I'm 20 my girlfriend left me for a control freak i still love her after 5yrs being together what should i do

Question

I'e been Dating a woman who we will call "Faye" for about 5 years on and off, but maintained a stable relationship for 9 months. Our prevous attempts failed because "Faye" had a drug problem and my family didn't like her. But no matter what my friends or family would say, I would countinue to see her. Till one day I told her how I felt. i told her that i love her. She changed completly and got off the drugs. We were engade to be married and the relationship was perfect until a 3 months back were things started to get rocky. A month ago we broke up. and left me for a Control freak. This guy doesn't even want her to talk to her own friends, doesn't want her to smile at people, and says it okay to be on drugs as long as she does it with him. I wanna Puch the asshole in the face. I tried taking to her but the dude was monitoring the disscusion from other room. Her last B/F beat her, i dont want her to go through that again.I love "Faye" even till this day. Which cames to the topic at hand.

Answer 1

Say goodbye to Faye and move on.

This is a bad news situation and she has made her choice. It isn't you and you should feel fortunate that you didn't marry her because drugs are her passion and not you...

Answer 2

You started dating her when you were 15- and for 5 years it has been one rocky road- you are only 20----there are MANY NICE GIRLS THAT YOUR FAMILY WILL APPROVE OF OUT THERE THAT DOES NOT HAVE A DRUG PROBLEM---- she is not strong enough and probably not mature enough, to beat the drug habit ---do yourself a big favor and forget her---you have a long, long, long, life ahead which should not include trying to keep your girlfriend/wife off drugs-----just think if you married her and she got pregnant and started using drugs---this is no joke- it is a possibility with this chick----walk away.

Answer 3

after 5 years of dating she decided that there is something lacking in the relationship between the 2 of you. I know that you don't want to, but you are going to have to try & move on. Don't date right away. Do the things that you couldn't before when with her. You seem to be a nice enough guy, & you don't deserve that, but it is alot better than if she had cheated. She is in a bad way right now, but unless she wants it to change there really is nothing that you can do at the moment. It isn't going to help calling him names & wanting to hurt him, because you hurt, you will have to move on or wait to see if she comes back. Either way you are goingt ohurt. Good luck to you, & pray for her.......I know i will....

Answer 4

I'm so sorry sweetheart that you are in such a difficult situation. When people are so called "co-dependent" they tend to go back to what they knew. I had a boyfriend who did the same thing, went back to people who were like him, alcohol co-dependent, drug co-dependent. Just realize this - move away from this situation, take a break, be around friends that support and love you. You can't fight her battles for her, she has to conquer those on her on. Keep yourself busy and active.

Answer 5

Move on dude!! There is nothing much left for you there. It is your life. How much ever you like this Faye, you are 20 and the whole life is in front of you. Please stop looking at the door that has closed on you. There are many doors that are open for you. choose wisely and move on. I am sure you will get over this.
"This too shall pass"!!!!

Answer 6

There isn't much you can do it is her decision. I think you should try to maintain contact with her because I doubt it will last and eventually she will need you again. I would let her know you will always be there for her and encourage her not to do drugs especially considering her past.

Answer 7

You would make a really good slave---contact your local s/m society.