we never spend time together, hes always crabby. i just want a happier mirriage,is that possible
2006-11-17 17:02:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my husband works alot, we dont get to spend much time together. hes always crabby. my kids have a little part in that thay're always fighting. i left once for another guy i met and ended up coming back. weve been together for 7 - 8 years married almost 2 years. sometimes i cant figure out why. i thought about leaving but i have no where to go. and its hard to find someone else now that im married anyway, unlike being single where i could just leave. please help, and try to be sincere
2006-11-17 17:25:59 · update #1
our sex life sucks as well
2006-11-17 19:20:39 · update #2
Ok, on his day off try to plan something for just the 2 of you....he's crabby all the time because he's unhappy too. All he does is work and the 2 of you don't communicate or really do anything as a couple. You've just let it get stale. The answer isn't to look elsewhere...you tried that and saw that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. The answer is to turn toward your partner and renew the relationahip. With a little effort on your part and his you can start over.
2006-11-17 23:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you gotta spend time together first. You need to do things that you both like to have fun..leave the kids (if you have them)
Remember when you were dating? Try to do some of that stuff. Maybe surprise him with a romatic dinner or something. There is stuff to do, but you gotta spend time and you got to get to the bottom of his crabbiness.
If it's work he needs to learn to leave it there. Home is refuge from all the other **** in life you gotta do...so don't let that come into the hosue. Good Luck
2006-11-18 01:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by MaryJaneD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough info-- why dont you spend time together, is he working all the time? are you working all the time?, is he crabby because he isn't getting enough sleep because he is working all the time?
If the two of you have a lot of "free" time to spend with eachother and for one reason or not you or he, choose not to spend it with the other, you have a problem--------sit down and talk to him, tell him about your concerns- not us on the internet- and if you cant come to agreeable terms about your time together- you should consider a marriage counselor. Good luck
2006-11-18 01:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever hear that saying
"When Mama ain't Happy there ain't nobody Happy" ?
Just ignore his moods, if he wants to be crabby then just let him. You put a smile on your face, greet him when he comes home with a smile, and just make yourself be happy. He will soon catch on to this, and want some for himself. Let him be the way he is, just ignore it like nothing is happening, you don't even see it. And do things with other people, invite people over and make it merry there.. and ignore his rude comments or whatever. He will begin to see.
2006-11-18 01:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're doomed. He sounds like he doesn't even want to be in the house with you. How can you stand him? Why should you make it better? Don't you think you're worth someone better than a crabby bum who avoids you? Why not just end it and cut your losses?
2006-11-18 01:07:11 · answer #5 · answered by Edward DeVere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to communicate but if you don't spend time together that will be hard good luck
2006-11-18 01:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your part, show interest and desire for him. Hopefully he will begin to show the same in return.
2006-11-18 01:06:03 · answer #7 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋