here is the deal -- i am a very nice person and am very shy at first andi am not ugly either .... and i am so lonely and i need and want a boyfriend you know .. there is that empty spot in my life where i need that guy that person to be there help if you can please i am so lonely and sad all the time with this problem...
2006-11-17 13:33:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes shyness is mistaken for stand-offishness which sends the clear message "unavailable" or "don't even think it, buster". Since shyness is a part of your personality, you need to make certain that guys are not getting the wrong message. This means that you should be aware of the slightest bit of interest shown and encourage it even if all you can manage is eye contact and a smile. It might feel awkward at first but keep at it.
2006-11-17 13:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by babydoll 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
finding a boyfriend or girlfriend is always complicated. I used to ask myself the same question not too long ago. You have to start making small changes first. For example, be a little more social, start going out with the girls more, smile more, go where the guys are. Then you have to somehow let the guy know you're interested( a glance every now and then) Don't be afraid to let them know that you're unique, in your own way. Of course you just don't want a boyfriend, you want someone special and that is the hard part. Just because you are single doesn't mean theres anything wrong with you . Have fun meanwhile and don't stress out about it because it will only repel the boys. Its all about timing, it'll happen when you don't expect it. ;-))
2006-11-17 21:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by ocsupra 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Babe !! Dont be sad and lonely, I can make you laugh your $#@^ butt off! Have some better questions for you to ask. 1. Why am i so friggin hot ? 2. Why cant I meet someone who is in my league ? 3. Why am i so dam cool ?
Do you like going out ?? Go out 2nite and have a blast! club, movie or a rest. What part of the wolrd are you in?
2006-11-17 21:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by jukeandjive 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You may be sending out "desperation" signals without knowing it. Get out of your "pond." You may have been living and socializing in the same group that you've cast you line in and gotten no hits. Move on. Get involved in things that you really like and where others who like what you like congregate. Be social, but of course, on guard. Safety in numbers, always start with making friends in the same sex.
Be social, interesting, strong but not clingy. The type of guy you need is one who will let you blossom, not try to dominate you. You are already shy so easy prey. Do you have friends who could introduce you to someone new?
2006-11-17 21:42:21 · answer #4 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think if what you say is true then you only need to go places to meet men, you could try lots of places but i think the best is a local class because guys like to feel smart and in a class you have a reason to talk. note bars and clubs probably won't work for you as you would need a wing (wo)man to get your shy ball rolling, also try smiling and making brief eye contact with cute guys
2006-11-17 21:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by hi people 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been having the exact same prob, I found this guy, I like him, and I'm pretty sure he likes me, but you should try to find an ok guy, talk to him about random stuff (if you don't know what he likes of course ;-) and try to become friends with him. Then he might start liking you a little more and BAM! You got yourself a guy. (That is my plan at least, its working pretty good except for the BAM! part :) Good luck!!!
2006-11-17 21:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by Mel Fortin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it the right guy will come in time just enjot being single for now and have fun sure it can get lonley but look on the bright side of things. u dont have to worry about any break ups any time soon. believe me it might seem bad now becuase your not with anyone, think about having your heart broken by the one guy that u truly liked, it feels much worse.
so just be happy your not in that situation, be happy being single where u can flirt and not get in trouble by a jealous b/f.
2006-11-17 21:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by Scarlet5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry sweetheart, your time will come, good things will come to those who wait right? Anyhow another reason might be that it's Friday and you're on the computer, go out with your friends and play girl! Heck I'd be out there with you if I didn't have so much damn homework! But if you don't want to wait for one to find you, become friends with a certain boy, and soon it'll sort itself out.
2006-11-17 21:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by LalaLola 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a nice boy and talk to him. Become his friend first then make a move because you will feel comfortable with him. Or have one of your friends set you up with someone.
2006-11-17 21:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by meme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the chinese have a saying. the more u rush, the lousier the work is done. well erm, meaning don rush, when the time is here, the right guy will come. don worry..there are thousands or even millions like you.
2006-11-17 22:23:00 · answer #10 · answered by sulaji84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋