Seriously. I have a friend who loves her boyfriend of just under a year and a half. He doesn't like her. How do I know this, you ask? Well, I can just tell. The complaints she has of their relationship indicate that he just doesn't really like her that much as well as the way he acts towards her/around her. I mean, seriously, I read the book He's Just Not That Into You and let's face it, he's just not that into her.
Do I tell her? Hint at it? Or should I just let her figure it out on her own?
Also, I have no romantic interest in her at all. (I just thought I'd include that).
2006-11-17 16:08:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's up to the boyfriend to tell her not you. She probably wouldn't believe you anyway. Love sick girls need to hear it from the source to believe it.
2006-11-17 16:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by Heather M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's great that you're concerned about her. If you try telling her or even hinting, depending on her personality, she will probably think you're jealous, etc. There's not much you can do there. My only suggestion, which I admit is a little second-graderish, is to get one of her girlfriends to tell her what you think, she'll probably be more open minded that way. Good luck!
2006-11-18 00:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well answer the question yourself. wouldn't you want your friend to tell you? Or would you like to have to learn the hard way and possibly risking getting hurt more later on? Just a thought for you. Good luck
2006-11-18 00:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we just have to let people we care about make their own mistakes so they can learn from them.
After re-thinking this a bit, I have one more idea for you. Do you ever talk to him? Or would you have the opportunity to him? If so why not talk to him, in a VERY non-offensive way. Just say "She's a good friend of mine, & I know she really cares very much for you. If you don't feel the same for her, please be honest with her. Just think about how you would feel if it was your friend or sister that was in her position. I'm not saying you're a bad guy, or intentionally going to hurt my friend, I'm just asking that you be careful not to."
2006-11-18 00:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by pr1ncezz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really simple- keep your mouth closed, she wont hear what you have to say on the matter because she loves him... let her figure it out on her own and just be there for her as a friend when things really fall to ****....
2006-11-18 00:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her figure it out for herself as it is not your place unless you have positive evidence of him doing something that would be cause for her to break up with him. Just be there when she does finally figure it out. TO do anything else will just risk your friendship.
2006-11-18 00:12:35 · answer #6 · answered by auburn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh! totally tell her! She doesnt have to listen to you, but at least you did the right thing.
btw, have you ever talked to the bfriend? why would soemone be with someone for that long and not like them?
crzy!
2006-11-18 00:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by **twin** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know and be honest it would make her more upset if she found out herself. be a good guy and nicely let her know she will thank you for it in the long run. good luck
2006-11-18 00:12:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her that book, & let her figure it out for herself.
2006-11-18 00:13:13 · answer #9 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are just going to have to wait it out. be the friend they talk about who she needs to cry to. she'll get it one day. just have the ice cream ready and a few sick days from work to spare for her.
2006-11-18 00:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋