how do you feel about working mothers in todays society?

Question

Does it affect our children?

Answer 1

I feel bad, my mom is smart hardworking she moved to the States from Germany when she was 20 with my Alcoholic dad. she is one tough lady but sometimes I wish i could make life easier on her. So the way i feel is yes i think it does affect the children but i guess for me its given me power. GIRL POWER woooo

Answer 2

Are you asking about mothers who choose to let others raise their own children? I don't understand why any mother would want to do that? Get real. My wife, mother of two boys now 20 and 24, sure did not want anyone else to raise them. She loved them and loved being their mother. We were blessed to be able to afford to have two healthy normal children of our own and raise them ourselves with some help from grandma as the boys grew older and my wife went on with her part time career after the boys went to school. Of course we both planned our education and careers and marriage to allow for time to properly raise our own children. Isn't that what everyone wants to do? Why plan it any other way? Isn't that the smart move? In today's world if you can not raise your own children and give them a good start in life, why get pregnant? WHY GET PREGNANT AND THEN GIVE YOUR CHILDREN TO STRANGERS TO RAISE???? HELLO. EARTH TO GOOFY. DUH

But of course if you make mistakes and do not know how to avoid pregnancy or disaster hits you after you planned perfectly, then you have to let strangers raise your own children. If that is what you mean by your question then I understand doing the best you can under the circumstances and going with plan B or C or D, but what intelligent women would ever choose something other than plan A? Of course plan B or C or D adversely affects the children. Plan A is always the best. DUH. All of you saying anything different are just fooling yourselves.

BTW Mothers ARE different than fathers for all of you who seem to be totally messed up and think they are the same. Mothers are the ones who have the parts that allow them to give birth and nurse. Oh and guess what mothers are also the ones who do best at nurturing (Amazing how that happened, isn't it.) They can even multitask while the fathers can not so well. Guess why all this is true. It was planned from the beginning. YOu know creation? A creator thought this all out people. Can't you accept the obvious?? It seems pretty obvious to me. You know 2 + 2 is four. Get it? Logic?

Answer 3

Well, with today's economy and cost of living, I think that working mothers are a necessity. My brother and his wife both have accounting jobs and it's STILL hard to support themselves and their one baby. Does it affect us, the children? It depends on the jobs that our parents have. If it's a job that requires them to travel a lot and forces us to be stuck with a baby-sitter or a nanny, then it will make us feel lonely and as if we didnt really have parents. But if it's just another 9 to 5 job, then it doesnt affect us much. Ok, so we might have to take part in an afterschool program if we need a ride home. But so what? In the end, we still come home to our loving parents who will strive to be with us while still putting the bread onto the table. Of course, in the beginning years of a child, it is hard to have both working parents. My mom has to baby-sit her granddaughter every weekday from 8 to 5. But it's the baby's grandmother, and it only lasts until she's old enough for preschool. She will still get a lot of love. Both working parents? Workable. As long as there isn't any other problems, there isn't much of an effect on the child's life. Heck, we spend most of our time in school, anyway. If you are concerned about the lack of time spent between mother and child, ban school!

Answer 4

I think it is how much you work that affects the children. My mother was a working mother but she spent every second that she was not working with me, she even would take vacation days off and come to my school and volunteer or go on field trips with me . I knew that I came first to my mom . We have a good relationship.
I am a working mother as well. But I have know choice but to work because I am a single mother. I work 4o hrs a week. I have my babies stay with my parents so that they are around family. Every minute that I get it goes to them. I put them ahead of everything. But it gets difficult when they have doctor appointments etc. I hope that when they are school aged that it will be easier to spend time. It just is hard to miss out on seeing things first. But I have to do what I have to do to keep them have a home and food and clothes.

Answer 5

This Question is not asked by a loon.

I've lost count of how many times I've almost been run over by some crazed soccer mom in an SUV with a cell phone in her ear rushing to pick up her second or third kid from practice or school because I was silly enough to go out for a jog on her path.

Nothing wrong with working hard and raising a family - but no one can do it all, not even supermoms!

We men learned the hard way. I have friends in the ground because they just pushed too hard and their health went south.

Answer 6

I try not to judge. You can never really know the full scope of someone else's situation. I'm a stay-at-home mom. I love my work. I also home school. I'm busy. I'm grateful I have the opportunity to be home with my children. I used to work as an infant care manager in a child development center and it broke my heart to realize that we were raising those babies. They were in our care 8-12 hours a day while their parents worked. We were there for all their mile stones and in some cases the children were so closely bonded to us, rather than their own parents, that they would cry and scream when their parents would pick them up.

Ideally, parents would find a way to stay home and raise their own children. But it isn't always possible and our culture puts a strong emphasis on material posessions. Parents feel like they have to work. They feel like they have to provide the latest gadgets as if those are worth more than the time they spend with their children.

My husband is military. We are far from well off. However, we are debt free and I run my own business that brings in a bit of extra money. However, we have to budget. My kids don't want for anything. But we don't drive fancy cars, don't own a giant tv and do not have the latest in high tech gadgets. We make sure we have money for what is important and make sure not to confuse wants with needs. This way I'm able to stay home and be here for my kids. After my experiences working in daycare there is no way I'd let someone else raise MY children.

But some mother's have no choice. Some families have no choice or they feel that they have no choice. We all have our own list of priorities. Mine are different than that of a working moms. I'd like to see more moms or dads stay home with their kids but unless I know the full extent of their situation then I find it difficult to judge them. I just assume they work because they have to. That just makes me grateful that *I* don't have to.

Answer 7

It's almost necessary for both mother and father to be working in today's society. What's wrong with it? Actually, as long as the child/children are well taken care of, loved and provided for, why not?

Answer 8

Working mothers keep food on the table and roofs over the heads of many children in one parent homes. It sets a great example for their children. I am very proud of the working mothers in our society. How do you feel about working fathers in today's society?

Answer 9

Because of a divorce, my children have watched me go from stay-home mom to career woman. They have watched me in the last six years pull myself up by my bootstraps and become a serious wage-earner. Has it had an effect? I sure hope so! I think they have learned that if you believe in yourself you can do whatever you want to do.

Six years ago I was making $10/hr. Now I'm past the halfway mark to six figures. I have no college degree. My kids have watched me make things happen, and they have enjoyed the improvement to our lives. They know that if you really want to make something happen you can.

Does it affect our children? God, I hope so!

Answer 10

Yes it does help them become independent.Children whose mothers are non-working rely for everything on their mothers.At the same time mothers also begin to think that their life starts and ends with their children.But when the children grow up and move out,these women can't bear to let them go resulting in lot of heartburn.

Answer 11

Many households have to have both parents works to make ends meet. It is important when both parents have work to have good, safe and secure, nurturing child care at an affordable cost. Children due a little better when they do not have to face poverty.