My bf and i have been together for a year and a half and sometimes I can't see us lasting. There are times when i know that he's The One and yet there are times when i just can't stand him being around and I want to leave.
I don't want to leave him but soemtimes i feel as though i need to leave. Is this a normal way of feeling?
How can a guy i love make me cry my eyes out at one moment and yet be so sweet at other times?
I just feel really down at the moment and kind of like his love isn't worth the fact that i stick around and put up with so much. I know that he has to put up with my moods and it's a two way street, but i don't think i can handle it anymore. Does this sound just like a phase in the relationship or is he really bad for my health?
He doesn't abuse me or anything like that. I'm just not sure if I can take much more of.....anything.
2006-11-17 18:30:52 · 12 answers · asked by Nicky 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i just re-read my question and I know I sound crazy but I'm pretty upset at the moment. So i am really sorry guys.
2006-11-17 18:31:46 · update #1
When you are in such a state of confusion it is best not to make any permenant decisions .So where to start the answer is from within what I mean by that is you really need to look at why you first thought that he was for you was it because you needed someone to suport you emotionally or because your friends were all in relationships if so these are not a good reason for a relationship.After the first year or so you start to really get to know the person you partnered up with and that can then become stormy as I call it .He doesnt sound like such a bad guy because as you say he doesnt physically harm you but still that is not reason enough to stay together you need to go back to basics that is sit down think of what you want in a man in general then add trusting loyalty faithfullness being able to communicate well together sharing most things not wanting too much independence and caring .Then look at your list see how your man stacks up against your list it should be at least 80% of what you have written and what I have added if this is not the case then you have 2 choices either talk to him and see if he is willing to change or leave him. You just cant expect him to change he wont unless he wants to and of course that goes for you too maybe there is something about you that annoy's him so do all this please when you are relaxed and have some quiet time to yourself .Relationships should be more enjoyable than upsetting .Have a nice day precious SMILE and know that I care and so do others best of luck john.
2006-11-17 19:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i can't tell you what to do... but i do understand you feelings...
it seems like you might be feeling pushed too far. can you work things out with him? is couples therapy an option for you? that could help a lot.
as for staying with him, it all depends... only you can figure it out. me and my now husband went few some rough patches before we got married (7 years we have been together). i felt similar a few times. once we took a break where we didn't see other people. it was instigated by me... and i only needed 4 days to realize that he was worth it all.
on the other hand, i have had friends who have had boyfriends that just weren't worth it for them. these guys were great for that time in their lives, but they weren't marriage material. they were better off without the guys.
so, give it some deep thought & really weigh out what the relationship really means to you.
2006-11-18 02:33:26 · answer #2 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This relationship doesn't sound very healthy. It sounds like you two are co-dependant. Go to the library and look into some books on co-dependancy. Read and see if it applies to your situation. It sounds like you keep wishing and hoping things will change. You can't make him change, and he can only change if deep down he really wants to.
A really good one is
Women who love to much by Robin Norwood
2006-11-18 02:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOVE goes up+ down 4 some. AND some are just Playing games.Your heart will tell you if they are playing games.
2006-11-18 02:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you need some space...you seem to not want to be in that relationship anymore. trust me telling him you need space works. just get a hold of him when you are ready to be in a relationship again.
2006-11-18 02:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by Karli P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him u said a two way street so its both of u .You said u are moody i dont know hard thing to say talk to him .wish u luck
2006-11-18 02:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by dhuhn2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats what relationships are all about.GOOD LUCK Trust you probably really love him thats why you are even asking this question.
2006-11-18 02:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by Lexy320 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you feel is pretty normal stuff in any relationship.
2006-11-18 02:35:10 · answer #8 · answered by lonely_searching_preet(i) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me that you are no longer happy, get out of that relationship, its time to find yourself
2006-11-18 02:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick his *** to the curve and get someone new
2006-11-18 02:34:59 · answer #10 · answered by scooter 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋