why is she always taking my man?

Question

i have this one friend who is like super pretty and she can get pretty much whoever she wants and she STILL always takes my boyfriend. even if i tell her that i'm in love with them, she always seems to get them to ditch me for her. this has happenned with my first bf to my most recent one. people tell me i should feel bad for her cuz she "must have low self esteem" but i myself have WAY LOW LOW LOW self esteem and i don't pull that bull on my friends. why is she always taking my man?

Answer 1

sweet you need to kick your friend to the curb
and these were not meant for you
because the day you meant a man that is for you he will not leave you for no one
but mark my words if she continue like that one day she will meet her match
she will try to take someone else man away and the person will not look too kindly to that
So pray that God give you the strength to forgive her & move on
Goodluck
by the way if she ever have the decency to ask you why you stop being her friend tell her that you are tired of having a friend with LOW SELF ESTEEM and if she is still want more answers tell her about the issues with the boyfriend
Again
Good luck &
Good Bless

Answer 2

Because of your WAY LOW LOW LOW self esteem is why you keep pulling in these barney's who would do that to you. You also need to ditch your "friend" because she is only doing this to make you feel bad and her feel better. I had a friend like this for 3 years and I told her that I could not be her friend because she made me feel bad about myself and even though she called all the time for a year, I just couldn't put myself through that. Now she is fat with 6 kids from 5 different fathers. You know that you are worth more as a friend than you are getting from her. Toxic friends containmenant you. Cut her out.

Answer 3

She is just letting you do all the hard work. Finding the guy, getting to know all his faults, and then showing her how nice he can be toward a girlfriend. Without you she won't get anyone because she needs to see the guy put through a trial period. Ditch her she isn't much of a friend if she is doing this to you. If you have low self esteem maybe she is the reason why.
DITCH HER.

Answer 4

For one thing she is jealous. Second i don't knoww how long you could put up with this, i would of fought her by now, you need to tell her how you feel, and let her kno dat every time she takes your bf it makes your self esteem lower then what it already is. If she don't listen then the next bf you get let him know about her, and if she try 2 take him, start yelling at her, or fight her. just put her in her place, let her know you aren't playing, then she realizes how much she is hurting you, and if she still don't listen, then you shouldn't be her friend anymore bc she isn't a true friend to you.

Answer 5

To start with she doesn'y fall under the catagory of "friend"...
SL$%^&UT is more like it... she has the whole world out there so why does she have to go after your guy...
ditch the BI$%^&*TCH... anf find a true friend that would know the boundaries that friends normally abide by... in my part of the world you don't even date your best friends ex boyfriends... you deserve better

Answer 6

Part one: you're picking the wrong men to begin with.

Men are not stuffed animals that can be picked up and carried away. They are fully responsible for their own actions, the same way women are. Your "friend" did not wave a magic wand and control your boyfriend's tongue while he told you he was breaking up with you. He made that choice on his own. If he cheated on you, he made that choice on his own as well. If he was willing to cheat on you with this particular girl, then he would have been willing to cheat on you with any other girl who was willing. You deserve someone better, someone who will not cheat on you with anyone. Or to put it another way, if your boyfriend is really trustworthy he will tell your "friend" and anyone else who goes after him to stop it each and every time they try something.

Part two: this girl is not your friend.

She is not responsible for your boyfriend's actions, but she is responsible for her own. And to actively go after someone who is already in a relationship is wrong, even if the person you go after refuses to cheat. She is not treating you with respect and you deserve better friends who don't go after people who are already in relationships.

Summary: If you've promised your boy/girlfriend not to kiss/date/whatever anyone else, to break that promise is cheating and cheating is wrong. If you're not in a relationship but you kiss/date/whatever someone who is in a relationship and has promised not to, you are aiding and abetting a cheater and that is wrong too. To try to break up someone else's relationship because you want to date one of the people in it is wrong, too. All of the above is equally true regardless of which gender is doing what.

Answer 7

I think cuz she knows she can and enjoys pulling guys strings to get what she wants. I think shes not your friend and you can find one thats more honest and will stay clear of anyones boyfriends. I also feel one day she might find herself alone when they find out what shes really like.

Answer 8

personally, i think it's because she is jelous that even though she is pretty, you always get the better, nicer man. maybe since she always takes him, you might not want to tell her anymore when you have a new crush. she may be able to have whatever she wants, and apparently it's what you have, so i think she is jelous. just be careful about which stuff you should tell her and which stuff you should keep to yourself. sorry about that whole sitch...hope it gets better. good luck!

Answer 9

Because you are stupid for still calling her a friend and for letting her be in your life, ditch that biotch cause she isn't a friend, HELLO!?!?

Answer 10

Mabey she's jealous cuz she thinks YOU'RE the one who always gets the guy. But if you're absolutely sure she does it on perpose.......DITCH HER AND FIND SOMEONE WORTH YOUR TIME