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2 and a Half years ago I had Lap Band weight loss surgery. It was done by two Docs that had good reputations and after a couple years of research, they were the only ones that took my insurance. They completely screwed up the surgery and I never lost weight, so I didn't have to tell friends. Only my family knows. Now I am in extream pain and having a surgery to try to repair it. This time I have one of the best Doctors in the world operating on me.

The thing is I don't want some people to know that I'm having a correction to weight loss surgery. When I had the first surgery, I was riduculed by several people saying that I took the easy way out. Believe me, it hasn't been easy. I've tried every diet in the world plus having a nighmare surgery and months of pain only to be told by those who know that it is my own fault.
It's going to take several weeks to recover. What do I tell the people that won't understand, like aquaintences, coworkers, & some of my friends that just don't get It??

2006-11-17 15:22:56 · 17 answers · asked by Triquetra 2 in Health Diet & Fitness

17 answers

People that have never struggled with something like this will NEVER understand, and it is NOT an easy way out. My husband and I both had Gastric Bypass surgery almost 4 years ago. I heard too many bad things about the Lap-band surgery so I knew that is not what I wanted. I had people tell me that diet and exercise would help, but it didn't. I was diabetic and had several miscarriages because of it. My husband was diabetic and had nuropothy in his feet that was so severe he could barely walk. His blood pressure was extremely high. A lot more insurance companies are covering this surgery now because they are beginning to realize how much money they will be saving in the long run on prescription medications. I have not had to have an insulin shot since about 5 months after my surgery. If you have health problems just tell them that the surgery is going to save your life. You don't really need to offer them an explanation.

2006-11-17 15:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0 0

You, as you are right now, are the best, most perfect combination of all the genes that it took to make you, all the circumstances that've happened to get you where you are, all the things you've learned and discovered that've formed who you are, you, just as you are right now are the best combination of all that stuff that got you where and who you are right now. There is nothing wrong with you.

And i believe that when ppl have set backs, they don't just have set backs and then no way to overcome them, there is always a way for them to rise above the things that could drag them down, and the more set backs you have, that points out how much more strength you have.

So you are wonderful, there is no getting a better you. It's impossible, you are the absolute best, and no one could ever do any better. You take the cake. And any weaknesses you have, those are opportunities that you have where you can show yourself that you can overcome them. Things like sabotaging yourself, it's a hard habit to kick, but i know it can be done, and when you do, that's your weaknesses, don't compare yourself with somebody else who got over that weakness sooner, or maybe never had it, because they don't have all your same weaknesses, nor do they have all your same strengths. And when you defeat something that is very strong like that, that is a huge victory, no one can steal your thunder by having less of a struggle with it, because they are not you and you are the best you there can ever be

2006-11-17 16:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by phtokhos 3 · 0 0

Just tell them you need a break and you would like to stay at home for a few months before taking up a job again. If you dont tell people they wont know about the surgery. In any case there is no need to bother about what people say or think.

2006-11-17 15:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by rams 4 · 1 0

This is no ones business but yours. You aren't obligated to tell them anything. You could simply say you required a surgical procedure but don't wish to speak about it. They'll assume it was quite personal. Let them think what they will. It's your life and your happiness at stake.

I sincerely hope you have the success with this repair that you were looking for with the original surgery. Having had weight issues most of my life I can tell you I DO understand.

2006-11-17 15:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by janisko 5 · 3 0

Tell em ur going away to see friends or family in another state!!
I mean if u dont feel comfy chatting to em about it then u dont have to..
just say offhand "oh yeh we're(the family) are off to visit aunty so & so"
or "hubby is treating me to a 2week beauty spa retreat"

just make something up...
they dont have to know everything about u...they are on a need to know basis and their rating is pretty low i think!! only ur family need know!!

Good luck
Hope it all works out for u!!
=)

2006-11-17 15:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

You do not owe an explanation to ANYBODY. Simply say that you have surgery for a "heatlh issue." Most wil leave that alone. For those who push you can say, "I don't want to talk about it, this is personal," or "I had a belly button transplant and I hope my body does not reject it!"

2006-11-17 15:28:14 · answer #6 · answered by Linda R 7 · 3 0

jog on the treadmill at 4 mph for 25 minutes or at 7 mph for 9 minutes

2016-03-13 19:37:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

45 minute jog at a 10 minute mile pace

2016-04-21 04:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by Catalina 3 · 0 0

tell them u are female problem and u need surgery some problem take a while to heal hysterectomy ect.

2006-11-17 15:36:57 · answer #9 · answered by vickey417 2 · 1 0

hit the stair climber for 11 minutes

2016-04-01 01:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

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