Mental abuse or...?

Question

I want to know if I have gone through mental abuse from my parents. My mother has always been an angry person who never gets on with any one after a while - suffers depression - mental problems. My father also has problems such as preferring to be a women rather than a man - he had a nervous breakdown and acted out this in my very street which happened when I was 10. I have witnessed alot of aggression and anger from them towards other people and me sometimes. They never hit me though. My mother use to drink alot regularly (Alcoholic). I seem to be lousing the small amount of friends I have, and after a family fall out she now seems to want me to not see the rest of the family due to small mistakes they seem to have made. My mother now I am grown up speaks in a strage voice occasionally which seems weird?

Answer 1

i sympathize with you, as my mother too suffers from mpd, or multiple personality disorder. it caused my family a lot of strain, especially with a father who was always gone for the military, and my sibling who is gay. i suffered through my family's break up, as my father left my mom for her best friend. he wanted me to go live with him but he told me that i could never speak to my mom or brother again. because of the disfunction in my home life, i took to a life of drugs, and a history of bad relationships with men. after years of wondering why i got the bad end of the life stick, i realized that it was up to me to change the cycle. you may have endured some mental trauma, like me, due to your familys disfunction-however, no matter what, the past is gone and it is time for you to pick up the pieces of yourself, and live in today. it is not your reponsibility to "fix" your family. there is help available to you through mental health centers located in your city. they can help you sort through the past so that it does not wreck your future. by the way, because of my decision to turn my life around, i am now almost 18 monhths clean and sober, and i am able to write u this from the college that i am attending! as for my family, i put my foot down and stopped letting them put me in the middle of their mess. i have a decent relationship with all of them, and life is slowly getting better. good luck in your journey, and remember to take care of yourself, first.

Answer 2

It is a hell of a childhood you describe and even if there was no intent on the part of your parents, their problems of mental ill health would surely have had some effect on a child still in their formative years. Moving out may be fraught with difficulty but you may want to try to find a person with the necessary skills to try to get all you witnessed and lived through into perspective and be able to step out of it all if even only for an hour once a week. There is no quick fix to it but you need to focus on you and be more detatched from their problems - they should between them have enough rationality to be seeking help in their own right. Good luck and hope there are better answers coming to you.

Answer 3

It sounds like you have gone through a lot with your parents. It is mental abuse because one way or another they manipulate you to gain something that might not be in your best interest. Take your mum to her doctor and ask him what can be done to help your mum with her alcohol abuse. As for your dad "preferring to be a woman rather than a man" is not a mental illness, however putting you through that experience, it is mental stress in someone so young, I take it you haven't had help for any of the problems you have been faced with? Maybe it is time to have a fresh start, and a little helping hand by a professional, will help you a lot.

Answer 4

It sounds like you have had a very hard time of it. Your parents should not have made your home such a place of anger and aggression. I think it would really benefit you to talk to a professional. There should be a distress centre or a community information centre like 211 in your area. Maybe think of talking to one of these resources for a referral to a counsellor. You deserve to be able to get out your feelings in a safe place. I hope things start getting better for you.

Answer 5

Your parents obviously have a few problems, or at least a few things to work out. However, this does not mean that there is any mental abuse going on. That really depends on your own "sanity" (for lack of a better word). If you find yourself having breakdowns or anything, especially because of your parents' situations, then that should be examined. Based on what you said though, your parents had (have?) issues, but not necessarily you.

Answer 6

You're family needs some serious help. If they won't go you should. It is emotional abuse to do these things in front of a child, they should know better. Dear just get some mental help, trust me you'll need it whether now or later. God bless you.

Answer 7

Sounds like they were just being the only people they knew how to be and you need to get past it...quit trying to find an answer and just accept that it is not your fault that they are who they are and did what they did...don't take it personally and you'll quit thinking about it in terms of abuse...hell, this whole world is offensive and abusive and we still survive and go on.

Make the decision to stop being a victim, NOW

Answer 8

Does it matter if you have suffered mental abuse? Are you trying to overcome your difficulties in life? Well ask your therapist. The question is are you as a grown person going to continue to let your parents screwed up ways influence your life's decisions?

Answer 9

most people have had messed up lives if you are grown and feel you need help (seems like you do) you should go see a professional if money is your problem call a local hospital and ask if they know of any free or discounted psychiatrists in your area good luck with every thing!!

Answer 10

your doomed hope your not still living at home with the adams family
sounds like a clip from that film misery
of course yr mentally abused