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There is this guy that I am friends with, we have been friends for a few months. We hang out every now and then, and one time we even kissed. We are friends through our work, a lot of us there are friends. Not long after we kissed, he started dating this girl we work with, who, although she is pretty, is kind of a ditz and not very nice to people. Recently he stopped seeing her, and the other night, eating dinner with my family, I saw him in the restaurant with another girl I know who is even DUMBER than the girl he was seeing before! Again, she is pretty, but a total bimbo. Now, I happen to be very intelligent, and this guy is always teasing me about being intellectual or educated. He also tells me that he thinks I am attractive, and has even told me that I "turn him on". He's also very flirty and touchy-feely with me. I know he's attracted to me, and he continues to date attractive yet stupid girls, should I assume the reason he is not dating me is that he prefers bimbos?

2006-11-17 18:05:42 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

26 answers

its all good.........

2006-11-17 18:06:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

Sounds to me like he is playing the field. Some guys like to rescue women. Some are attracted to the victim type. They are the ones that want control and end up being abusers. You may be the gal that has the demeanor that shouts out that you will not be controlled. Intelligent and educated women usually have a great deal of self esteem. Watch out for flirty guys that tell you that you turn them on. I'm truly sorry to tell you that I think he turned you off. You don't sound like a bimbo to me, so he is not interested. He is probably intimidated. Hope you the best in finding someone who appreciates your intelligence and self esteem.

2006-11-17 18:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by DeeJay 7 · 1 0

Did you ever hear the joke - A man is asked to choose a woman to go out with. He must choose from a blonde, a brunette and a redhead - which does he choose?

The one with the biggest boobs.

Part of the humour from this is that the set-up isn't about breast-size, but the punchline cashes in on a typical stereotype about men.

Now, I'm not saying that all men are superficial and/or prefer 'dumb girls'. It may be he is head-over-heel for you - but he does sound like he's intimidated but you, so he's going for the safer option. For all you know, both the girls mentioned (while not considered 'intelligent' by you) have hidden qualities you don't know about.

He might be going for the easy option, he might be just out for a good time (though not necessarily in the biblical sense), or he might be genuinely attracted to them. Then again, you might be just a little jealous that he's ignoring you. If you snooze, you lose - if you're not telling him you're interested, then what are you complaining about HIS choices for? If you aren't going to go out with him and he's not hurting you, then what does it matter who he is dating?

2006-11-17 18:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by keltarr 3 · 0 0

well not really its just because women think that if they get dumb men would love them, most women dont give men good choices, men have to adapt with women surrounding them, and so that goes the trend,if some women like the bimbo you were talking about started to value herself more then that man you are talking about will respect him and raise the standard, you see women create the standards,if women stop imitating paris hilton , jessica simpson , and nicole richie, and start acting and living an intelligent life then men need not be surrounded by bimbos, the problem is society allows bimbos, stupid women are here because society lets them , now if we could only stop that, if you can observe in music videos especially in rnb videos women become sex toys, now if only women dont allow that to happen then men would have better choices, we need not stick to bimbo women

2006-11-17 18:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0 0

Men only like attractive dumb girls for 1 thing.. you know what that is.
He is attracted to you but your intelligence and character is stronger than his and therefore he goes for the easy prey.
A mentality like his tells me that he is in his late teen to mid 20's or late 20's, many dates and a lot of bedfellows from it.
In short, he is a just playing the field right now for 1 thing.
In time he may be your catch and perfect mate but for now, until this is out of his system, all you will be, is the ultimate sexual prize, the unattainable sexual partner and every man wants a woman they cannot get!
Sorry, but thats they way it is..

2006-11-17 18:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

well I'd have to agree with you. The stupider they are the more likely they give out, or so my friends have told me. My opinion over this guys is that hes just looking for the easy ones so he wont work to hard to get into their pants. Its a wide belief that if they're stupid, but attractive, they're easy. But that's just my analysis and you should form your own opinion over the matter.

2006-11-17 18:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by Seraphiel 4 · 1 0

You are better than him, you can ignore him safely.
Guys do not prefer dumb girls generally, unless they have hidden insecurity about their own intelligence compared to the girl.

Intelligence is a big turn on - it is one of the basics in natural selection...but too intelligent a girl may give rise to insecurity (ego-wise) in the guy.

2006-11-17 18:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by lonely_searching_preet(i) 2 · 1 0

He feels intimidated by your intelligence because you are smarter than he is. He is also dating the less intelligent ones to make him feel more of a 'man'. Yeah sounds like he prefers bimbos.

2006-11-17 18:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by friendly face 4 · 3 0

no, dont assume he only likes bimbos..he may truely like you, but maybe he is a little nervous over you actually being able to keep a conversation going, where as the BIMBOS, may only give him what he wants from them..maybe hes afraid of really asking you out incase you may say no to him..

2006-11-17 18:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by Nikkib 4 · 1 0

I think this question says more about you than the guy or the women he has around him.

You seem rather judgemental, and proud of your perceived intelligence. I wonder if perhaps you are trying to compensate for your insecurity by demeaning the women whom you see with this man.

To answer the question, NO, men don't prefer stupid women. I don't anyway. I don't think most men do.

Keep looking for the man who will see YOU. And learn to communicate that. The world is full of intelligent people who have failed to share their talents, because they failed to learn to communicate, and to search and find appropriate people with whom to communicate.

2006-11-17 18:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

I seriously doubt that he is attracted to dumb girls. In as few words as possible, be very cautious, as the person you speak of is an extremely sly individual. He does not find the girls dumb, he finds them to be easy prey and he preys on the heart, not the mind.

He is much like a sly fox, in seeking out, stalking and overtaking what he perceives to be the easiest kill. He is attracted to none of them based on their intellect, he is attracted to the easy prey and the easiest kill so to speak.

You are an intellectually gifted person, but be wary and caution for you are being watched and circled and stalked by the hunting fox, as he maneuvers and observes and lures and tempts in his pursuit of conquest.

All the questions you ask, are the words of a woman seeking to find if this sly fox is interested in you. Yes he is, but he is interested in the flesh, whereas you are inquiring as to the fox's interest in your heart.

Be on your guard and be very careful and remember, you have the intellect to out fox the hunting fox.

Darryl S.

2006-11-17 18:37:25 · answer #11 · answered by Stingray 5 · 1 1

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