My bf and I have been in a LDR for almost 4 years now because of university. We are also from different countries and of course have different cultures. Now we are soon graduated we are trying to set things... the thing is this he's asking me to marry him... but I know he does it because I won't accept move in with him because It is not how my culture says it... if he could do it his way he would live with me first before getting married. He insists he wants to marry so that we can live together and I am happy and confortable living with him... but I just dont think he wants it since it seems he's doing it for me.... am i crazy for not accepting this?... Of course i want it... when we are together everything is just great and I'd love to start my life with him. I just think im bothered because his proposal wasnt as much romantic since I know he's doing it for me.
2006-11-17 12:44:13 · 2 answers · asked by Aija 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
4 years is quite a long time.....but it wasnt spent together so umm i dont know....but you guys managed to do something which for some people is almost impossible,4 years and you are still together.....i dont think a guy would ask a girl to marry him if he didnt mean it though so it should be a good sign.if you love him,then dont think about it twice and do it.marry him and be happy.if you are not sure about his feelings for you,,then give it some time to think about it,or talk to him to clear your doubts.
only you can find the answer to what you need to know,only you can make a decision.
all the best.
2006-11-17 13:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by pinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense but if this question is targeted to use and not your boy friend, well that's a problem in its own. Honestly living together before marriage is actually a really good idea. Knowing what it will be like for at leased a year and getting threw it is probably a very good way of making sure.
But to respect your culture, i would say you guys need to at leased live near each other before getting married. So many relationships go sour when one partner starts so see the positive and the negative of there partner. You really will not see that till you live with each other, or spend more time with each other at leased. Good luck
And communicate with him!!
2006-11-17 12:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by luffa202 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋