He hasn't cheated on me, but I recently moved and has been hanging out with girls he shouldn't be. I know he hasn't done anything but it still bothers me. I feel like I love him way more then he loves me and everything he does I just forgive him and take him back. WHY??? Why can't I just let go?
2006-11-17 17:19:16 · 20 answers · asked by Hillary W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have given him all the control, and he knows he can do what he wants and you'll forgive him. You have set a precedent. You have to change it. Let him loose. One of two things will happen, he will come back, and act right (if he REALLY cares), or he won't. If he doesn't he's trying to move on. As much as it hurts, follow his lead.
PS-I've been there, and I'm sorry you're hurting. And Colleen is bitter.
2006-11-17 17:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by T P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny you should ask. I am often thinking the same thing. I it is the natural tendency for women to love. These days guys have grown up coddled by their mothers and they don't give back from the heart because they were spoiled and never had to reciprocate. It is a very self centered approach to life. Not all guys are like that but you have to date a lot to find a good one. We tend not to let go because we are getting something else out of the relationship. There are a lot of different levelsof needs. I am in a similar relationship and it sort of moves forward but not with a lot of passion. That is his personality though. He can be somewhat lacking in heart and enthusiasm. Why do we hang in there? I think it is because there are going to be flaws in everyone, and you can't exactly figure out why you love someone. And for me I really don't like dating. I don't think this is much help other than you are not alone.
2006-11-17 17:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by brdr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you love him very much that's why !
You need to discuss this with him, but choose the right time, I mean - when he is totally with you & has his best mood - in another world not after he being with someone else coz this might make things more comlplicated, hope you understand me! you can't just keep it going & at the same time you will know if you mean anything to him.
2006-11-17 17:32:59 · answer #3 · answered by Susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first he doesn't love you because you don't respect yourself enough to lay it down to him straight and leave him. guys like him need to feel unneeded before they feel in love if that makes any sense.
Second don't be mad because you love him so much because you can't help it but make sure he knows where you stand because you have to be tough on the inside and respect yourself enough to stand up to him before he will respect you and love you back.
Plus if he hasn't done anything wrong you are just being over baring and jealous and need to relax a little or you will loose him.
2006-11-17 17:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by kate86 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GIRL YOU'RE PREACHIN TO THE CHOIR....IF THEY'RE SKANKY CHICKS THEN HE'S PROBABLY DONE SOMETHIN, BUT YA NEVER KNOW...SOMETIMES YOU JUST HAVE TO SAY IT'S NOT REALLY WORTH IT...IF HE REALLY LOVED YOU, YOU WOULD BE A PRIORITY..IF THIS EMOTIONALLY KILLIN YOU..GET OUT..YOU NEED TO PUT YOU FIRST
2006-11-17 17:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by PUNKY C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who are you to decide what types of girls he should or shouldn't be hanging out with? You're not his mother. I suggest you seek therapy for your obsession, he doesn't love you, in the immortal words of Judge Judy "Put a period and move on."
2006-11-17 17:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2014-07-16 15:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 0⤋
Most likely you are young and have not had enough of these types of relationships to be able to walk away. It gets easier as you get older.
For now, look for someone else that catchs your attention!
2006-11-17 17:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BECAUSE YOU HAVE FEELING FOR THIS GUY. SO YOU
WANT THIS TO WORK OUT BUT THE PROLBEM IS THAT
HE MAY NOT FEEL AS YOU DO. YOU CANT MAKE SOME
ONE LOVE YOU WHEN THEY DONT. THE ONLY PERSON
THAT WILL BE HURT IS YOU. TIME TO LEAVE HIM ALONG
IF YOU CANT GET WHAT YOU NEED.
2006-11-17 17:27:08 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK so you left him, how is it he is hanging out with girls he shouldn't be? I mean if you left him you openly gave him the option to do whatever he wants to, so why is it he shouldn't be hanging out with these girls? if you didn't want him to be with anyone else you shouldn't have let him go in the first place.
-NmD!
2006-11-17 17:24:20 · answer #10 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋