let him know that you are worried but assure him that you trust him enough and know that he would never cheat on you. That way, he will think twice before doing anything (its the guilt lol) and also, he will know how much he means to you and how much you mean to him. Dont worry, he's with you for a reason becuase he wants to be and just because his friends may be dogs dosnt mean he is. Maybe you should invite some of your girlfriends round and have a girly night it.
gd luk hunni
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2006-11-18 05:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Geri i think you need to trust your boyfriend more because with out trust a relationship will not work. I understand your worries however if he really loves you then there should be no problem with him going with his mates and enjoying himself with doing anything stupid. The other problem you may have is if you tell your boyfriend you would not like him to go he may then feel you don't trust him which could cause problems
2006-11-18 10:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by Linda D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be normal to think like this in this situation. The best thing you can do is just try and relax about it. Because you and he love each other. I mean he hasn't done any thing to doubt your love for each other has he? I mean just because he hangs with 2 friends who you say are "a pair of dogs" doesn't mean he is one and I thought you would know each other really well now if he was. So just to relax ok.
2006-11-18 06:14:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hun first of all i just want to say that many people are just gonna say 'oh you have to trust your boyfriend' etc etc ... yes trust is one of the main things you need in a relationship to make it work amongst other important factors such as honesty. i perosnally understand how you feel. it's not that you don't trust him but you just have those little thoughts 'but what if...'
i know with my boyfriend i trust him but i guess it's the alcohol and other girls around him that i wouldn't trust...
i know you're saying you don't want to talk to him about it but if you don't tell him you feel a little uncomfortable about it you may regret it later .... maybe come to a compromise such as he will call you at particular time while he is away....
another idea could be if you can ask to go along aswell ... you're his girlfriend and surely he wouldn't mind having you there...
if you can't go then maybe just plan a night out yourself with your girls and have a good time just to take your mind of it!
if he love you he won't stray but i hope it works out hun and don't worry we all go through thinkin the same thing at some point!
2006-11-18 07:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen Mrs I know where you are coming from but you can't chain him down. Look why don't you go out with some of your mates, any of them that are a bit wild?
Tell him you are going out too with these mates and are looking forward to a girly night out as you haven't been wild and free for a while. Let him get it in to his head and he may start worrying too and may be a good boy. He'll be so concerned with what you're doing he won't look at any one else. Ha Ha!!
2006-11-18 05:46:29 · answer #7 · answered by currynut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Test each others relationship you coward see if you can trust him and lets see if he can go a night without sleepin on u. Dont be a pussycat if he doesnt love you its meant to be.Dont show him your weakness into not trusting him have confidence in who u are and your relationship you stupid girl. You can find out alot about who u date by just seeing who he hangs out with.haha good lucky on a night alone!!!
2006-11-18 05:32:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should let him go and trust him. this is what a relationship needs, SPACE! judging that you guys live together, a part of him probably wants to hang out with his mates and catch up with GUYS STUFF...it doesnt really matter if things get a little wild, he'll really appreciate your understanding! and if doesnt go well this time, you can always GROUND him lol...
dont worry too much, remind yourself how much he loves you! thats why you guys got together in the first place right? cheers!
2006-11-18 05:33:49 · answer #9 · answered by lorivs89 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to trust him. If he really loves you he's not going to be tempted by anyone else. Give him the chance to prove this to you and let him go. If he does cheat on you you're better off knowing that he's that kind of person and you wouldn't want to be with him anyway.
2006-11-18 05:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋