I dated this guy for 5 years. We broke up because I moved away for my last two years in college and I thought we were young and needed a break. Well, I dated around, didn't like any guys at all. Remained best friends with my ex this entire time. Recently (after being broken up for 2 yrs) we got back together. I know I love him. I know I want to be with him. He treats me like a queen. I couldn't ask for better. So why now that I'm not single anymore do I feel undesirable? It's not him at all, he acts very attracted to me. It's just something about being single (even though I wasn't getting guys left and right) that made me feel worth something. Even, if I were in a new relationship with another guy, I'd still feel like I was wanted. Just because I've known/been with a long time so excitement is gone? I guess I need the validation of other guys to feel like I'm worth something. Like his opinion doesn't count anymore (kinda like how you don't believe your mom when she says you're pretty).
2006-11-17 17:15:37 · 3 answers · asked by it'sjustme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IT REALLY SOUND LIKE YOU HAVE ISSUES THAT YOU NEED
TO ADDRESS ABOUT YOUR SELFESTEEM. IF YOU NEED
ANY ONE TO MAKE YOU FEEL ALIVE AND WORTH IT
THAT MAY BE THE PROBLEM. AND YOU NEED TO TALK
TO SOMEONE ABOUT THAT, YOU DONT NEED ANY ONE]
TOMAKE YOU YOU FEEL ANYTHING. YOU HAVE TO LOVE
YOUR SELF BEFORE YOU CAN LOVE ANY ONE ELSE.
AND AS FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND. HE MAY TREAT YOU
LIKE A QUEEN. BUT UNTIL YOU FEEL THAT YOU ARE
A QUEEN IT WONT MATTER. BUT TIME TO TALK TO]
HIM AS WELL IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY THEN TIME
TO BE HONEST WTH HIM AS WELL AS YOUR SELF.
GOOD LUCK.
2006-11-17 17:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you kind of point out what is the problem...its a head trip you putting yourself through. You got the fight the negative thoughts with positive thoughts. (Change "Im undesirable with my bf"with
"look how desirable I feel around my bf and no one makes me feel even more desirable than him")
2006-11-18 01:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you alone know the paths you took. You are feeling the guilt, don't you think so? Redeem yourself, be as he wants you - desirable!
2006-11-18 01:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by seeker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋