ok . well my boyfriend who i live with has been asked to go out for his friends birthday on a night out in a different city and stay over. my problem is i dont really want him to go. His 2 friedns who he goes out with her both single and iam scared what he will get up to - his 2 friends are always really nice to me but really are a pair of dogs and i just dont no what there like when i am not around - am i being really stupid - its starting to play on my mind thinking things and i dont want to tellmy boyfriend this coz he will just say i am being stupid.....any advice
2006-11-17 21:11:43 · 21 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are in a boat that has many oars. You may be damned if you do and Damned if you don't. If you don't trust his friends then you better tell him that he has you to think about now and it was you he thought about for so long- while you first dated. And he was the first one you thought about when you when anywhere. I may suggest that you put it plain to him that you don't feel happy about a broken heart if you are that strong in your relationship. He should respect your questioning his decision that you are really uncomfortable about him going. But you can't smother him either you have to hope that he is mature enough to make the right decisions. Those of us who love have to make those decisions all the time. Besides your not Married yet, and in life there are always risks. If he comes back to you and holds you until you hurt you might just feel a little foolish Right! Good luck to both of you and I hope that you get over your Jealousy soon, because us guys have to you know. To worry is fine to fret is obsession.
2006-11-17 21:38:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry, call him once a day and keep track.
Give him some space to be with friends and at the same time tell him what he shouldnt do.
Before u let him go with friends, tell him things u dont like him to do when he is away and tell him you trust him a lot and expect the same from him. Tell his friends to take care of him although they are dogs but just say it at least they know you are really concerned.
Guys wont like girls controlling too much so take it slow.
2006-11-18 05:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anne H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the key! U hav to trust him to continue ur relationship. Sad to say that u didn trust him. U better start trustion him or u guys will get separated. As 4 da party, i think u should go 4 it. bring somemore friends. gals of cause.
2006-11-18 05:18:11 · answer #3 · answered by veether 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is the big issue here,say your ok with him going because you fancy an overnight stay in blackpool with a few friends the same night,that way you will be enjoying a night out and not pining for him, see how he likes that, good luck
2006-11-18 05:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust him?......If the answers yes I think you should stop worrying and let him go! Set up a girls night the same night!!
If you have trust issues with him then communicate your feelings with him and suggest you tag along if he really wants to go!!
2006-11-18 05:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tricky one, but at the end of the day you either trust your man or you don't, and in my opinion if there is no trust there is no relationship. PS i am sure all will work out fine all the best :)
2006-11-18 05:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by Dj' s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it, but if you don't trust him, you shouldn't be with him. Hope he has a good time. Why don't you arrange a night out with your friends the same night?
2006-11-18 05:14:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess trust flew out the window. If you tell him you don't want him to go, then he will know you don't trust him, if you love him, then you need to trust him until he proves that he can't be trusted. Don't judge him by how his friends act.
2006-11-18 05:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust him you have a serious issue because an STD could ruin your life. You need to decide if he's worth the risk.
2006-11-18 05:16:09 · answer #9 · answered by Ian69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust him and be brave to let him go with his friends so you can see how he is when is back befor you get to deep. TRUST is the key to any relationship.
2006-11-18 05:22:16 · answer #10 · answered by slowyloo7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋