I'm worried about my friend who is coming home from Iraq...!!?

Question

OK I MET A GUY ONLINE WHO WAS DEPLOYED IN IRAQ(HE REALLY WAS,SHOWED ME PICS OF HIM AND HIS BROTHERS IN BAGHDAD,WE SAW EACH OTHER OVER WEBCAM)ANYWAY,WE'VE CHATTED EVERY OTHER DAY FOR A COUPLE OF MONTHS.SO HE SAID HE WAS LEAVING IRAQ ON THE 10TH(OR AT LEAST MOVING TO SOMEWHERE ELSE TO START THE REDEPLOYMENT PROCESS)......IT'S NOW THE 17TH AND I STILL HAVE NOT HEARD FROM HIM AND I'M WORRIED.....HE IS GOING BACK TO FORT CAMPBELL AND I KNOW THAT MANY OF THERE TROOPS HAVE BEEN COMING HOME(THEY STARTED ARRIVING ON THE 12TH)....HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO ACTUALLY GET HOME?.....I KNOW THAT ONE DOESN'T START THEIR LEAVE IMMEDIATLY ONCE HOME RIGHT?IF ANYONE CAN HELP CALM ME DOWN AND TELL ME OUT OF EXPERIENCE HOW THIS GOES ABOUT IT, WOULD REALLY HELP......HE MEANS ALOT TO ME!!!!!

HE SAID HE WOULD TRY TO CALL ME......I KNOW THAT HE MIGHT BE JUST TOO BUSY......HE IS NOT MARRIED THOUGH

WELL HE PROMISED HE WOULD LET DROP ME A LINE (IM,EMAIL,PHONE)......I THINK I'M WORRING TO MUCH HUH?

To tell you the truth not hearing from him would devastate me......we have so much in common ..it's remarkable....I have not told him that I'm falling in love with him.....I didnt want to scare him off...he kept telling me how special I am and how I'm"one in a million''.It would just really hurt if he would never talk to me again......thats understandable right?BTW...thanks alot for advice.

Answer 1

The soldiers at Fort Campbell have actually been coming home now since July. There are a LOT of people here so it has been a huge ordeal. It takes a lot of time, manpower, and patience to get 20,000+ soldiers home from Iraq. While they are in the process of redeployment they stay very busy and it's hard to get in touch with people. When my husband was on his way home I didn't hear from him much the last week or so - he called from Maine to let me know what was going on with his flights. I know that from the time he got to Kuwait to when his flight landed at Fort Campbell was about 4 days (it was the same both times he was deployed). It is not unusual for it to have been a week since you heard from him. Also, several incoming flights this week were delayed by a few days. I don't know how that affected everyone else, but it may have backed up everyone by a few days.

Once he gets to Fort Campbell, he will have a mandatory 7-day reintegration period. This is a post-wide requirement, everyone who comes home must go through it. If his flight lands after 6 pm, he may have the next day off (at the commander's discretion) - otherwise, reintegration starts the next day. The 7 days are half days, and the rest of the day he should have off. At the end of those 7 days, he will get a 4-day weekend, then back to work for normal work days. Once a certain percentage of the brigade has gone through reintegration (I think it was 75% for my husband's unit), they will release them for up to 30 days leave. My husband got home at the end of July and didn't get leave until September 18th, so it may be a while. (It shouldn't be that long for the guys who are coming home right now though.)

Please keep in mind that he will be very busy in the next few weeks. They have a lot to do when they get home, and even after leave is over they will still be dealing with post-deployment things. I am sure he will contact you when he gets a chance, you just need to be patient.

Answer 2

hey: do no longer commence sending him "stuff" that he has to hold around and can't keep or consume right now. deliver him a letter and ask him if he desires something he can no longer get there yet is approved to have sent from the States. additionally, letters, humorous greeting taking part in cards, photographs (sparkling ones as each and every of the adult adult males tend to make certain different adult adult males' photographs) are plenty greater useful than cookies. Cookies consistently are concept to be extreme high quality yet they're many times broken and the postage expenditures better than the fee of the cookies. whilst writing letters back and forth, that is a tip for you the two. often letters are available in bunches on the comparable time. style each and every letter on the back of the envelope. He ought to do it additionally. That way, he would be attentive to if a letter did no longer get to him and he can examine the letters interior the order which you wrote it and vice versa. ultimate desires, Larry Smith Senior grasp Sergeant, USAF (Ret.) First Sergeant

Answer 3

At the very least you helped him keep his sanity under difficult conditions, so even if you never hear from him again he owes you a debt of gratitude. At least he is now out of harms way, so you should smile.
That said, he has a lot of priorities to handle, and I wouldn't be a bit surprised if his mother isn't pretty high on that list. So relax and give him a chance to get his feet back on the ground.
There was a girl (now my wife of over 40 years) that I was very much in love with while I was in Vietnam,,, but it was almost 6 months after I was home before I dared even call her. If he is in love with you, absolutely the last thing he will want to do is rush things, and mess up your future together.

Answer 4

If you know his first and last name - and his unit, you can contact the department of defense as his 'girlfriend' and they should provide information regarding his arrival in the states, as well as a means to contact him.

Other than that, the general climate of secrecy surrounding deployment in Iraq makes this difficult for you, as you and he aren't married, and therefore have no legal standing.

I would suggest contacting his parents or family if you know any of them and ask their help as well.

Good luck.

-dh

Answer 5

First of all, it takes alot of crap to get home, get your crap, get debriefed, goto the mandatory meetings, psych. evals, then, you have to get your things set back up. Computers need internet, and it takes a while to get that set up. That said, have you thought of the possibility that he is married, or has a family? Give it time, don't worry too much. Best of luck.

Answer 6

It took my ex 2 weeks but I guess it could take longer. They don't have all the access to the Internet while in route home.

Answer 7

don't be so worried. the military is a little less then organized chaos. really, I know. he might have been moved to a place where he cant even get to a phone or computer. dont fret

Answer 8

First of all, "nchualing," keep your rude arrogant & ugly comments to yourself.

In answer to your question, he may not have acess to a computer, he is probably being debriefed, and his family may have plans for him once he is on leave.