How do you teach a 7 year old to not by a poor loser?

Question

Playing family games, my daughter gets very upset when she doesn't win

Answer 1

HEY -- it is JUST a Game -- and SHOW them that what that means -- so even the Adults must not display any anger when they lose either.

Answer 2

I would initiate games frequently with her (at least once weekly). Before you play the game, talk with her about being a good loser and playing fairly and if she doesn't then the game ends immediately. Stick to your word. Let the rest of the family continue to play and send her to her room. If it doesn't work after two times, then bring out the really fun games and tell her she can't play until she grows up a little bit.

Answer 3

At that age, why is winning and losing an issue.
Play games and dont keep score.
Ever play a game of basketball just to play
ever swim laps with a child not for time

Personally, I like to always keep things close
and most times I allow my little ones, or nephews nieces to win
then to not let them know im letting them, I keep it very close
and Ill win.
Its 50 50, but everytime the game ends....
you shake hands, or give out a high five, laugh and just play again

If shes too competetive right now..do other games and dont keep score. Go roller blading, bike riding, play catch,
do activities, dont compete directly with her

Build card houses, draw.
Just keep it fun, and again, dont keep score

Answer 4

I would like to be honest- to all you parents who have answered in the PC form of "why does it matter- let them win- and it's just about fun"- have you opened your eyes to today's competitive society???YES winning DOES matter to a 7 year old- YES it should matter and NO do not let them win- they should work for it- BE HONEST with your children!!! LOSING feels horrible and no one likes it- weather it be at hand-ball or that big promotion. Is this the society we WANT- no- will it change in our children's generation- probably not, so why set them up for failure, to sugar coat and "lie" as some have suggested. Bottom line- they win- congradulate them and don't focus on the negitive, just let them know that you had fun even though you didn't win- kids are the best at mimicking- it's how they learn a majority of all things.It also gets better with age, so do your best- you're doing fine- but BE HONEST!

Answer 5

My nephew (7yrs) is like that too, we do a lot of coloring or crafts. Try playing games that don't result in a "winner", or maybe try family activities that are just fun. Playing tag or going to the park. Keep "winning" games to a minimum, but when you do play games that end up with "winners", make sure to congratulate everyone "Good game everyone!" "Good job". Hopefully your child will learn that it really is "how you play" not if you win.

Answer 6

This is normal, but games get old, maybe u should get a good DVD for the family to watch or a puzzle to work.
7 yr old is a stubborn age and she needs positive games and encouragement.
Try games like ...lets all draw the cartoon on TV and see whos is the funniest.
Magazines and scissors are good at this age, plus puzzles,
and barbies, sewing cards.

Answer 7

Does she get to win? She's only 7. Winning is imp't at that age. Play a game she is almost guaranteed of winning, and congratulate her on her win. Then ask how she feels when she wins, knowing someone else loses. I would guess that it is about that age that children can start to recognize how someone else feels. I would ask my grandson what games he liked to play and he always picks something he feels he CAN win at.

Answer 8

Try to let her know that winning isn't important and that playing a game is just about having fun. The real winner is the one that had the most fun.

It's okay to lie to her when she's 7. :-)

Answer 9

Talk to her about it. You also could reward her when she is a good loser. First reward her every time she does it. Then reward her every few times. Then reward her occasionally, but randomly. Eventually she won't need any reward.

Answer 10

Make sure she doesn't listen to Democrats....