What do you do if you were young, scared and crazily in love, yet never really believed all of that could come through for you, and therefore irrationally broke up with your boyfriend? You have since, hooked up and playfully flirted on email for a while, yet he continuously says, "it will never work again," and "we tried this before and it failed."There is an intense physical attraction between us that makes things more difficult. Not to mention that both of us have tried dating for two years but have yet to move on. Many parts to this story, but we'll start here for now...thoughts? advice?
2006-11-17 16:21:26 · 8 answers · asked by all_smilesnyc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Break off all contact and give it up totally. Otherwise you will be on a rollercoaster ride until something really snaps. Right now you both are just feeding into a limbo loop. I had a relationship that went 8 years like that, dating, engaged, friends, dating, engaged, friends, dating... and even when I finally said I was leaving for good, I continued to get calls and emails and even a visit to my door. I stayed firm, though, and that was that.
As it is, it took me a couple of years before I really even thought about another relationship, and it was with somebody who had been through a similar meat grinder, so much so that both of us would regularly announce that we were just friends and would never, ever date. We finally gave up on that and have been together since, 8 1/2 years.
2006-11-17 16:28:19 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is "intense physical attraction" all that you have? That's not even healthy. Move on. I suspect that this attraction is what you are calling crazily in love. Maybe you two are addicted to one another. Put him in the past. Save yourself for your husband, who is "out there" somewhere. How do you "try" dating. Either you do or you don't.
2006-11-18 00:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wanted to be with you, he'd be with you. It sounds like you both just like the others attention. You find some comfort & familiarity in knowing he'll be there in the background. All the while you are falling deeper. Move on now, before you get hurt worse!
2006-11-18 00:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by pr1ncezz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up for a reason and you need to trust that. Its over...if you guys really loved each other and were meant to be together than you would be. Its common to identify with your ex even after years of being broke up. Good luck..
2006-11-18 00:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like two years wasted for nothing to me. Stop living in the past and look to your future.
2006-11-18 00:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
could be he doesn't want to try again because you hurt him badly when you broke up the first time. since it was without reason, he probably thinks you would do it again. "first time shame on you, second time shame on me" kinda thing.
So if you want it to work, come clean, tell him why you broke up the first time, lay your soul bare. If he tells you he still isn't interested, then give up...
2006-11-18 00:26:16 · answer #6 · answered by Dawn J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go too therapy and figure out why you built that wall that won't let him in!
2006-11-18 00:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your heart gurl.
2006-11-18 00:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by shelbaby<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋