I have been with my fiance for 2 1/2 years.We have a gorgeous child together and are very happy.I suffer from numerous illnesses that cause my life to be difficult, because for the time being I can't work. We are moving in a week and my father in law is driving the moving truck. Today he came to see the place that we are moving into. It's about twice the size as where we are now, and about 500 dollars cheaper. It's clean, and a great place to raise children. When he came in the house he said that it was too small. He complained that we were getting robbed by 350 dollars or so (the new place is 889 inclusive, 3 bdrm)Then when I told him (he asked) about our money problems he told me to get off my a** and get a job.He doesn't understand that at the moment, as much as I want to, I can't.I told mt fiance about it and he said to ignore it, that's just the way he is.His father has been like this since I met him. How should I treat this problem?Why is my bf standing up for him instead of me?
2006-11-17 15:25:08 · 5 answers · asked by Melton 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunately some people think they have the right to offer their opinions even when they haven't been asked for it. It sounds like your soon to be father-in-law is one of these fellows. The thing is, with you planning to join the family, sometimes it's easier to ignore things like this than to start a big family fight. That's what I'd do. As far as your guy goes, we're all a product of our environment. He learned as a kid that it's easier to keep your mouth shut and ignore this misbehavior than it is to fight about it. Can't say I blame him - I learned the same thing.
2006-11-17 18:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sue B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your fiance is trying to keep family levels calm. It's not that he isn't sticking up for you, you both have a new place to live and a good home for your child. You are marrying his son and when you do get married, you are marrying him for better or worse. He is not going to allow anyone to be direspectful to you. Take your boy friends advice and just let it go. My Father taught me something important, whether anyone likes you are not...kill them with kindness...they don't know how to handle that or how to accept it. So be your perky happy self and put on the airs and see what happens.
2006-11-17 23:37:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your boyfriend is standing up for him, I think he's just trying to keep the peace for the moment. Your b/f should talk to his father and tell him about your physical problems and limitations so that he will be aware. He doesn't know...although that's no excuse for talking to you like that. I think it's your fiance's place to take care of this and deal with his family and how they treat you.
2006-11-18 14:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be nice of your boyfriend to tell his dad to put a sock in it, but if this guy wants to challenge every decision you make just tell him what the deal is, dont ever feel the need to explain your self to him its your life as long as you are not giving drugs to your kids or on drugs then i think youre doing just fine, I think your father in law may be losing his perspective on things. so he thinks youre getting ripped, laugh in his face and say "no we're not you goofy old man!"
And if hes making a really big deal about it set him straight and be like man its not really that big of a deal!!
2006-11-18 00:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by autonomous1980 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd of cussed him out to his face and fought my own battle and the b/f better understand I fight my own battles and I don't care who the person is.
2006-11-17 23:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋