How old should your child be in order to have the whole sex introduction??

Question

I see that my son is getting older and his body is growing. I'm just curious to know. Don't want to get ahead of time..

Answer 1

the WHOLE intro? Just go piece by piece- starting small and getting bigger- I would say around 13-14 (very very small talks) then as he gets a little older 15-16 (when most girls get pregnate) Talk a little more seriously and especially about birth control when he's 16-17 let him ask all the questions he has
The age thing really just depends on his maturity level- Just keep the lines of communications open make sure he knows you just want to help

Answer 2

My son is only 2, so I haven't gone through it yet, but this is what I plan on doing, and read that it was a good way. Most kids start asking questions around 4 to 6 sometimes even younger. Simple questions like "where do babies come from" Give them the simplest answer possible at that age. That's all they are looking for. As they get older 10, 11, or 12, they ask more complicated questions, and expect better answers, then it's time for the real thing. I might start even a little earlier. Basically, I think there shouldn't be one sex talk. I think it should be an on-going process from the very first time a question is asked. If your son is old enough to voice the question, he's old enough for the answer. If he's older than 11 or 12, I'd start right now. Kids have babies that young, and they should at least be informed from a reliable source about the consequences first. Of course, I haven't gotten there yet, the only "experience" I'm going on is what I read in a book, and what little I have helped with my little sis. However, I was raised in a very open home, which is what I plan on doing with my son. I am 23, my brother is 19, and my sister is 17. I am the only one with a baby, and I was married for 3 yrs. before having my baby. So, it worked for us, at least so far!

Answer 3

You have to take each child into consideration. Some are ready earlier than others. I was 8 years old and a friend of mine was having sex and she was 7. I was not having sex but maybe if her parents would have talked with her about sex it might have changed her decision to have sex. I have been telling my kids little by little about their body and what sex is from the the time they were born. I had boys asking me to have sex with them when I was in 3rd grade. Kids are alot more intelligent than we think. I came from a christian home and I was taught that sex was something that only married people do. My daughter came home from school when she was in 1st grade and told me that she knew what sex was. I found out that she was told by a friend, then a man and a woman are in bed naked... that they were having sex. So I had to explain to trueth to her. If I didn't someone else was going to and I wanted her to know the trueth and not some weird story. So don't be nervous. Tell them what they need to know at what age level they can understand and not over load their minds with to much info. Good luck. I sure needed it.LOL

Answer 4

My philosophy is that if a child asks, he/she should be given an honest and appropriate answer. Of course, I say that now without ever having to deal with that. :) Eleven is a really good age to have "the talk." Boys at that age are masturbating and waaay hormonal. They need to know that what they're going through is normal and okay. There are books you can purchase/check out about puberty that talk about issues in a light-hearted manner. It eases the tension for both the parent and the child. My mom bought a book like that for me when I was in 5th grade (I think) and read it to me. She then turned the book over to me and I was able to refer to it whenever I had a question. I wasn't embarrassed about it, and I was far more informed about sex and puberty than all the kids who ask questions here on Answers. :) Good luck!

Answer 5

I learned in fourth grade at the lunch table. Some girl's mom told her about it and we were all extremely grossed out. Now I'm 19 and my mom and I never had "the talk." I think it depends on how much of the information you would like your son to get from you verus school, friends, tv, or the internet.

Oh, and FYI the videos start by fifth grade with puberty and in eighth we had the sex videos.

Answer 6

i think the best time is when they start making the transition to middle school. thats the best time to take advantage of youre getting older now.

In elemnetary its nothing but play time.
Its a big leap for a kid to go to junior high school.
thats when the door is wide open to bring up the subjects of what youre going to see, what to expect,and how to keep away from the bad elements.

these are the golden years in your childs development where you will either grow to have a close relationship with them through the tough teens, or you will lose them and the generation gap begins

Answer 7

Whenever he asks a question just answer it as honestly as you can...without being graphic. They will ask when they want to know. Depending on how old he is, he is probably hearing a lot of information at school...not always delivered the way you might prefer. You can always ask him what he knows. I remember watching "Malcolm in the Middle" and the mom "kidnapped" Malcolm and told him she was going to talk to him about sex. It was so funny! He wanted to puke! Sometimes tough love is the best kind. Good luck!

Answer 8

When he wants to know, he'll start asking questions. Don't push it, but don't wait until he's 15...my first son asked when he was four - but I was pregnant. Second was four and I was pregnant but he didn't ask. Daughter is now ten...never asked but someone else told her and totally grossed her out. Now we don't specifically talk about anything, but it just comes up sometimes. I'm pretty open - and the younger two kids have learned stuff just by having siblings. We just talk about stuff when it comes up. No big deal.

Answer 9

You might be surprised at what he already knows! Ask him. My son is 10 and he doesn't know ALL of it. But I rather he hears it from me. I think that I started talking to him about it when he was almost 10. Just a little here and there. Bring it up as casual conversation. You don't want to be embarrassed and you don't want to embarrass him.

Answer 10

i think that the age than your son finds out is up to every parent every one has different opions on this topic my son is 8 and i have explained every thing to him 1st of all cause i am pregnaunt and i did not want to lye to him about anything that he was asking about and 2nd of all cause i wanted to tell him the truth the right way before he found out any thing from his dead beat father i could just imagine what knowledge that he was gonna come home with from his fathers one weekend so now i know he knows the truth and his father can not fill him full of nonsence and 3rd they will learn from friends too so i again i wanted him to know the truth