This is a big problem, because we haven't done anything real except drink and have sex. But now she's getting kind of weird with me. So when I had class with her after having sex a second time she runs up to be and hugs me pretty adoringly, this kinda creeped me out.
I've like never even talked to her before hooking up either, I thought it was just some casual sex, because it occurred under casual circumstances. I would think she would think the same, but no. I have to tell her off, but it's really awkward because she's in my class in all and I don't want to cause drama. I'm thinking of just being indifferent to her and just riding this out until finals are over.
2006-11-17 18:21:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the line "hugs be" should be read "hugs me"
2006-11-17 18:25:43 · update #1
Whenever I see a girl cry it shreds me apart inside, I thought it would be fine, I didn't know she was in my class, I thought I would most likely never see her again unless it was parties. I was freaked out when I found her in my class.
2006-11-17 18:29:24 · update #2
Every time we had sex was under the influence of alcohol at parties. She would initiate the sex every time, how the hell could I resist?
2006-11-17 18:46:20 · update #3
Why can't girls understand that it takes alot for guys to really like girls, but they will have sex rather easily.
Why does it seem for a girl to have sex with you, she has to really like you?
2006-11-17 19:02:32 · update #4
well you obviously led her on. sex is never casual for a woman... duh! we have all these emotions that get all tied up in everything whether we like it or not! so, you need to talk to her about it nicely. explain how you thought it was casual & weren't looking for a relationship. you can't tell her off!!!! that is so mean!
but what would happen if you gave her a chance? get to know her? you might just find out she is really cool? if no, then you should never have slept with her! never sleep with a girl you don't remotely like because you never know if you might accidentally impregnate her through failed contraception and end up attached to her for life not only through your wallet but a child... (unless you are a girl... and you have a relationship with a girl... )
2006-11-17 18:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol. this poor guy. I feel you except you didn't have to phrase your question like a chauvinistic sociopath. Even if you have no interest in her, you can still be nice to her and let her down while still being a gentleman. I THINK you are in college and hitting it and then being an indifferent dick about it is really H.S.. So you obviously let your little man get you into some trouble, but be a big man and deal with it like one; and next time, look for a worthwhile one and you won't have this problem.
2006-11-17 18:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's good enough to bang, but not good enough for you to date? It's harder for women to disassociate sex from relationship. So maybe she's received some signals from you that you didn't intend to give off? You need to do the right thing, either set down with her and tell her you aren't interested in a relationship, or just be nice to her in class and don't pursue any more "hookups" Or try and actually get to know her as a person... there's a thought.
2006-11-17 18:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by dantheman_028 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is what u say."hey i think ur the sweetest thing ever, and the last couple of times were great. your such a sweet girl. but im not really looking for a girlfriend right now. i would love to hang out with u sometime. but as friends. and then shell say...did i do something wrong. and then u say no not at all, i just have some major things going on right now, and i dont have the time it takes to give u what u the attention you need. im sorry...there ya go. shell cry but its oks shell live
2006-11-17 18:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by Molly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh get real, you had sex with her more than twice and don't think she should have any feelings for you? It creeped you out because she hugged you, OMG, you are such a selfish pig. Just do her a favor and tell her so she can start moving on, you self centered insensitive, oh!
2006-11-17 18:41:43 · answer #5 · answered by LuvFlwr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, come on now. Aren't you old enough to know that women don't see sex casually as most men do? If you want to be a real man, tell her GENTLY that you aren't looking for a relationship right now.
Oh yeah, and you're a pig.
2006-11-17 18:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by yumyum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some females get attached to a man after sex, but then again she played herself for havin g casual sex with you all willy nilly like that anyways. Just be upfront and tell her that you dont like her like that and want to remain friends cause you dont want to ruin the relationship that ya'll have . Dont be rude or harsh cause shes half way attached .
2006-11-17 18:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time to lay it out to her. Women think of sex a lot differently than men. Especially if it's not made clear from the beginning. Intimacy creates feelings of love for women, were in men it often fulfills a momentary need. Don't let her go on, just tell her. Nothing's free remember, if you don't tell her and continue to sleep with her, it's just going to get worse for you.
2006-11-17 18:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by Heather M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your paying for it or its agreed before hand, there is no such thing as casual sex with a female. You need to watch the movie Fatal Attraction.
2006-11-17 18:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what does sharing a class with her have to do with telling her off? don't break her heart. she probably really has feelings for you. obviously you don't feel the same way though. tell her it was supposed to be a casual hookup.
2006-11-17 18:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋