Why is it that no matter what I do I'm never good enough for my parents. I get straight A's, I'm captin of the Drill Team, I respect them, I'm gonna go to college I'm a good kid. But no matter what I do or how hard I try I'm just not good enough they always find something that I could "do better at or try hardder at", when I'm workin my butt off. Why is this and what do I do??
2006-11-17 15:59:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know they're great parents and all, but sometimes its just too much. I feel like I'm doin so good and stuff, and then they start at me about how I need to try harder and stuff.
2006-11-17 16:09:04 · update #1
Have they said you aren't good enough, or is this your interpretation honey? As parents, we often try to push our kids to the best of their ability; however, some parents take that a little too far and end up putting unattainable expectations on our children. My suggestion would be to sit them down and talk to them. Tell them you are trying and it would be nice for them to acknowledge the good things that you are doing rather than focus on all the negative things they think you should be doing better at.
Hey, and great job at being a great kid...it's not easy in this day and age to set a game plan and stick with it....keep it up honey, you're doing great! You'd make any parent proud....I'm sure, even your own!
2006-11-17 16:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Parents are not perfect and maybe this is one area that they themselves need to "try harder at" !
So you could just straight out tell them how you feel, you probably should, its the healthy thing to do but do so in a calm respectful manner and see what happens its worth the risk.
The problem i have is with my younger brother that justs get pampered and hes pretty much a total **** up, my mom bails him out of jail and pays for all his tikects and still pretends like hes her little angel all the while im not causing her any stress at all and get ignored.All my accomplishments are just ignored but when my brother is ******* up my mom just cleans up all his messes while im very stable and independant and unrecognized for it.
2006-11-18 00:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by autonomous1980 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're probably just doing that because they want you to have the best. Parents are like that. Sometimes it comes off as being pushy, but at least your parents care enough about you to want you to do better. Would you rather them not care at all? And do you think you'd be doing as good as you are without them pushing you? I'll bet you'll look back one day and be incredibly grateful that they did push you. Just look at it as being a good thing.
2006-11-18 00:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by IcyHot1369 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not YOU: it is T H E M !!!!!!!
They may have poor self images or focus their energies on another son or daughter.
It is painful, bewildering, and insane with your folks! This is a sad reality of life; I'm sorry to hear of your suffering but it happens all the time.
Focus on you.............you are a great kid! All will be well!!!
2006-11-18 00:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by ThomasR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are trying to please your parents. That is very good, BUT....please your self first. That is the most important. If your parents are unhappy, just acknowlege, but don't get it under your skin. Parents sometimes just forget that they putting too much emphasis on academics but not enough on interpersonal skills and contendment....Be who you want to be...not how your parents wants you to be.
good luck
2006-11-18 00:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe thats just your parents way of getting you to be the best you can be
2006-11-18 00:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by itschris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋