I am totally bored with life.?

Question

I am too picky to find a girl and at thirty one the field has narrowed alot. There just isn't anything out their that makes me happy or that I enjoy. I am sick of making myself work out. I am sick of my job. I have suffered with deppression for years and the hours upon hours of therapy and drugs I have taken do not help. I have tried God but Christianity doesn't seem to do much. I am a Christian but it seems God isn't interested with my enjoying this life.

My deppression gets this way alot. Its not just something that has recently happened but something I have struggled with for decades.

Answer 1

Hey...Hey! Hold on there buddy! Don't give in so easily! You've got to MAKE something happen. I TOTALLY understand about the field being narrow! LOL. You are SO hard on yourself, you sound like I used to be. Get back in touch w/God...believe me, He'll give you hope. Figure out what's making you unhappy and what used to make you happy. What are your old hobbies, any friends that you used to enjoy hanging out with (clean fun), etc. All that good stuff. You may just need to change jobs! Find a job you'd be interested in doing...something you like. You can't be THAT boring, huh? You've gotta have SOMETHING going for you. Good luck! You're gonna make it....just hang in there and don't give up.

Answer 2

It sounds like you're starting another episode or cycle? Or are in the midst of one? Medication only can do so much, and depending on what you're taking, it can sometimes not be so helpful. And depending on the "orientation" of the therapist, it may not be the right fit for you.

Difficulty finding pleasure in things you used to enjoy is common in folks who suffer with depression, and the lack of energy and interest make it harder to seek something new to refresh you and bring you up a bit. Working out helps a little because of the chemical reaction (release of endorphins), but there are also other ways to cause that same reaction. Unfortunately, if you're looking for something outside to make you better, you're going to be let down. That alone won't help. It's going to take a combination of things, including effort on your part that you will find it hard to give.

But your best bet is to remember this...."This too shall pass." And that, as bad or low as you may feel, it isn't about whether God is interested in you enjoying life. He didn't give you life to enjoy it, but He will help you through it, and bring you what you need when you need it. But there is always work to be done on your end. Even with the meds, and the therapists, and the pastors. Don't just give up, reach out!

When you feel the least like asking, ASK! When you feel the least like seeking, SEEK! When you feel the least like doing, DO! It will help, because it will be YOU contributing to your well-being, and your healing. And you can do it, you have the strength. You just don't realize it. The pain, and sorrow.....that part is temporary. It goes away.

Answer 3

If this isn't the Life you ordered, well there aren't any refunds.
Maybe you are shopping in the wrong aisle.
Redirect your terms of happiness and get something in your life that is exciting.
Go to your local animal shelter and find an ugly dog that nobody loves or wants and give him the love you're not finding.
You'll really can't find something until you stop looking for it.
And the dog will put you in the "isn't he adorable" category and you'll have to beat women off.
Oh, and god never said we had to enjoy anything. That's our constitution. (and the pursuit of happiness)

Answer 4

Try doing other things, new exciting things. Stop being so damned picky about women and get yourself some. God leaves it up to you to make yourself happy. This life was put in front of you to learn something, so ask yourself what am I learning from doing these things? Get involved at your local church, try skydiving anything to break up the monotony. Get a different job, go back to school, volunteer do something else. God bless you

Answer 5

i'm not going to preach to u about why u should not give up on god or life. just want u to know that there are many people who whould give anything to get their lives back after they die. people who even though most things were not peaches and roses in life always knew that troubles don;t last always. do u know how many times i felt like no one loved me or i would never be accepted in life. now i pray everyday for one more day so that i can be with my family and friends. i don't fear death, I just fear going to soon. I also want to make sure I'm prepared to meet my savior when i do go. so if u think u are suffering now, pls don't die and go to hell or u will suffer and eternity. wishing u had the chance to come back and do things differently with chance at life u were given.

Answer 6

At 31 your life isn't over. I married my husband when he was 32 and he had never been married before. Yes, there are less women to choose from, and some may even have kids, but there are a lot of classy ladies out there still. Get out of your shell and do something that makes you happy, take up skiing.

Answer 7

Act like some body who is not depressed. Small children are great role models for this job. Find them at a play ground and study their behavior. GET INVOLVED with life. or not ........

Answer 8

Your depression doesn't help matters, but life is what you make, fight a little harder you sound like a nice young man.

Answer 9

DO YOU HAVE A JOB THAT YOU WOULD REALLY LIKE TO DO IF SO THAT COULD MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER ABOUT YOUR DAY. TRY ANOTHER DR. OR GOING TO A SELF HELP TALK GROUP. IT HELPED FOR ME. WISHING YOU THE BEST. I'VE BEEN THERE TOO.

Answer 10

Get a motorcycle and have some fun.