my ex is tryong to get my 2 year old dognosed with the above because of his behavior at school. he has been biting kids and throwing and hitting kids with toys and is going to be evaluated no matter what i say by a friend of my exhusbands wife. SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!!!
2006-11-17 15:14:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Without having the chance to observe your son's behavior, it would be impossible for a professional to evaluate your son for these disorders. Doctors tend to want to wait for an evaluation on these severe disorders, because there are certain criteria that needs to be met. Take a moment and look up ODD and Bi-polar disorders in the DSM IV (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual 4), on the internet. That way, you can see the criteria for yourself and compare with what you know of your child's behavior. The behaviors also have to be present for a specified amount of time (usually 6 months) and have a certain frequency. They also have to be present in all environments the child is in (school, home, other people's homes, the grocery store, etc...) and with different people (such as it wouldn't matter if he was with mom, dad, teacher, stranger). Again, although a trained professional (psychologist, psychiatrist) can see symptoms in a child this young, and will say that this is the way they think that the child's behavior is leaning towards- they will probably not make a difinitive diagnosis at this age.
2006-11-18 07:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh goodness. Two year olds are going to hit, bite, throw things and do other such naughty things. It's a phase that they all go through and with some consistant discipline (like mini-time outs), they learn that those naughty behaviors are unacceptable. A two year old's vocabulary is just starting to expand and sometimes they don't always have the words to express how they feel. The only way to show their emotion is by acting out. It's completely normal.
If you or your ex are concerned about his behavior then your child should be brought to the pediatrician to be evaluated. If the pedi feels more is needed, he/she will point you in the right direction....but in no way should some bimbo friend of your ex's wife be giving any evaluation of any sort. She has no right, no place....Just my opinion....and if that were ME, I'd be freakin' Pissed!
2006-11-17 23:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by my_lil_buttercups 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a psychiatric nurse who has worked with a lot of troubled kids. I don't think a 2 year old can be diagnosed with either. Actually I think its normal for a 2 year old to be alittle oppositional, they are learning independence and a 2year olds mood can swing from second to second. A 2 year old hasn't the vaguest idea what to do with their emotions and its up to his parents to help teach him what to do when angry, sad, embarrassed etc. If your child is hitting and biting he needs some sort of consequence for his actions. He needs to know this is unacceptable behavior. If he learning by example, that really needs to stop or else forget trying to teach him anything. Hopefully the person who "evaluates" your son has the brains to give you some good advice regarding parenting skills. Is your ex trying to collect on a "disability" or something or trying to prove youre an unfit parent?? Sounds like he has ulterior motives?
2006-11-18 18:59:22 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think two is way to early to be evaluated properly for a diagnosis for these. I would say that he just needs alot of working with to get him out of the terrible twos. Take away priveledges, time outs, toys. Try to make the punishment fit the crime, such as ( throwing toys--take the toy away for a day or two) if he bites or hits or kicks--time out would be appropriate. You need to speak with him everytime when he is punished, so that he will know why he was punished and that it will not be tolorated and it will happen every time he acts in this manner. It will take time and alot of patience. Do not let him get away with it, be consistant. It will be hard at first. Don't get discouraged.
2006-11-18 00:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work with two year olds and every year we have one or two children with the symptoms you are describing. We talk about it, we try to deal with it, the child gets older and then it stops. There is nothing seriously wrong with your child and no one can diagnose your child with ODD or Bi-polar for this behavior. Really! There are a number of reasons why your child behaves like this. Maybe stress from the divorce or maybe just growing pains. Never mind, it will pass, don't worry dear. I've seen it happen a lot.
2006-11-18 16:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess all two year olds have add and are bipolar then.cause they all have times when they act like that!!it could be that hes just having difficulty adjusting to his parents not being together.as adults we dont think that a child so young can be effected by things like that but i know from experience that they can.my oldest went through alot of problems when my ex and i divorced.he was only 3 and started acting out.maybe your ex should do a little research on 2 year olds before he goes trying to diagnose things!!my 2 year old is a monster at times too!!
2006-11-18 11:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by these r my people 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call and talk to school councelor.Tell your exhusband "welcome to parenting a 2 year old you stupid f*cker!!" and i would say no way on having baby evaluated, its part of being 2!! dont worry unless it continues much later!! you are mom fight to the death about having baby evaluated, especially by hubbys friend, that is bad news waiting to happen !! good luck sweety!
2006-11-18 00:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by me :) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is a child, my son acts like this sometimes and is about to turn 25 months old. I wouldn't let your ex bully you into this, he is just being a 2 year old little boy, first off is there ANY history of this from you or your ex that might even warrent the thought?
2006-11-18 00:02:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he is far to young to be tested... a lot of kids go through a biting stage- my son is doing the thing with the toys now.. he throws them on the floor, at people, anywhere he seems to please.... They go through phases.. but I would step in because you don't want to put your son through unnecessary tests- he's only going to get worse as he gets older... is your ex going to have him tested every time he goes through a childhood phase, is he going to have him on unnecessary medication.. I would definitely step in.. take him to court if you have too... you don't want this to be a start of a miserable life for the kid
2006-11-18 00:30:02 · answer #9 · answered by katjha2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move as far away from your ex husband as legally possible and as soon as possible
but - children - 2 year olds - DO act like that. That is why it is called terrible twos
You should talk to a lawyer too - your baby should not be given any medicines without his mommas blessing
2006-11-17 23:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋