2006-11-17 13:12:50 · 15 answers · asked by sylvannah n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WAIT cause you dont ask someone who just had a crisis out. how would you feel if it happened to you? ya know?
2006-11-17 13:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a good friend and comfort him. Ask him if he wants anything and spend as much time with him as possible, just being a good friend only. After he starts to go back to normal he will see what a good friend you were and it will hopefuly turn into him seeing how good of a gf you would be too.
2006-11-17 13:18:20 · answer #2 · answered by montana_infantry_man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to give him time to grieve. the last thing you want him to do is to focus on you isntead of his dad. I've been there. I was the one grieving and instead of focusing on the decseased, I focused on the guy and that was bad. it slowed the grieving process. he needs this time to focus ont hat. if you two are meant to be it will happen. you need to hold yourr horses. the process can take 6 months to a year but if you really care about his feelings you will bide your time and wait for him and he will appreciate it and see you as quality woman. you CAN help him with the girving pocess. just don't hit on him. The best way to help someone who si grieving is to just listen to him. He may want to talk about his dad and you need to be open to that. I suggest given your feelings you back off. I would also suggest bringing a tray of food and a card and expressing your sympathies if the loss was recent and checking in to see if you can help. alot of times after the funeral and everyone is gone, no one checks in to see how the family is doing. check in on him andhis family to see how they are doing and be available to talk and see if he brings up his dad. asks how his family is and just gently let him know you are open to talking about his grief. help him find a grief support group. you can talk about your dad dying too and that may actually help him to relate. right now is the time to just be his friend. he should NOT be looking for a girlfriend rightnow. if he DOES you shoudl redirect him. it's what a friend does. a boost int he hugner and sex drives is e bodies way of proing it is still alive after a death int e family or of a close friend and he may be feelign that. He may also be searchign for a purpose and soemoen int he family may also fall intoa depression. ther may also be a "rock" int he family. this person doesn't so much as grieve as much as helpt he rest of the family. they do theirs down the road and whent hat hits it hits hard. it's even tougher if he decides to suddenly make a serious life change. (the sudden desire to go to colelge or get amrried get a better job, which does happen) soem have been known to want to live the life thhey feel the eceased shoudl have lived. Death brigns about a change in all of us. the relationship shoudl NOT be one of them. He needs to find himself without his cad, jsut liek you had to and you cna't be a distraction. you canhelp him but you shoudln't try to hinder him. help him focus on his dad, not on you. One day, when it's all over, and he's through the process and really ready to date, you can tell him that you like him, assuming you still do. BEcuase you're gonna see alot of ugly stuff this is a chane to really get to know him and his family. I knwo this isnt' the asnwer you wanted but death has a way of bringing reality crashig down. sweetie, I wish I coudl ive youa more positive answer but I have to tell youw hatis biest for this guy because I have been where he is. I cna tell you if you distract him, he's always goign ofeel guilty that he was pickignup girls over the casket instead of mourning his father.
2006-11-17 13:30:47 · answer #3 · answered by leeanndemon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the guy needs a shoulder to lean on right now. I wouldnt tell him right now though...maybe wait a while
2006-11-17 13:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are his friend and he can call you any time he needs somebody to talk to. Be there for him. Let him know you are there. Help him get through this difficult time. There is plenty of time to be boyfriend and girlfriend later.
2006-11-17 13:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by clueless_nerd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him let him know what he's going through and for right now just be his friend
2006-11-17 13:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him how you feel. YOu both have something in common and you can tell him that he'll be alright since you've gone through with it already.
2006-11-17 13:15:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what happenend to you. He really needs someone like you there to talk to him and let him know how you got through it.
2006-11-17 13:19:46 · answer #8 · answered by AG3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him im sure he will like the news !! Maybe it will bring his spirits up
2006-11-17 13:15:42 · answer #9 · answered by Chris B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you undersand what he is going through and tell him you are intrested and we could go slow or as fast as you want
2006-11-17 13:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by mixedgrl1215 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋