My mom doesn't let me date until i'm 26! fair?

Question

I can't believe i have 13 more years until i can date. I am 13 years old right now. My mom thinks that dating is off-limits for people under 26. Even to my friends, that seems RIDICULOUS!!! Mom's philosophy is that i'll be 26 when i finish my doctors degree. She thinks that if i start getting into boys/men too early, my education will be messed up and i will start to divert my focus of life (bs!!!). I know i have enough self control to juggle my education and the boys. maybe not right now, but certainly when i'm 15 or 16. 17? Well what do you think? Do you think i should try to convince my mom to let me date earlier? Or do you think she is right about her no-dating-until-26 rule?

Answer 1

First off your mother was more than likely over exaggerating, she wont make you wait that long. Second if she is serious reason with her because if she doesn't let you date with her knowing you'll just rebel and sneak out like most teenage girls that think they know all there is to know about the world. Tell her you think 16 is a good age and you should be able to agree. But remember your her Daughter!! If you were her son it would be another ball game being that girls can be easily talked into things by boys. Plus your only 13, what kind of date could you possibly go on that doesn't involve a PG13 movie and Chuckie Cheese? lol But remember try to compromise with her, maybe she doesn't want you to make the same mistakes she made. Mothers know best(a majority of the time).

Answer 2

WOW, mom's a bit out there on this one., I do agree with her about making sure that you get a good education and a career first. BUT, I also have to say that once you turn 18 you pretty much can make your own decisions in life and she cannot do much about it. Use your head and make sure you keep your prospectives in order get the education. But hey go for it when you are 16/17 I think you can handle a date or two... GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 3

ok at the start, as quickly as you turn 18 you're in actuality loose to do what you please. i could be extremely disillusioned if my mom and dad did no longer enable me date till finally i became into 26 and might greater desirable than probably insurrection. i think of in case you care sufficient approximately your training then you definately will stay centred besides, even with in case you have a guy on your existence or no longer. when you consider which you're basically 13 precise now, i pass to assert supply it a pair years when you consider which you're kinda youthful to be stressful too plenty approximately relationship precise now besides. shop your concentration on your training and then once you turn 15 or sixteen and your mom and dad see how nicely you're doing and how desperate you're, then in line with threat they are going to loosen up and enable you to make that decision extremely of coming up it for you. that's possible to maintain your websites on your destiny and date on the comparable time. stable success and that i'm hoping my suggestion facilitates!

Answer 4

When your just talking to your mom sometime ask her how old she was when she got married. I'd be curious to know if she follows her own advice. ;o) If she says she was younger then 26 when she got married I'd then say "gee mom you tell me I can't date until I'm 26 and yet you got married before that age." ;o) She may have waited until after she was 26 but what the heck it's worth a shot right? ;o) good luck to you

Answer 5

Give your Mom the respect that age deserves.
She is speaking from a knowledge that only experience with life gives you.

there is plenty of time ahead of you to find the one you love.

Your education is most important to the outcome of your life---more so than having a boy friend at 13,14 or 15.

only with time will you truly understand what your mother is trying to say to now.
Do yourself a favor and believe that she is trying to help you---not hurt you.

Answer 6

You are too young to start dating. wait till 18. Your mom does make sense tho. At 26, you already should have your career in place. So you will be able to support a companion. And possible marriage and children there after. you r maturity... etc.

Answer 7

your mom not letting you date until you're 26 not only shows that she doesn't respect you enough to make your own important decisions, but she doesn't trust you enough to put the most important things first. also, this is completely hindering your social life, and what if you find someone completely amazing that respects the amount of time you would like to put forth toward your career and will help you reach your goals. you need to be thoroughly educated on this before you let your mommy tell you what's best for her...not you. tell her that.

Answer 8

I think she might be pulling your leg...or just asserting an opinion...the fact of the matter is that when your 18 if you are self sufficient enough you are legally allowed to move out on your own and make your own decisions...caution: it sounds like mum might be compensating for something by using you...or acting on fear and out of rigidity...or possibly trying to live vicariously through you...in any event this kind of strictness and rigid behavior isn't healthy...or condusive to educating ones children of freedom...

Answer 9

Personally, I would recommend not dating until you've finished your education — it is VERY important. Still, after you turn 18, she won't have any control over your social life. I'm sure you can wait it out until then.

Answer 10

16 should be the minimum. What to I know though I've been dating since I was 13. Guys have different standards though.