He doesnt like to use condoms. what should I do?

Question

Ok, me and my boyfriend have been having sex for almost six months and through out this whole time we haven't been using any kind of birthcontrol. We simply use the withdrawal method. So far its been turning out fine but this last week I had the worst scare ever. My period was almost a week late. He doesn't like to use condoms. I've told him that I wont have sex with him unless he has condoms. Yet he always seems to "forget" to buy some.I was thinking of trying to go to a clinic and ask for patches, since he ovbiously wont use condoms, but you see I don't know if that is such a good idea. I am scared of going to a clinic becuase I dont want them to call my parents or any of that. Also I dont know how much they cost.

Answer 1

sorry to say that ur bf seems a lil selfish...
he juz wan himself to have fun,
but didn't think of the consequences u might have..

if he rili 'forget',
buy him some them...
alwiz ready condoms for him,
so that he has no excuse for 'no condoms'

if he doesn't like,
make him like it...
there are so many types of condom out there...
fruit favour, glow in the dark(good for vision), 'barely there'(can't rili feel it), etc....
choose the type he likes...

or else,
take pills...
but taking pills has got alot of side effects,
not good for a girl....

Answer 2

Well, if you're not too young the clinic shouldn't tell your parents. It's supposed to be patient/ doctor confidentiality. Also, I think the patch has come off the market because of health reasons. Why don't you try the birth control ring? I was on it for quite some time and it was never any trouble to use. If I remember right it only cost about thirty dollars a month without insurance. But most importantly, you need to stick with what you've been telling your boyfriend: no condoms, no sex. Ask him next time he "forgets" to buy any would he rather pay $3 for a box of condoms or $300 a month in child support. I bet he'd remember then.

Answer 3

Go to a planned parenthood clinic. They are free and will not call your parents for any reason.

Your afraid your parents may find out about you trying to get on birth control. Yet you don't seem very afraid of pregnancy or of having to tell them you are pregnant. Very immature. If you can't handle the things that come with sex then you shouldn't be having sex yet.

Get your act together or you will have much bigger things to worry about. Like how to finish school with a baby.

If your guy doesn't respect you anymore than that you should really rethink your relationship. If he doesn't want to use condoms do you think he will want to pay child support and raise a kid. Much bigger inconvenience than the condoms.

You know you are doing something wrong with big consequences. You know how to fix it. So do it.

Answer 4

Insist he use a condom. You've been very lucky so far that you haven't gotten pregnant. You may have an STD and not know it. If you're over 18 the clinic won't call your parents (I'm not sure about that if you're under 18, you could call and ask first).

If a man "forgets" to buy condoms it's because he knows you'll have sex anyway. If that's the only way you'll allow it you can bet he'll be stocking up.

Protect yourself. :)

Answer 5

You are the last word on birth control and disease prevention. So YOU have to make the decision.

Do you want to get pregnant?

Do you want to contract an STD (sexually transmitted desease). Sure you think that he is only having sex with you, but would you bet your LIFE on it? Most young guys I know don't turn down any action they can find. Just take a look on this site and see all the girls that say their BF is cheating on them.

Make him wear a condom or he doesn't get any. And make sure he wears it. LOOK FOR YOURSELF to make sure.

Oh he's going to tell you a bunch of stuff like "I can't feel anything" and/or "It doesn't feel right" or any of a hundred excuses not to wear it. But YOU are the one that says what goes inside you. And YOU are the one that will have to deal with pregnancy or STD's.

So make the right decisions. Or YOU will suffer the consequences, while he walks away.

Answer 6

Listen girl this is what you do.... You always make sure you have condoms with you, go to CVS and buy a packet, this way you will have them when he does not... Now that this problem is solved... Why wont he wear a condom, if he cares for you or loves you he will respect you and have safe sex... This guy doesn't seem to care that much about you, I say drop him like a hot scone, he is not worth getting pregnant over, or maybe an std

Answer 7

Unless you want a baby, go to the clinic. From what I understand, they do not tell the parents.....You can also first call the clinic, and ask them.
If they cost money, ask your boyfriend to pay for them, or otherwise he might end up paying child support. Or hopefully he and you will get married....
You seem too young to have children right now, you have your whole life ahead of you. and who knows, as you mature, you might find a new guy
in your life.......One that will wear condoms also. Make he aware of what
could happen! You certainly are a very smart young lady.

Answer 8

Yeah the withdrawl method is great...until you get pregnant...and it doesn't work in preventing STDS or HIV and even condoms don't prevent the spread of HPV which causes cervical cancer in women, HPV is spread by skin to skin contact not bodily fluids. If he won't use a condom I suggest you not have sex with him. There is a lot more than can happen without a condom than pregnancy. Cervical cancer can END your chances of ever being pregnant, HIV is a long slow painful death and doesn't always show up right away, it can take up to 15 years for it to show up. So go ahead and keep putting yourself at risk, you probably don't want to be able to have children in the future or to be ALIVE for that matter.

Answer 9

Getting pregnant is one thing, but have you ever considered catching and STD or Worse AIDS. You need to do some research on AIDS in the teen population. Trust me the withdrawl method does not always work, a guy has a pre ejaculation before he even ejaculate. Do the research on the withdrawl method to. Stop playing with your life. A guy will tell you anything you want to hear to get "in". Then if you become pregnant you have another ball game to worry about, school , work, childcare, clothes, shoes, doctor bills when the baby get sick etc... Make the right choice if he can't respect that then make him kick rocks.

Answer 10

No Glove, No Love....

So, what happens if you get pregnant?

You and only you are stuck raising a kid alone.

Ya, do condoms fell horrible for a guy? YES... but if he cared about you and loved you he would do what is best for you.

Basically you both are playing Russian roulette. Its just a matter of time before that "bullet" hits you in the "head".

Stop what your doing... shut him off.

Sex is an expression of love and closeness. If he really cared, he would not do this to you.

Get on birth control AND get him to use a condom if your going to be intimate. Or, become a welfare mother.

Sorry, harsh, but its the truth.

Answer 11

If you're worried your parents are going to find out you're having sex, then you REALLY don't need to end up a mom right now. Don't know how old this guy is, or how old you are, but if he's not going to be responsible enough to slip one on now, do you really think he's going to be responsible enough to pay you child support every month for the next 18 years?!

There's a bigger issue at stake here- respect. He needs to respect you enough to prevent pregnancy. If he is so interested in what feels good "here and now", I can assure you he will bail if/when you tell him you're pregnant. It's not worth it. It's your future he could be ruining. Of course no one thinks about that when they're naked in bed.