i love my man for 5 yrs and i know he loves me. but why the bastard has to stare at mad bitches,it pissed me off. what do u think
2006-11-17 15:54:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sucks, it can hurt your feelings, but it's very hard for the human man to go against his base instincts.
Instinctively, the male of the species is supposed to go from female to female to propagate the species. Evolution has not lessened this instinct to a great degree.
Tell him that it makes you uncomfortable when he blatantly stares at women in front of you. Unfortunately, he will always have this urge because he is a man, and men are very visual creatures. Most of their sexual cues are tied to vision.
You're a lucky woman just to KNOW that he loves you. When it comes right down to it, the other things are really much less important.
Good luck, hon! ;)
2006-11-17 15:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by feistycharley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya I'd be "pissed" as you put it. Have you ever asked him about it? A couple suggestions: either give him a little nudge and smile and say, "Hey, remember me?" Or you could ask, "So do you want her or me?" Be playful about it and gage the response. Use your intuition. Maybe you just need to break the ice with him.
If you have talked about this, maybe there's a bigger problem. Try to see how serious it really is. Is it just that you're jealous or is he doing more than just looking? Is it like he's right "into" other girls? That's going too far. If there is a bigger problem, if could mean you're yesterday's lunch, darling. It could be time to dump "Mr. Wrong" and get fishing for another guy. Sorry, but it's not worth it.
So, I hope you take some time to figure things out and go from there. I hope it works out okay.
2006-11-18 00:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by Taramasu2U 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you are telling us that you never have gazed at another man when your spouse is or is not around? If you pass a magazine rack and see George Clooney or any major male movie star you are saying you will not stop and take a second look? If you are, then you are a robot. I have been married to the same woman for almost 32 years and I know she looks and she knows I look. However, it is how it is done that makes a difference. If I am not respecting my wife and standing there with my tongue hanging out then yes she will get upset as I would her as well. But come on, if he takes a quick look out the side of his eye and you catch him every now and then, then he is being only human as I am sure you are as well.
Edit update: Are you gals that are saying that you would be pissed really trying to tell us you do not look yourself? It is a two way street ladies and you are not the machines of pure logic like you are trying to represent yourselves as here. If your man is busting his hind end to gawk then that is one thing but looking is only human ladies.
2006-11-18 00:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by Shellback 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My fiance and I have been together for 5 and a half years. If he stares at a woman, then I stare at a man. If he gets mad, oh well! What goes around comes around.
2006-11-17 23:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by little bear 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my wife encourages me to look at other women i thinks she finds it to be a turn on. She has pointed women out to me before. Last night we went out and i told her that i wanted the bartender this was the first time i ever told her who i was looking at let alone tell my wife that i wanted someone else. We practically made it in the bar. We were both really hot after that.
2006-11-18 12:16:14 · answer #5 · answered by The Tramp Collector 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok i have the same problem...He smiles at them, sometimes he even talks to them...Not all are pretty, i just stare at him...Yesterday in the store i told him to F off, he thinks he is doing nothing wrong...He and your husband need to be smacked upside the head....
2006-11-18 00:13:08 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you go to a restaurant and you place your order do you put the menu down or do you look it over even though you know what you want?
2006-11-18 00:11:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why beautiful women seem plentiful when im around my gf is beyond me. speaking as a man i can say that men are stimulated by sight. guys can keep from starring, but, when they are caught off guard, our natural radar seems to get us into trouble. guys truly do have one track minds, its why we can't multitask. women have several connections between both hemispheres of their brain, men only have one, it is physiological fact. don't worry about it, please just try to talk to him about it in a civil manner even though i know it is upsetting to you.
2006-11-18 00:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by alex l 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you calling a man you love such an ugly word? Maybe that's why he stares at other women.
2006-11-17 23:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think it can be annoying...but you have to remember he is only human. he can't have eyes for you 24/7. i mean you look at other guys somewhat right? as long as he's not cheating, or wanting to cheat, there isn't a problem.
2006-11-17 23:57:03 · answer #10 · answered by sweetybabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋