I fall in love with a nice Indian girl. But I am not Indian, so her parents are against our marriage. What to do?
2006-11-17 12:40:54 · 20 answers · asked by Serpent G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-11-18 14:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her parents may have a reason for opposing. Find out what these are. Discuss with your lady friend whom you want to marry.In India the concept is that you don't simply marry an individual, but with the entire family tradition.If the families find things harmonious it looks better.The concept of marriage and a family life changes with the age.Suppose, she is the only daughter, then her parents would like to see that their son-in-law is of the same caste who would do the last rites when they die.This is a wish most Indians cherish, if they have the only child as daughter.
If both of you feel very strongly about each other, even after giving time and space, then go ahead and marry, provided the law is in favour.But offending parents' wish will definitely go down her psyche and she may not behave as sweetly as she is doing right now.And this may recoil on your married life. So the idea is to take her parents along by gentle persuasion.
2006-11-17 21:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Serpent G,
There are a lot of things which have to be analysed & decided in an indian marriage. More so if the the girl is an Indian. As you have not disclosed your nationality, it is difficult to give you a suggestion at this point.
In India, marriage is an institution & we Indians regard any marriage as divine happening in anyone's life. We respect the bondage & try to live together for life. The parents in India have a very big role to play in their children's marriages, as it is not probably so in other countries. If marriages don't click, the parents are also affected very much, because emotionally, they are all too deeply involved in each others lives. The attachment, love, concern, faith, commitment, sacrifice, tolerance & things like these cannot be understood by other nationals so well. We still believe that, one man, one wife, one marriage & so on, & if marriages fail in our communities, that is the greatest disappointment which we would want to avoid.
If you can understand the traditions of our people, culture, tastes, understanding, feelings, tolerance, etc.
of our people, and stay forever with this Indian girl, in times of happiness & sorrow, then you please think of marrying her, or else please look for someone like minded.
Good luck.
2006-11-17 22:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by sensible scorpio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your young the Love will be great, but with Indian in-laws and they are against your marriage, I would be carefull. I wish you would have told us, which Indian tribe she is from. or do you mean an Indian woman from India ?? Lots of difference on how we answer. I am gonna think your speaking about an American Indian. I have an Navjho, Indian friend. She married a bohemian fella. One time she tied her long black hair around his privates and it cut off the blood circulation to his private, while he was sleeping . Then one time she shaved all the hair off his body as he laid sleeping. Poor thing had to wear a hat for many months till his hair grew back. Many times she threatened to scalp him. Her Mother was real good to her white son-in-law. But after the man had been married to this Indian girl for many years, she turned into a true savage. After having five kids , they finally got a divorce. The Indian girl got married again, and the poor bohemian man turned into a full fledged alcaholic. He looks like he has been whipped and dragged behind a horse. Think twice.
2006-11-17 20:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're in love marry her...forget about what her parents think....i know many indians who are married to non indians...i myself have a non indian boyfriend....it's your's and her life, not her parents...the world is changing too...there are so many more couples who are from different races
2006-11-18 06:10:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there was a joke:what is heaven?chinese food,us salary,german beer and indian wife.but now it has become almost ubiquitious in india to fear women because of the appearence of some of the discriminatory laws overlooking the wickedness on part of the women .therefore i would suggest u that don't do it , in fact any kind of 'sweetheart' relationship is basically hypocritic.
2006-11-17 23:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by ANIRBAN B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can get married without the parents consent if you are both over the legal required age but the best thing if you love this girl is speak to her parents and go from there good luck
2006-11-17 20:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by redbabz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love triumphs over all.
If you love her, and she loves you, you will find a way to persuade her parents to see your way. Also, you should wait, when they are able to spend more time with you and get to know you better, they might see you in a different light
Meanwhile, you can always sleep on it! Maybe, your answer will come to you in a dream....
2006-11-17 20:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes as long as you love her.. n u truely feel from deep down in side that she is the one for you and there is no other. put it this way .. if you would run back into a burning building to save her then chances are you love er more then anything in this world .so follow your heart and soul
2006-11-17 22:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by chantee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, IFyou are a U.S.citizen, single and of legal age and your bride to be is un married an of legal age.
2006-11-17 20:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by ronnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really adore her, marry her anyway. The end. She's the one that has something to work out here, not you.
2006-11-17 20:43:44 · answer #11 · answered by feliscorvis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋