parentz they just don't understand?

Question

y can't parents understand the teenage mind and let us experience our own mistakes so we don't have 2 sneek out at nite.i know dey r tryin' 2 protect us but damn let me handle my stuff

Answer 1

You sound exactly like my younger sister. I think you guys need to respect our caring about you. How about that? How would you feel if we didnt care? If we didnt try to protect your feelings and offer our advice? And we dont let you make your own mistakes because you should be smart enough to learn from others' mistakes. You have alot to learn honey! damn let US handle our stuff.

Answer 2

We parents understand the teenage mind all to well, after all we've been there and done that. We realize you have to make your own mistakes but it is a parents nature to protect our children. You can bet everything your thinking where your parents are concerned your parents thought about their parents. We just don't want our children to make the same mistakes we did, our goal is to raise our children to be happy productive adults, not to end up dead in a field or parking lot somewhere or raped by someone they do or do not know. We realize that today is a different time than when we grew up, it's a lot worse and it was bad enough when we were your age. My children are now in their 30's and all of them would tell you they wish they had heeded our warnings. It would have saved them a lot of grief. Our children know a lot of the mistakes I made, the consequences I paid and the hell I put my parents through (Thank God they weren't as wild as I was) so they did listen some but they did have to make mistakes, that's the only way you grow and learn. Maybe if you would ask you parents (your Mom will probably be more open since your a girl) about some of her mistakes and regrets you'll learn something from her and she'll realize that she has to let you make mistakes too. I believe it will build a bond for you two and you'll feel more comfortable going to her for advice and help should the day come.

Answer 3

Honey, we do understand the teenage mind...we were once teenagers too. Everything you are thinking, we've already done and most of us learned the hard way. As parents, we are not only trying to protect you, but we are trying to avoid you from learning the hard way. If you want to be trusted more and have more freedom to "handle your own stuff", as you put it, then take a responsible approach, sit them down and tell them that you are growing up, times are changing and although you understand their concerns, they've done a good job in parenting and you would like the chance to prove to them that you can handle more responsibility. I guess in a sense, you need to tell them that they can't punish you for their mistakes. Just please make sure you don't get defensive when you do this, or turn it into a dramatic scene where doors are slamming and someone's crying. They'll look at it as though you aren't mature enough to handle anymore responsibility. If you want to be treated more grown up honey, ya gotta start acting a little more grown up and that means talking to them like adults. Be patient and be glad that you have parents that love and care for you....some kids don't honey. I wish you luck!

Answer 4

Here's the deal, you are sneaking out because they have set a rule that you don't like, so you are sneaking out to do what you want. Parents set rules for two reasons, to protect you and here's the big one....TEACH YOU RESPONSIBILITY. I find it very humorous that you teenagers are under some kind of misconception that when you move out of your parent's home you will be able to do what you want. Well, guess what, there will ALWAYS be rules, and you should learn how to follow them no matter how silly they seem. There is a method to the madness.

Not to mention, I am 23 and I have been out on my own since I was 19. I used to think my parents only did things to "ruin my life." It becomes so much more clearer when you grow up. I appreciate my parents greatly today. You'll see.

Answer 5

Yah, sure, then pay your own rent, health insurance, car payment, car insurance, food, clothing, etc., etc., etc. Try being a kid for a change. Before you know it, you'll have all the time you need to handle your own stuff and you'll wish you were back in the warm, caring arms of mom and dad. Oh, and don't forget about the college tuition. Hopefully, you are working real hard at your job--that is being a successful student--so you get a scholarship instead of depending on the folks to pay your tuition. Best of luck to you little one. Be grateful for what you have.

Answer 6

I am 21 and I listen to my parents now more than ever! I was just like you, well I wish they would leave me alone and let me do whatever. I wanted to move out so bad away from home and I finally got what I wanted and then I wanted to be home again. I thought you know maybe my parents are not as dumb as they look.

Sure go ahead and experiment, try drugs and when you are in the hospital dying from ecstasy or whatever who will be there crying by your bedside? Who will be there to support you? Your "friends"? Or your parents? If you wind up pregnant who is going to be there to care for the baby? The babies father or your parents? Who is going to be there to support you in life and be your cheer leading section in life? Your "friends" or your parents? Listen, I know it is hard because you don't want to be under authority.

I look back at high school and to this day I see some of the people I used to go to high school with. Their lives are screwed up because of the mistakes they have made because they didn't want to be under their parents authority. My parents have saved me from heartache and saved me from all kinds of things. You do what you want, just remember sneaking and being or doing whatever will affect you later in life.

Answer 7

Grow up! When you start paying all the bills then you can do what you want. Your parents give you a place to live, clothe you, feed you, protect you, guide you. They do EVERYTHING for YOU. All you care about is handling your stuff. Wait until you have kids then you will realize that they are only trying to protect you.

Answer 8

Child your parents passed thur the same teenage phase as yoru are going thru now, they want to protect you from the mistakes that they made and they think you might make, some parents are over reactive and over protective , you need to sit down with them, and talk to them.

Answer 9

That's what I'm saying, I feel the same exact way my moms dont understand but them again I think about what If I was them and I was a mom, I would be concerned about my child as well. So pretend you have a child, it's not easy to let go

Answer 10

yes, everybody needs to learn from their mistakes, but the kind of mistakes you can make as a teen can be DISASTROUS and your parents know that. They do still remember what it was like to be a teen, but they have learned (as will you). They really are just trying to protect you because they know what could happen.