As a kid, I had hearing problems, and didn't learn to talk rite, right away; therefore had social problems, then I moved when I was about 9 across the country (still shy then), and on top of that I have the quietest, shyest, most family oriented parents ever. I'm 15 now, and have tried to move on past that, but there still seems to be that past that holds me back. I have lots of friends, I chat with most people in every single class, muscular body, get comments on my blue eyes all the time,and I'm a standout at most sports, yet everytime I'm around my parents, I revert back to my old self, and they just seem to remind me of what I use to be (the quiet nerd who kept to himself). I know I have potential as a "highschool jock" or w/e you want to call it, but it just seems my past and parents being the way they are (very overprotective as well, they were the nerds in their highschool days), holds me back from reaching that potential.
Any suggestions?
2006-11-17 12:51:39 · 4 answers · asked by high heat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are growing up & maybe trying to speed things up as most young lads do. Do you suppose they are trying to keep you focused on your education. Knowing how important that will be to your future. That is their job & by the sounds of things they have done a pretty good job so far & you have benifitted from their direction. Think long about what they are saying. Yes they were there once themselves & are aware of what is important. Learn to balance all those things you mentioned is a tough job.
2006-11-17 13:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to revert back to your old self with family. It really is okay. These are people that have seen you at your worst and at your best. And they still love and want whats best for you. They're point of view comes from love and concern.
Your parents will understand what you're going through, but you must explain to them what your concerns are. Tell them this is something you want and with that will come friends, teammates and other social possibilities. Explain how you would like your peers to perceive you and explain to them what you are feeling.
Look, your parents want you to be a happy, well adjusted "normal" guy. They want you to be successful in school as well as life.
But one thing...Your past doesn't define you nor the people your are related to. You define you. You can take from your past what has made you a reflective, thoughtful, caring person and use it to be the person you want to be.
The fact that you want to broaden your horizons is great. Communicate and you will be on your way. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-11-17 13:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by Bexcy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a jock doesn't necessarily mean potential, and neither does popularity, or vanity. Frankly being humble and doing the right things to mature throughout life holds more potential.
2006-11-17 13:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by Country 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anybody fears from a particular issues while dealing with it for the 1st time. yet all people is courageous adequate to be careful interior the 2nd time. in short, an experience makes the guy fearless.
2016-12-29 04:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋