Guys night out?

Question

Would it be wrong to go behind my woman's back when she is sick and meet some buddies at a college bar where there are a lot of college chicks dancing at and all that stuff

Answer 1

if she is sick and you want to remain in her good graces you should be there comforting her and taking care of her, You are sick if you think she isn't going to be as mad as hell at you when she finds out where you were while she was sick. You are not lifes partner material. Hopefully you will grow up some day.

Answer 2

General rules:
People who are in relationships certainly have the right to hang out with just their friends on any given occasion UNLESS:
You already told boy/girlfriend you would hang out with them that night, or,
You spend a lot more time with said friends than you do with boy/girlfriend (why even date if that's the case?), or,
Boy/girlfriend makes a one-time request that you miss a regular friend thing just once because something special is going on, or,
Boy/girlfriend asked you to cancel and stay with them because something truely bad has just happened (friend or relative in the hospital, pet died, that sort of thing). (Good friends can ask you to cancel on boy/girlfriend for a similar good reason, as long as bf/gf doesn't have a crisis at the same time.)
About the hot girls: You don't have to shut your eyes every time you see a hot girl/guy just because you have a boy/girlfriend, and you can hang out with your friends in an environment that has hot guys/girls as long as they remain part of the background.

Your particular case seems to be outside of these general rules. First, going behind her back? That's a disrespectful way to treat anyone regardless of the specifics. If you consistantly follow the above guidelines, you won't have to go behind your boy/girlfriend's back because no reasonable person will have a problem with you seeing your friends (and if they're unreasonable, you dump them). Second, unless you've been taking care of her for a week straight (in which case you deserve a night or two off), running out to party while your boy/girlfriend is sick is not a very nice thing to do. Third, your question makes it sound like you prefer oggling hot college girls to spending time with your girlfriend. How does she feel about this, and why are you dating her if you'd rather be doing something else? Finally, unless you and your girlfriend have an explicit agreement that both of you are comfortable with (as opposed to one of you bullying the other into it), turning the hot girls into anything other than background scenery (or completely platonic friends you choose because you like them as people, not because they're hot) IS cheating and it IS wrong, regardless of the circumstances or who finds out about it.

So my advice would be stay with your girlfriend tonight, and think about if you're treating her fairly regarding your friends and the hot background girls and if you are, if she is being reasonable about you hanging out them. You could even try talking to her about it.

Answer 3

Wrong? No, as a matter of fact, I highly recommend it.

Answer 4

Remember this; it's not cheating if she doesn't find out.

Answer 5

only if she finds out

Answer 6

YES IT'S JUST NOT RIGHT, YOU SHOULD LOVE ONLY YOUR WOMAN OR GO TO HELL

Answer 7

Depends on what you do when you get there.