Here's the case: I became the new partner of my girlfirend two weeks after she broke up with her ex-girlfriend ( yeah, im in a lesbian relationship. So?) They lived together with the ex-girlfriend's mother and siblings. Now, that we are living together in a different apartment, my partner still gives financial support to her ex-girlfriend because she knew that her ex-girlfriend wouldn't be able to pay the bills alone. (My partner was the one in-charge in paying the bills when they were still together) She told me she is just giving her ex-girlfriend time to adjust and she will eventually stop from caring and giving money. I am fine with that since I trust her, but I can't stop myself from getting jealous and insecure just thinking they're still in very good terms and communicating everyday. How should I take this?
2006-11-17 12:17:24 · 15 answers · asked by anime_phyl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, that's a rough situation. Its all good to help for a little while, but her ex seems to getting a little bit to dependent on your girlfriend. The bottom line is that her ex needs to grow up and be a women, it doesn't take that long to get get your stuff together. Tell your girlfriend to give her a couple of pointers and move on. Keep your head up!
2006-11-17 15:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by songbirdz03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder which of the two has the biggest difficulty in moving on? Your girlfriend or her ex? The ex needs to make some changes such as getting a better paying job and getting more responsibility or she could end up being around longer than you want.
Are you sure you're not a rebound girl for your current amour? You came into her life just two weeks after the break up which is not a lot of time for your girlfriend to accept things will change. The break up seems amicable just realize that you are in a predicament that could be ripe for disappointment.
Be careful with your heart and listen to your conscience because love is a light and like any light it can blind you.
2006-11-17 12:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by sprydle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does her ex work or any of her family??? Well I would also be jealous as hell...Yes-it takes time after a breakup. Espicially if it was a long relationship. I am also in a lesbian relationship and this sounds all to familer to me. Exept my case was a bit worse. My girl and her ex were on and off for 8 years. Then we got together and everyone warned me about her & her ex. They said they always end up together. Well-me being a nice person, I did not hate her(I had no reason...yet...) Well I tried hanging out with my girl and let her ex come over so we could all be friends and I walked outside and found them kissing in the car. Weeks after that Tonya-the ex-got drunk and came to where we were staying at and Got jen-my girl to go with her. Jennifer wouldn't even look at me around Tonya. She wouldn't kiss me. She didn't want to hurt Tonya's feelings!!! What about mine? Well she left with Tonya that weekend and I told her it was over. Sunday she came crying back to me and said she realized that she wanted me. Were still together almost 10 months now and she cheated on me again. When she drinks she'll call her behind my back. And we live in a small town. I am sure she runs into her. It's not fun and you shouldn't have to put up with it. For Jennifer it is an improvement since weve been together, this is the longest she's stayed away from Tonya. I guess they have to learn that they can love again. If I could start my relationship all over again knowing I had to deal with all this- I wouldn't do it. I know i sound stupid,but I love her and as far as i know she's been faithful for a while. We live together and she keeps my son at night while I work. I wish you luck and please don't be naieve like me. Email me anytime if you wanna talk.
2006-11-17 13:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by sexygal8321 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep no offense.She would not deserve you. you're able to no longer could positioned up together with her calling you issues like that. i'm guessing you already know what , no who you prefer! there are some issues to recollect. a million. you're able to locate out why your contemporary female buddy is indignant alot of the time 2.Ask her why she cant have a kinfolk with you! 3.tell her the way it would make you sense.and for fill your hopes. 4.Ask why she is talking to her Ex? 5.Is she going although a level in her existence? If Any of those an argument i might attempt form it out and notice the way it is going if no longer ... nicely shes needless to say no longer on an identical place you're! the huge component is your needless to say no longer happy.yet you're able to remember why you left your Ex. If it grew to become into over something you would be sure now i do no longer see why you advert your ex shouldn't supply it a pass. Fist off communicate on your contemporary gf on the subject of the factors I made.
2016-10-22 06:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by avey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you never been in a relationship that you had to pull back from slowly? If you really trust your girlfriend, don't worry about this. You can't just drop a person out of your life all at once without some major pain, and I'm sure that's something you'd want to spare her. Just support her in the transition and show her just what an awesome catch she's made. ;)
2006-11-17 12:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by feliscorvis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get used to it. Every relationship doesnt have to end badly. Mind your business when your new gf is dealing with the old gf, be out of the room etc. and yes give them some time to make new financial arrangements. At an appropriate amount of time say six month, ask if or snoop around to see if your new gf has made the separation. if not split. Let her know that you wont be made a fool of.
2006-11-17 12:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be jealous if my man would keep talking to his ex wife. But give her time, your partner seems like a nice girl and she's just trying to help the other girl, but also tell your girl to tell her ex to hurry finding a better job or something cause it is not her responsability anymore. Give her time, but if things don't get to change in a few weeks then talk to your girl, and tell her you don't feel comfortable with that
2006-11-17 12:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
very cautiously. u have a right to b wary and yet if u say too much u take the chance of endangering the relationship. give it some time, if the time you allot comes and goes, then give an ultimatum and see exactly where u stand.
2006-11-17 12:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by Nora G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that is she really considered her an ex, then she would just stop having anything to do with her. loveng her is one thing, but helping her take care of her ex's family is a completely different other. take care and good luck.
2006-11-17 12:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by sherryw_1978 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just trust and believe your girlfriend and see what happends
2006-11-17 12:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋