Looking for the same things I am, a permanent partner. The guy I'm so in love with has constantly ignored my questions of how he really feels about me. We tried to break things off because we aren't going anywhere and about a half hour after I said what I had to say we ended up sleeping together. We have since totally ignored the problem and when it came up again he shrugged it off as no big deal and came up with some quick easy thing to say that still didn't help the situation so now I'm ready to get out if I can't have him the way I want him. He says he's not seeing anyone else and I believe him so that's not even apart of the question, it's just the full committment that I'm looking for. This new guy really wants me to be his girlfriend and wants a real relationship and I can't give him that until I find out if things are trully over for me and the 1st guy or is he going to step up and give me what I want. So the ? is, How should I get the 1st guy to come clean?
2006-11-17 18:18:30 · 10 answers · asked by Mrs. EV 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh and should I just tell the 2nd guy I just wnat to date for a while or should I jump right in? I've omly beem seeing him for about a month and I'm not sure if I'm using him as a rebound or if I really do like him, but I don't want to hurt him at all.
2006-11-17 18:21:40 · update #1
How exactly does this make me mentally unstable? I don't think following someone elses foot steps makes me quite mentally stable, do you?
2006-11-17 18:43:48 · update #2
dont be so push and selfish, the man does not want to commit yet,
but then again you feel that you are going nowhere you love him but then you are not happy with that kind of situation, so i suggest move on to the other guy,test the waters see if you can be happy with him,you and the first guy you seem to be going nowhere find someone who makes you happy,and someone who is complete when he is with you,no need to get stuck with the first guy set him free, and let him set you free
2006-11-17 18:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you know what they say that you will appreciate someone after you lose them?I think you are very confused about your feelings.Are you sure that you want a commitment now?If you really love your first guy so much you shouldn't even think about seeing the second one.You are hurting both guys now.I think your first guy has a very big influence on you.I don't think you actually love him!If you do, i think the best thing to do is to write him a letter.Nothing is harder than confessing your true feelings so this is why you should write them.At the end of the letter ask him to write you back.Don' t sit next to him whilst he is reading it.If you don' like the answer that he is giving you i think you should find SOMEONE to love and love YOU back, not just someone that can get you out of a bad relationship1!GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-17 18:45:47 · answer #2 · answered by catallyna_06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you lose the first guy (the love of your life as you call him), it will be the loss of your life.
Giving space in relations is something you need to learn. Read the book men are from mars, women are from venus if you have not done that already.
You do not really need another man. So, resume sleeping with the love of your life, but do not appear like you (only) need him or he (only) needs you. Make it as natural as it was when you two were together earlier.
He is not aware about the true scale and intensity of what is going on in your mind, believe me. And so he shrugs it off. Believe me, you should NOT make him aware of that scale and intensity by forcing him to reply on what he feels about you. What do you mean what he feels about you! - he is already willing to commit to you and thinks this is a stupid question!!!
Also gift him a copy of the above mentioned book besides reading it yourself ;-)
2006-11-17 18:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by lonely_searching_preet(i) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be good bargainer at stores but one should never do that in real life.Your not stable mentally, so go to your parents or any elderly person if you don't have one for advice.They would be able to guide you through.If you dont have good moral life then you're a mentally unstable person and should start following one in life at least from now onwards.
2006-11-17 18:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by D.R.M.M's Fairplay's Man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me the 1st guy doesn't love you. Just wants sex from you. Give the 2nd guy a chance and go out with him.
2006-11-17 18:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with him about your second guy..tell him that you love him but you cant wait forever..some guys dont know how to be committed and it takes a blow to get them to realize whats at stake..if #1 realizes that he could truely lose you, maybe then he'll come out and express his feeling to you..if not, then maybe he's not worth the time any longer..good luck..
2006-11-17 18:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by Nikkib 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just simply ask him...but you need to be prepared to move on if need be. Don't sleep with the first guy again either. Sex can cloud your judgement.
2006-11-17 18:27:31 · answer #7 · answered by Asaph23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the sleeping together thing doesnt mean much. A stiff wind can turn a man on, it just means you were there!
2006-11-17 18:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by bacchus_blue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him jealous see wat he do. if he really love u he himself will come up to u. but it is important to make him jealous wizout convincing him that u r really going out wiw some1 else. hag out wiz a boy but dont let him feel that u r going out wiz that boy. if he love u he will come try it.
2006-11-17 18:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-17 18:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by Shy Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋