Guys,girls,men and women HELP MEEEEEEEE?

Question

I think I'm turning gay,I'm not sure but when I masturbate I...Imagine myself sucking a **** and ****ed.......and I don't want to be gay I'd rather kill myself.
I wasn't born gay,I've always loved girls and I still but I don't know what's happening to me lately

plz tell me how to get rid of this thought and HOW TO UNGAY MYSELF??????

Answer 1

I strongly suggest that you not find your answer HERE. Much of the advice offered is so off the wall that it defies logic. There are plenty of web sites and books out there if you wish to investigate further without some of the foolishness you'll find on message boards.

You may be a young man in his teens, and what you may be experiencing is envy of older guys and their physical maturity, projecting yourself on to them. Thats human nature if thats the case. In time that would pass.

If however you are gay or bisexual you can not "ungay" or not think of it. Gay does not turn on and off like a light switch, its part of who you are (whether you like it or not).

An analogy would be, what if you were attracted to red heads, the thought of them aroused you. That part of you that finds them attractive can not be turned off. You can't consciously not think of red heads. You could however tell yourself that you will never date a red head, and suppress that desire, but you would still always be attracted to them.

Despite what a couple have said above, you can not be persuaded to be gay. No amount of tv, movies, magazines, porn will make you desire something you never desired before. Remember most gay people grew up with straight families and in straight world that reinforces heterosexuality at every turn, yet they are gay.

Gay doesn't mean you find the other gender unattractive, only that you desire intimacy and contact with the same as your own. Bisexual indicates you desire both.

Give yourself time, this may just be you building something up in your head way out of proportion. In a year you will have moved on and never have a fantasy like that again. If however you find that you are still having these feelings in a year or two, then its time to revisit the question and how you want to handle it. If it turns out you are gay, then you can live with it. Saying "you'd rather die" is a bit dramatic, but seriously you should embrace your life no matter what it has in store for you.

Answer 2

This is a subject that there will be many answers to, lots of comments, some good some bad, but everyone will have an opinion. IF you are TRULY having this problem, and not just playing games, I sympathize with you. But the truth is, you either ARE Gay, or you ARE NOT. People don't "Turn" gay. If that were the case, then, every Male that has ever been on "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy" would have been turned already do to the OVERWHELMING Gayness of that show. (and speaking AS a Gay man, even I CAN'T STAND THAT SHOW!)
Sometimes these thoughts creep into our heads, curiosity is part of human nature, but, don't let it freak you out. You KNOW who you are, you said it yourself in your question. Take a deep breath, relax, try not to worry. Sometimes we freak ourselves out for no reason. There are WORSE things in the world. Believe it or not.

Answer 3

There is a whole lot of homosexual advertising going around telling us that being gay is okay. It inundates our society. So it is not unusual that more men are having these fantasies. It is forbidden fruit. There is always something compelling about anything that is forbidden. We are drawn like flies to the flame. That being so, it doesn't make a person with that fantasy gay. There is quite a chasm between fantasy and actually doing. In weak moments the fantasy, but in saner moments, should the occasion arise, a real tryst would be repugnant and gross. The danger of the fantasy, of course, is that in the right situation, one could slip and fall into it. The biggest sex organ in a man is his mind. Believe it or not, you are captain of your own thoughts. It is in your power. That is where the battle line must be drawn. Fight against those thoughts and fantasies. It will not be easy but keep fighting. Victory is not lost by failure, it is gained by not giving up. And keep in mind this saying: You can't stop the birds from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building a nest in your hair. The gay advertising will not stop. A thought that enters your head is a bird flying over your head. If you dwell on it, then you are building a nest. A lot of thoughts come into our minds. No guilt there. Just dismiss the bad thoughts. Easier said than done, but it is possible. No matter how many times you fail in this, keep going. Eventually the hold of this temptation will weaken.

Answer 4

ok, first, being gay is nothing to kill yourself over. God forgives everyone, but not those who take thier own lives.

maybe the reason you imagine yourself doing these things when you are pleasuring yourself is because that is what you want to have done to you. maybe you sub-conciencly want to recieve oral sex, so your mind percieves it. try looking at females in magazines or on tv to deter your mind from thinking of being with a male.

you're probably not "turning gay" unless you look at a man and find him sexually attractive. maybe you are just a bit curious because homosexuality is so open these days and it's not in the closet anymore, so you might wonder secretly what makes people feel attracted to members of the same sex.

Answer 5

luk this is all hormonal and u cant help being a gay ifu r destined to be one. u cud be attracted to both the genders and that is also not unknown. u shud try and be happy and stop being sad, this gonna get u nowhere. so chill out for a while and follow ur urges for somtime, discuss with close friends.
hving said this i must say, dreaming such stuffs doesnt make u a gay, if u r jugding by this only then u r wrong, giv somtime. nothing to worry.

if u find out u r indeed a gay, dont lose ur self esteem, if u dont wanna be one u can always go for a sex change.
just chill out

Answer 6

I have a young friend who is very knowable in these things, He was studding to be a sex therapist.( I am a counselor in another category) He told this one Lady who is a Nurse-Therapist who asked this question that for some odd reason when people use masturbation they often use a fantasy that is sicking to them, things they would never do in real life.That way deep in your subconscious you aren't really attracted to doing these awful things.We were having a home study group.

Answer 7

Theres No such thing as "UNGAYING YOURSELF".You possibally might be Bisexual.But while on the subject,The same thing happend to me.I Did all the stuff you did,and then later I discovered I was Bisexual.So.....You just might have to deal with it.Its nothing bad.If your bi,Just accept the fact.I mean,its nothing bad.And no one has to know,but you.

Answer 8

ungay yourself? If you are no longer into women then you are gay. What you are doing is perfectly normal. We all go to a place that we think that society wouldn't approve of. We have hidden desires that we don't admit. We don't always act on them but they are there. You are curious and very sexual. You don't have to act on it to be turned on by it. I am not a lesbian but lesbian porn sometimes inspires me.It is perfectly normal.

Answer 9

there is so much influence out there now on television to recruit people....get a really sweet girl and get involved with her and pray to keep you out of this lifestyle...because you obviously don't want to get into it...people have things cross their minds all the time, ....what if you were fantasizing to hurt your neighbor? Sorry for the comparrison, but lets say you did, would you act on it because someone told you your inner self was telling you to do it? and it is a sin also...pray on it and don't let Satan win this war

Answer 10

If you keep on thinking about it, then maybe your bi-sexual. It might be curiousity, just hang out with a gay man and if he repulses you then you were just curious and if he turns you on, your bi.