how can i stay positive?

Question

i think i am getting depressed i have money worries, relationship worries still in love with someone and they have effectively broke up with me cos its long distance and no my dad has gone into hospital and it looks like dementia which is the last thing i need, and i am drinking and smoking too much to deal with the prressure about 5 pints a day should i go and see my dr i dont like the thought of being on antidepressants

Answer 1

every rainy day is a phase that passes. every moment lost never regained, but remember this, every day is the 1st day of the rest of ur life. while other relationships may end know that there r more that will be created.

don't drown ur sorrows, make memory whilst u still can n show some serenity that u can 'accept the things u cant change' and 'change those u can.'

show some backbone.

Answer 2

Everyone has a point where pressure of life gets too much and there seems no end to problems. The first thing is to remember that everyday is a new day and u must set goals no matter how small to achieve each day. Get your hands on some tapes from Tony Robbins and listen to them . Also see if u can aquire a relaxation tape and teach yourself to be calm. All these things take time but u must start somewhere. Do not loose faith in yourself as u will come through this a better person.

Answer 3

Sorry to hear of your worrys,you need to try and deal with each issue you have and make it right. Money worrys can be daunting, have you thought of seeking advice from a debt company? cccs is good and they dont have any hidden charges because its a government run business,there web site address is www.cccs.co.uk,telephone no:0845 272 5400. Your relationship would and could wok if you solve other problems that will make you feel better and sort out some arrangements so its not so long distance if you can. Dementia isnt that bad,just remember that its still your dad and despite being forgetful from times he will always love you,give your support the best way you can. See a doctor if this makes you feel better but only you can make some of your problems go away... Good luck and keep off the beer and fags,yes it helps with the problems short term but not long term....

Answer 4

There is no life without worries and troubles.
Everyone is faced with many problems in life. They might be normal people walking on street but you never know wats behind that person. But life still goes on for us to make it better everyday.
Try to focus on what you have to do. Work hard to improve your condition. Alcohol and smoking wont help you solve anything but only take you away from it.

When you decide to face it one thing at a time, trust me you would feel way better than you do than trying to forget it.

Focus on your job, set ur priorities and get on it right away dont let worries bring you down all the time. If thats the case i woould not be here writing to you. Be strong and do what you need to do one thing at a time. Dont see everything as a whole and burden yourself.
Hope I was able to help, good luck.

Answer 5

Firstly, try to cut down on the drinking and smoking. This is essential. You will also save needed money if you cut down smoking/drinking.
Make sure you are eating well....fresh veg, fruit, meat and fish and no junk food. Get enough sleep. There are natural ways to cure depression and if you hate medication you owe it to yourself to try these first.
As for being positive, that is the age-old question of looking at life and seeing the glass of wine (oops!) as half-full or half-empty. Tell yourself it is HALF FULL!!!
You need to reassure yourself that someone is looking out for you, whether God, or a dead relative watching over you, or just simply The Cosmos.
Another thing that comforts me is a line from an old song: "The darkest hour comes just before dawn"....i.e. just as things look their blackest, they will start to get better.
You can train yourself to be more positive, and say "I will survive this, no matter what."
Do anything that will bring you comfort, whether it is walking in a beautiful park, going into a church and sitting there quietly or listening to music.....tell yourself you will survive this time and things can only get better.

If things truly get too much for you, then do see your doctor and ask for a MILD anti-depressive, just to take the edge off things.
All your friends here at Yahoo will be rooting for you, and remember to cut down on the booze, as it only makes things worse.
Good luck to you,
Best Wishes,
Simon2

Answer 6

Hi!!Everybody have some times money problems, even sentimental problems, but remember that the true love can always diminuate the distances. The are also the health problems that are present in our life, but in life there's always an equilibrium, which means, "Don't worry, be yourself and you'll see that someday the sun will shine on your street too!!"WIsh you all the best!!!

Answer 7

you cant go on like this, go see the doc and tell him all and also point out to him your concern about anti-depressents and he may be able to go you a mild type so not so addictive etc

We all go through some type of depression in our lives some worse than others in time you will get better and feel better and be happy and worry free again- time is a great healer and i know its hard what with your dad etc but you must allways put number one first YOURSELF take care & good luck

Answer 8

im really sorry for you. som ppl are bestowed with sad thngs, u knw wy?? because they have this enormous power to withstand odds. i think u r just fantastic with the courage and stength to bear bleak thngs in life.
as far as being depressed is concerned, its natural, how can one expect optimism frm a person who has been going thru this!!!
having said this, i must say u shud increase ur self esteem a bit. if somone dumps u its his problem, he doesnt knw wat he is losing!! i wud advise u not to go into serious relationships at prsent, this will make u relaxed. watever work u do, do it more lovingly. like if u are to visit ur dad be prepared for it, try n be happy in sadness, give all love and care to ur dad.
enjoy ur work and one day in a week, buy for urself, just do the thngs u love doing.......do anythng on earth.

i personally dont feel the need to visit a doctor, instead keep good company and enjoy ur sadness.
all the best

Answer 9

First go to see doc for a prescription for smoking patches,they will help keep your mind
occupied.Tell him you'd rather not go on anti
depressants.He will tell you of a group or groups you can go to,many surgery's have these.You'll meet people you may or may not know but i guarantee you will meet nice people.
Also stopping smoking helps stop drinking a major bringer of depression.
Good luck to you and your father.

Answer 10

yes better if you go to dr. thats help your body but not your mind. what i read your story, you need helps for your body and your mind. if you cant helps your self how you can thinking positif and helps another? you need to remember drinking too lot and smoking, is not good for your health. take care your self first! dont worry too much, if you worry anything you need to worry, is alot and you cant count anymore .is that right what i say? so dont worry, every body its not perfect, do it with wise and clear mind of course. I'll try to help you if you still have any question. GOD BLESS you.