2006-11-17 12:09:28 · 18 answers · asked by **POPULAR!** 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry about your dad.
It is pefectly ok to cry. You'll cry as long as you need to, and then slowly you'll think of him and not be sad, or you'll do something and your first thought won't be "I wish dad could have seen that" but for now, it's perfectly ok to cry.
I know a guy who lost his dad a month ago, he's in his late 20s and he's still crying almost every day, so its normal to cry when you loose a parent, no matter how old (or young) you are.
Make sure to stay close to your mom and any other family. They'll comfort you, and you can comfort them. Keep yourself busy; hang out with friends, go to the movies, just keep going with your life as much as you can.
*hugs* it'll be ok, cry now, one day you won't need to.
2006-11-17 12:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by lilgiggle33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, I'm sorry I have to give you this answer: unfortunately, you don't stop crying.
I am so sorry for your loss. This is the time you need to have people around you to hold you. You need them to comfort you, and let you just cry.
Death is abandonment; and if your dad had any choice he would want to be with you to comfort you, not abandon you. It wasn't a choice he could make. No matter why or how he died, he couldn't change a thing. And if you feel angry at your dad for leaving you, that's ok. It's a perfectly normal feeling.
My 16 year old daughter is adopted. When she was close to ten years old, her mother died. All I could do was hold her, hug her, tell her I loved her, but I couldn't remove the pain or her tears. When she talks about her mom all these years later, the one thing she repeats is that she wishes she could have had more time with her, and that she worries she's forgetting her.
Even as an adult, when my father died, I was numb. I didn't want to cry but I couldn't stop. Particularly when someone was kind to me...that hurt so much.
Time heals. That sounds so simple and unemotional, but it is what heals us and our hearts. My daughter walked through her pain. So did I. We still miss our parent, but now we think of the good memories we had when they were alive. We still cry, not often and the pain is much less. Time, heals. Hearts mend. We go on with our lives, and I believe those we've loved and lost, are always around us, protecting us, we just can't see them.
Blessings to you and your family during this sad, sad time.
2006-11-17 12:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by metaphysical_kitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stop crying when it is time. You are so hurt right now that you don't think it is ever going to get better, but I promise it will.
Time helps, friends help. You can't get him back so try really hard to go on with your life which is what I am sure he would want you to do.
I have an 8 yr. old daughter and the only thing worse than leaving her would be thinking that she couldn't get on with and enjoy her life with out me....he wants you to be happy sweety, he is with you still, now go on, have fun.
You can do this, you deserve to be happy, maybe this is of no comfort to you at all but you had him for 8 years, sounds like he was a good dad, I would rather have a good dad for 8 yrs. than a bad one for eons. Hang in sweety, you are going to be okay.
2006-11-17 12:35:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to cry. In fact, it's good to cry.
But remember that your dad would not want you to be sad all the time. He'd like to see your smile from heaven, so if you have the strength, try to smile every once in a while for him. Eventually it will become easier and you will be able to smile more often for him. But if you still cry every once in a while, it's okay.
2006-11-17 12:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by michelmo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cry because he's gone. Smile because he was there.
But it's okay to cry not all tears are an evil it's when you can't cry anymore that something is truly wrong so let it out and don't hold back the sorrow. Time heals all wounds.
2006-11-17 12:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by sprydle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to stop. You'll stop when you are ready and you have gotton enough grief out to begin to look back at all the good things you and your dad did together. Some day, believe it or not, you'll be able to think of him and smile and laugh instead of crying.
Lean on your family and friends right now. They understand.
2006-11-17 12:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by Smurfetta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you cannot stop crying it is so sad even i feel like crying now.
but time will help you to feel a bit better, your dad is with you for ever you might now see him but he will be for you and so close to you.
My husband's dad and also his mother died when he was very very young, he cried but times goes on and he felt a bit better, he says that he always got lucky in his life and he feels that it is all with the help of his parents...
it is not easy fro no one, I wish you feel better soon.
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2006-11-17 12:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't hon.You keep crying until either u can't cry anymore or u fall asleep.I'm truely sorry for your lost.My son lost his dad and it is the worse thing that could happen to a young child.
2006-11-17 12:13:00 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 8 when my father died. It's tough, but talking about it helps.
It will seem like a long, long time before you will feel like your life is back on track. But things do get better.
2006-11-17 12:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. It's healthy to cry. Your going to greive for a very long time. Cry your little eyes out honey. Don't keep this all bottled up inside.
2006-11-17 12:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋