i am christian and my boyfriend is muslim?

Question

would there be a problem if his parents found out if so why

Answer 1

If his parents found out no it should not be a problem. Certainly not as far as Islam is concerned.
A Muslim man may marry a Christian woman.

You will only have a problem if his parents don't personally agree with it. But as long as you are happy, respect each others religions then his parents should be happy.

I am a Christian woman married to a Muslim man for 3 years now (we have been together for 5years). His family are wonderfull, they never had a problem.

The only thing that may be of concern to his parents (which I believe someone else mentioned in their answer) is the whole "dating" process. But this is something you should discuss with your boyfriend, he will know better than anyone how his parents will feel. Other than that, this is only of concern to your boyfriend.

But anyway, if your question was only out of concern of the Christian and Muslim situation then no, it is no problem.
I hope this all makes sense?
Janie x

Answer 2

Please find a way to tell them yourselves, so they don't distrust you, thinking you were being deceitful or disrespectful.

All cultural differences can pose challenges or conflicts, especially religious ones that are taken seriously and there is much misinformation. Please seek a pastor or counselor, experienced in interfaith ministry or counseling, who can help you approach both your parents and his. The more you work out in advance, the less headache or misunderstanding there will be.

You may try mutually accepting or joining each other's faith without renouncing your own if that keeps the peace.

Muslims are taught to respect and love all people of the Book (Christian, Jewish Muslim) and to receive all Prophets of God. Muslims are required to follow the Biblical Scriptures just as a Christian would. Since many Prophets witness to Jesus as Messiah (even Buddha prophesied 600 yrs before Christ that a Maitreya Buddha would come and return a second time to enlighten the world), then a true Muslim can receive Jesus and live as a Christian as well as a Muslim.

If your boyfriend accepts Christ as a Muslim, there does not have to be a problem. I know a woman with a Catholic-Muslim background who has no problem reconciling the two faiths. A friend of mine who has a prayer ministry was brought up Catholic woman and married Jewish. Both she and her husband believe in Christ as Christians, and simply continue to worship the Jewish tradition, while she also ministers to people in the Christian tradition. So she retains both cultures.

If you have any interest at all in studying or practicing in the Muslim tradition, I suggest you do. You can learn and understand more about your boyfriend's cultural background and family, and ask questions so you can reconcile the teachings of both. There is no need to feel pressured or forced to adopt anything you don't believe in; many Christians don't get half of what is in the Bible either, and struggle every day with their faith.

But as long as you and your boyfriend show a mutual acceptance and respect for each other's parents, are willing to participate in each other's life and cultural ways while you explore some of these differences, and do not reject or disrespect anything about each other's family or heritage, I think you can encourage the right support and understanding you need to have a happy and healthy, meaningful relationship.

Answer 3

That was a wonderfully thoughtful answer, emilynghiem. My compliments.

Interfaith marriages have special challenges, but these are not insuperable. If two people respect each other's right to be who they are and follow their own path, that's the greatest ally they have for making such a relationship work. Their families may object, and that can cause serious difficulties, but if the couple respect one another and don't insist on unanimity of thought and faith, even family objections can be overcome.

First make sure your boyfriend is truly respectful of your beliefs, then tackle his parents. Sometimes they will react by gut instinct, so don't take this personally. It's not about you. It's about the way they were brought up. The challenge is to show them that you respect your boyfriend's faith and the traditions in which he was brought up. They'll be most worried about you trying to change him. But also make sure they understand that, while you respect their way, you have your own.

Those that would have you not even try simply because of an ancient attitude of fear toward those who are different, expressed in terms like "unequally yoked," are nothing short of gutless.

Answer 4

Go for it.

Good luck

Answer 5

Parents or not no 2 can be united happily unless they are agreed. Religion goes to the root of our being and unless we really don't believe what we say the days will come when trouble will be unavoidable. It is 2 opposing beliefs with no compromise between the 2 and when you have children then things will be worse because if you truly believe you will know that your spouses religion is wrong and you won't want your children to believe a lie. Oh what trouble lies down that road. The days will come when you look back and mourn the day you compromised your own heart.

Answer 6

If his parents are from an older generation or have had little education they mightn't understand.
It is OK for a Muslim man to marry a women from any religion thus his religion shouldn't get in the way of thangs.

Answer 7

If you are close enough to your boyfriend to worry about this, then why not ask him? Reallistically though, I am a committed Christian and work with mostly Muslims so I hope this info will be useful. It all depends on how committed you each are to your faiths. ( think of the type of person who puts C of E on the form when they are admitted to hospital, but hasn't been to Church of their own accord since they were Christened, same applies to Muslims) You each need to define the degree to which you are committed to your own faiths. You will find, once you bring it into the open, that there are more similarities than differences. The Old Testament, for example, is a history of the Jewish people, from which many of the other major religions, Islam and Christianity included, emerged. Many of the stories in there are common to both Islam and Christianity. Ask your boyfriend, for example, about the story of Noah (he will call him Noo) and Solomon (Suleiman). If you don't know these stories yourself, then why worry about being a Christian as you obviously don't know your Bible? The major difference between the faiths is that though Muslims acknowledge the real existence of Jesus as a person, and a major prophet, they do not believe that He was the Son of God , the same as the Jewish religion does not.If you are a Christian, you have to believe this, or you are not one. THe Muslims I know are completely bewildered by the politically correct lobby which wants to ban Nativity Scenes in shop windows. for fear of offending Muslims. They obviously have not done their homework, as Mary, mother of Jesus, has a special day devoted to her in the Muslim calendar as the mother of one of their major prophets. Do Muslim shopkeepers have to remove their Nativity scenes from their windows just to please atheist council employees? Daft isn't it? And its all down to ignorance, the main thing is, to decide how your faiths affect the lives of yourself and your boyfriend on a daily basis. If you don't think about the way you behave with regard to Christianity, then why worry, (ask yourself if you really understand what it means to be a Christian, likewise your boyfriend with Islam, also ask yourself if you are worrying about this because of your parents, not yourselves) Either way, you need to keep a sense of perspective and make sure you've both enough of a sense of humour to take the p**s out of yourselves (not each other) when its funny enough to laugh at. Respect his prayer time and he might buy you a bigger Easter Egg! (see what I mean) Either way, never forget that both religions say that love conquers all and (to papraphrase) that you have two ears and one mouth and that they should be use in proportion (listen twice as much as you talk) Either way, if each of you love unconditionally, you are both being true to your faith. Good luck, if you want another natter, email me and Ill do my best. Love and God Bless you both XXXX

Answer 8

You bet there would be problems !. They will send him away to another town another country. Even the most broad minded of Muslim parents, would go berserk, they do not want any woman for their sons, unless she is a Muslim woman. Not a Muslim convert, but someone who was born as and bought up as a Muslim. Young Muslim men have great respect for their parents, and if it comes to a choice, they will always obey their parents. Sorry, but I am telling you how it is. Believe me.

Answer 9

a muslim can't marry a non-muslim so i think if his parents found out it might be a problem

people understand wrong nowadays but actually when someone went to aly ebn abe taleb and that was the 4rth khalifa of muslims he asked him that he wanna marry a christian ,what was aly anwer? he said u can't so the guy told him strange how can u forbid what allah allowed? he said enough unbelieving for her to say that Isa the son of mary is allah's son...
and muslims if u want the evdince from the Qur`an i will give it to u but otherwise many muslims now think it's ok to marry a christian but the truth that it's not...

edit:and yes it's true islam forbids dating

Answer 10

that depends on the parents. some parents don't like their kids involved with people of other religions.

even Christians, I'm a Muslim and my ex was christian her mother was a pain in the butt and never accepted me because of my religion.