cheating??

Question

hi, need ur opinion. If ur guy ever cheat on u, will u be able to give another chance since he insists that he will change and will not repeat it again. How will u be able to make sure that he will never repeat it. How to cope with the relationship and get it back to normal..?

well thnks guys..for the past one year plus with him, hes always been there for me. seriously, even thought we fight, he will do his best to save our relationship. We're engaged fyi. I caught him msging other gals thru frenster..he insists that hes just makin frens thru frenster but i told him he's engaged, whats the need to make other gals as ur frens. Ignored him for a week and he came back promising that he will change and quit frenster to proof to me. I checked, indeed he quit. I love this guy so much as ive been thru so much with this guy. im confused.. :(

Answer 1

It is easy for us to say we would leave but I think that many people give the relationship a second chance.

This is an individual choice. Howver, I do not understand how once trust is broken it is possible to get it back. And, without trust, there is n o chance for a relationship to survive.

Answer 2

Quite honestly it all depends on the circumstances....how u found out he cheated on you.....did he tell you or did you find out thru someone else......if you caught him recently and he says that he will change......that could be difficult for me to trust.......but if its something you found out about that he did in the past and have a gut feeling after speaking with him that he won't do it again then I can see giving him another chance......but mostly your relationship should dictate for you whether you should trust him again.......are you comfortable with your time and space routine?........Is he giving you what you need? Been there for you when it counts.......look at your life and then decide if you want to continue with this man. Are you happy? Good luck!

Answer 3

I think it would depend on the situation...as I sit here right now...I'd tell you that I would kick his a s s to the curb...but you never know how you will really react. People tend to have an idea of what they will tolerate and what they won't but when it comes right down to it ...you never really know how you will feel or react when it really happens. My brother got cheated on by his fiance about 2 years into the relationship....it is now 5 years later and they are still together... I think it has alot to do with the fact that they have kids.
To each his own choice on that one

Answer 4

First off just move on hun..cus once a cheat always a cheat. I mean you are already asknig if you can ever trust him again ..thats a big NO.. once someone breaks your trust its hard as hell to let them back into your life. You may for give him and his actions cus you love him but you'll always wonder where he is and how he might be seeing. Is that any kinda life you want..being jealousy and insecure whenever he leaves ??

Hope I could help.

Answer 5

HI AISHA, IF YOUR B.F. CHEATED ON YOU, AND NOW HE IS SAYING HE WILL CHANGE. SWEETY DON'T HOLD YOUR BREATH TO LONG BECAUSE HE WILL DO IT AGAIN. THAT'S LIKE SLAPPING YOU IN THE FACE AND GETTING AWAY WITH IT.YOU WILL NEVER BEABLE TO MAKE SURE OF HIS CHEATING,AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL NEVER RETURN TO NORMAL.ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER. THIS SAYING IS TELLING YOU ,HE WILL NEVER CHANGE. THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO BEFORE YOU GET DEEPLY HURT AGAIN, IS KICK THE BASTARD OUT,AND TELL HIM DON'T LET THE DOOR HIT HIM IN THE A S S GOING OUT. YOU DESERVE ALOT BETTER THAN YOU ARE GETTING. FIND A NICE GUY WHO WILL TREAT YOU WITH THE RESPECT THAT YOU DERSERVE AND IS HAPPY TO BE HOME WITH YOU. A FRIEND.

CLOWMY

Answer 6

i dont think things will ever get back to normal. no matter how much you both want it to it cant ever be the same. i mean he cheated on you. i think you should forget about him as they say "once a cheater always a cheater" dont set yourself up for another broken heart. but its really your choice, if you want to try things again then do it and if you dont theres better guys out there for you that wont cheat on you. good luck with either way you go!!...

Answer 7

If you don't have a serious commitment to each other (i.e. engaged, married, etc.) then he probably WILL do it again. I know there are people who are in committed relationships that one or the other has cheated and they work it out & stay together; but I also know of marriages where they tried to work it out and the spouse just kept on lying and cheating. I'd say "Adios, sparky!"

Answer 8

Sorry to say this, he will cheat again. Tell him, if you loved me you would have never went into that territory. He will cheat again, no matter what. I have never known anyone who hasn't. Tell him to get lost, you deserve better. If you leave him and don't let him forget it, he will probably never cheat again. If after a year, he learned his lesson, maybe you could get back with him, move on, he's not worth it.

Answer 9

You will never be sure that he will not cheat on you again, there is no way of knowing. MOST men cheat ! ! ! If you know in your heart that he loves you and you truly love him and he admits he made a mistake, then forgive him and give him another chance, BUT explain to him that he will have to EARN your trust. GOOD LUCK ! ! !

Answer 10

My man KNOWS that cheating is the fastest way to lose me. There is no real relationship without trust. Be your own best friend! People will only treat you as poorly as you let them.