I'll try to keep this short. I'm from Rhode Island and my soon to be husban is from Maine. We will be living in Mane after the wedding for good. I have planned to have the wedding at the place we met in Maine and have booked a reception hall and all. now my RI family is telling me that my Grandmother and Grandfather wont be able to travel to Maine but she HAS to see it. My father (parents BADLY devorced) is also not very well for travel either. My family wants us to have a small wedding at my GP's house. My husbands mother is also not well to travel, she has childhood diabeties and could never make the trip. I want the Maine wedding I had planned to be perfect. When would I even be able to do the 2nd wedding in RI? I obiouly dont want to go and do it on my wedding night or shorly after. But we start school again about a week later. I dont know what to do about all this. Any help? PLEASE?!
2006-11-17 14:17:37 · 10 answers · asked by emilieyuna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your wedding is about you, not your family. You should do what ever it is that will make you happy and what you want to do. If you want the Maine wedding go ahead and have it. Envite your parents, they can be civil to each other for a few hours for your sake. If your grandparents can't make it, video tape it for them, or if you are tech savvy set up a web feed so they can watch while it is happening. Above all remember this is your day {and your hubbys- mostly yours :) } Don't llet anyone guilt you into something that is going to cause you ondo stress and anxiety.
Congratulations and good luck.
2006-11-17 14:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by baileysmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about on the way home from your honeymoon. Get family to plan a renewal of vows for RI family to see. They can handle reception plans. A good chance to enjoy dressing up again without the pressure of the Wedding Day. It could be fun for all.
Your grandparents & Father would not feel left out & you will have the wedding you want.
My son was married in FL & had a small reception for the bride's family & friends, then we did a large reception in our city where
he is known & has a large family.
2006-11-17 14:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your day and a hard decision to make plan a small reception for the RI family it can be after and a small affair at your Grandparents you can even wear your dress again for them that day and cut a small second wedding cake
Have your big Maine wedding and congrats :)
love all your family and it is good you are thinking of them
2006-11-17 16:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already paid the deposit on the reception hall so proceed with the Maine wedding site. Make the video recording because you can share it with the people who can't make Maine and will also have a record for yourselves. During the week after, visit RI and see the people who missed.
2006-11-17 14:40:52 · answer #4 · answered by St N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have as many ceremonies as you'd like...the wedding police aren't going to arrest you for having more than one. Just a thought, be have you given any thought to waiting until AFTER graduating to get married?? You should really thing about getting yourself in a steady career before trying to start a new chapter in life.
2006-11-17 16:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your grandparents' disappointment but they are being entirely selfish at the same time. Have the wedding that YOU want. Express your disappointment that they won't be able to attend (if indeed they don't) but stick to your plans. Your once-in-a-lifetime event shouldn't be a source of such unnecessary stress and unhappiness for you.
2006-11-17 14:28:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a nice very small intimate wedding at your grandparents house would be appropriate. YOu could do it on a weekend you visit their or over a holiday when you travel their. Out of respect for your ailing grandparents I would do it for sure.
2006-11-17 14:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by schell_75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you dad is making up excuses why he can't go because he doesn't want to be there with your mother. Tell him to get over the divorce issue and stop making excuses why he can't go to your wedding. He should be there to give you away. It's one day of his life, and a small sacrifice to make for his daughter's happiness on one of the most important days of her life. In short, he needs to grow up. Talk to him, tell him you need his support, and how much it means to you that he be there.
2006-11-18 01:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by Spellympics 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take a deep breath and have ur true wedding....wether people
who can make it or not! but make your family drive their then...
it's really close!
2006-11-17 14:20:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what ever you do you have to include the grandparents.
2006-11-17 16:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by needanswers 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋