Ladies, How important is compatibility to you?

Question

Over the years I have known a few lovely ladies that I really get along great with. We believe in the same things, we have great fun together, and we become very good friends. I get along great with their friends and families too. It seems to me that we are extremely compatible. And they agree, but still, no romance.

It's not just commonality either. We are truly compatible. We have great chemistry. Yet these girls seem to indicate that they don't want anything more than a friend. I'm not an ugly guy either. I'm a good looking fellow. My mommy said so. LOL

So what is it then? What else are you gals looking for??? I have had this compatibility with 3 girls so far. You'd think that one would actually see me for who I am and connect the dots, but they don't.

So what am I missing? Are they just blind? What can I do to make sure that the next girl that comes along will notice how great of a catch I am for her? Do I have any hope for one particular girl I am totally smitten with?

I think some of you are confusing commonality with compatibility. Compatibility means you get along, that you work well together. Pretty much that you belong together, IMHO. It doesn't always mean you are similar.

Answer 1

Sometimes the trouble with being overly compatable with girls is that we love second opinions, so we will want to keep you around as a friend in case we need love advice or just someone to relax and chill out with.
Whats interesting about being around someone that I am totally compatable with is that because of the level of relaxation it usually feels like we are freinds straight away. And once you are a girls valued friend she wont always want to f iup the comfort level by adding romance.
Say I went on a date with you, and it went really well, and I wanted someone to bounce it off of.... but we had such an easy time talking that i just told you flat out. That leaves no room for the agonizing obsessing on yahoo answers over how you really feel, and how i really feel, and that kind of daydreaming and occasional obsession really kicks off romance well.
So my advice to you is to not go out of your way to reassure and create comfort right away for the girls as to how things are going, and to make sure that your first dates are actually dates and not just hanging out enjoying being compatable until you run out of time. Cut things a little short.
Also, I would advise that while you may be compatable in conversation in thought romance works a little differently. If you think you may understand or connect with a a person so well you can anticipate their needs I would suggest you follow up on that understanding with less words and more action. For example, if she is upset about a day at work instead of always thinking about what words would work and analysing it with her (friend territory) Do something that you anticipate would comfort her. This way her analytical patterns will be devoted to how the hell you knew that chinese food the right song and a foot massage were in order, instead of just thinking about her day while talking to you about it.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Hahaha. Not lacking confidence, are we? Your problem is that you're waiting too long, allowing yourself to become firmly entrenched in the 'friend' category. It can be very, very difficult to climb out of that thing.

You may want to try some playful flirting, though. Just to put the idea out there. See if it takes. If not, hey, you were only playing.

Answer 4

Compatibility isn't everything, people that are complete opposites still fall in love , its all what people have taste in, maybe your so alike and such a friend, they don't want to ruin it, maybe if you find a girl that you like, don't think you need to be great friends with her first, start off by telling her how you feel and that you like her, before she becomes dependant on you as a friend. or something like that...
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Answer 5

compatiblilty is great, but it's not romance. friends are compatable. lovers are inseperable. playful flirting, making the first move, those things are great, but if your girl is anything like me you've got to start big (no that's NOT what i mean). don't ask her out "as friends" ask her on a seriously romantic date... sweep her off her feet then who knows what might happen? good luck!

Answer 6

The relavance of compatibility is about 5% if you have at least an 8 inch penis. Trust me.

Answer 7

I always say, tell her how you feel. This is the problem I had with my boyfriend, whom I just broke up with. He wouldn't be honest about his feelings.

Answer 8

maybe you need ot make the first move. Good LUCK!!!