does the mother not being home with the children affect them?

Question

there are so many working moms today. Is it affecting our children?

Answer 1

Kids need an balance of both Mom and Dad time. Both parents are just as important as the other. I do however believe that Mothers are expected these days to do to much. We are exhausted from work and all of our other responsibilities that we run out of time for our kids. Heck, we run out of time for ourselves! Work when your kids are in school and I do consider Day Care a type of school, babies learn too! Have your kids help you with your daily chores around the house. Make special time for the kids . Kids are the future and the future is now.

Answer 2

Everything a parent does affects the children. Every family situation is different. Some moms have no choice but to work these days others need the outside "adult" stimulation in order to be a better parent at home. There are no right or wrong when it comes down to it. You love your kids and make sure they are safe and well taken care of if you have to or choose to work. Teach them about responsibility, in and outside the home. They will grow up fine. I think the main thing affecting our kids these days are parents wanting to be there kids friend rather than a parent. There is a lack of respect and the parents don't want to discipline their kids. Discipline is as important as love.

Answer 3

This is just from my own personal experience, but when talking to my friends I call the working moms kids "day care kids". They are very aggressive and way out of control. They look for attention from anyone and everyone. I'm not judging by any means because I know that it takes two pay checks now a days. I definitely see that it is negatively affecting the children today. It will be very interesting to see how these children will grow up. Who knows maybe it will be the stay at home moms children who will be the ones who are behind because of it.

Answer 4

I think its very rude to gernalize and say that kids in daycare are not well behaved. My parents both worked full-time since I was 6 weeks old. They were in the military they had no other choice. I loved going to daycare b/c there were other kids around...you know friends. I also loved spending time with my parents. I was very well behaved...I've never been diagnosed with ADD or anything like that. I didn't turn out to be some kind of sociopath/high school drop out. I came home to an empty house every day, and I didn't get into any trouble b/c I had a thing called discipline. I think being a latch-key kid was beneficial for me...I learned responsibility and it felt good that my parents trusted me to stay at home for a few hours by myself. I loved staying at home alone, it was fun!

Stay-at-home moms are admirable for staying with their children, but I think a lot of them get up on their soap box and preach to everyone about what quality time is, but they have to understand that for some parents its impossible to stay at home due to financial reasons. When my child is born in June I'm going to be a single parent, so I have to work and send my child to day care, or we'll have absolutely nothing to eat.

Answer 5

For some parents yes, and for others no. I work in a school system and I can easily tell which parents give the love, guidance, and care to their children. One of the moms of a child in my classroom works two full-time jobs and takes care of her responsibilities at home. We all asked her "how" and its because she made time to take care of them! Little things like going over homework with your kids, showing everyday affection or spending an extra minute or two to ask how their day was (and actually listen actively) can go a long way!!

Answer 6

I agree that it isn't the quantity of time spent, it's the quality. Each parent (if both are present) should spend some "special time" with each child every week. Special time is time spent with just one child doing something the child enjoys. Parents can practice special time one at a time, or together with each child. One of the best moms I know has 4 young children and works 40 hours per week. She always has. She breastfeeds each of her kids for a year and a half. Her children are all very intelligent, and very well-adjusted. I think that working moms are the least of our worries with our kids. Inconsistent parenting, abuse, and neglect are the things we need to take care of first.

Answer 7

WHOA! Hold up a minute, for all for you bashing working mothers, (and that's what you're doing when you say that our kids don't know how to behave) I happen to be a *GASP* working mom. I don't do it to get out of spending time with my son. I wish like h*ll that I could be at home with him. But you know what, I think he would get a little cranky if he didn't have anything to EAT! This is how I feel: yes, I would love to be home with him, but I can't. I stayed home for his first nine months, then had to go back to work and put him in daycare. You know what, you would not believe the changes I have noticed in him for the good! At home with me, he was not able to interact with other kids his age. Not only did I not know anyone else with a baby, I did not have GAS money to take him anywhere. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with staying home with your kids until they start school, because if I could, I would, but kids NEED time with other kids their age. They need to learn how to interact with other kids, before being tossed into that environment. Kids also learn a lot from each other (later that's not such a good thing) but at a young age, it is. So, the answer is, who knows? I do what I have to do to provide for my son, period!

EDIT

OK, so maybe this is really only for Garden. BTW What makes you think I toss my baby anywhere? And why would you think that he does not have stability? Or morals? That's very judgemental, acussing, and just plain ignorant.

We both work, because we want better for our baby than we had growing up, not because we want too much CRAP. I want to be able to provide for my baby. I want to be able to give him everything that I never had. (don't think that's possible, but I'm trying) I ate ramen noodles almost my entire childhood because my mom was a single mom, and struggled. We, as kids even worried about the bills.I don't want this kind of life for my baby. My mom was a working mom, and none of us were "harmed". Non of us got pregnant as teens either.

Answer 8

it's been pretty WELL PROVE it dose have a effect. It's also been proven it's not real possible for most families to live on only one income. Their are awful stay at home mom and awful working moms. It's a personal family choice only that family involved can make. I will have to work when my newest baby is very young it breaks my heart to have to leave a newborn we have car payments house payments my husband can't do it alone. We have already done a vasectomy because we know we can't support more kids. Yeah we could do without down size move to a very poor area but that would have a equally negative effect on our kids.

Answer 9

People are so stupid, being a stay at home mom is not for everyone, it is the right choice for my family. If my husband did not have a Great job, we could not do it. But to the first person who answered many working moms SUCK as well!!!!

Answer 10

i am the 16-year old, first of the four children of both parents who work abroad and comes home only every 1 or 2 years. it's just a matter of understanding, stay in touch with them so that they won't feel that they are neglected or taken for granted.. just make them realize that you are doing that for their own good and that you are also hurt for doing that.. just like me and my mom, she is away now, but she calls always and we chat oftentimes. we, all four children are affected, but then, we don't react violently beacuse we know the purpose of their work away.. and we see the products of their works, we are in a good high-rated school, we eat delicious and nutritious foods, we enjoy life to the fullest, all beacuse of their work.. we are also aware of the hardships they are having there... it's because they are telling us and making us understand that they aren't there for enjoying...

it's just that... make them understand and explain it to them, never lie..


hope this helps.. :Þ