He's a lawyer, not married.
2006-11-17 12:08:53 · 31 answers · asked by pinkdiver 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I had a boyfriend that I never invited over because he would make fun of wood paneling, and my house had wood paneling. I was silly, and thought that he would think it was lame. Maybe, just maybe...he is embarrassed about something? If not, maybe he something that he doens't want you to know about.
By the way, we dated for 4 years and I never invited him over!
2006-11-17 12:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by Myra 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have to have sone questions answered fro you first like...
Do you see him a lot or is it more like a booty call?
Are you sure you are the only one??
Have you met any of his friends?
Do you go out to public places close to where you live or go further away...or call for food delivery, stay home and watch movies?
If you haven't met anyone acquainted ot him, something is fishy. If he keeps you hidden...again this smells fishy.
My best advice, ask to meet his family, if he says no then ask him why. If you never go out near where he lives or works, make reservations somewhere popular by him and see what happens.
It could be that he is totally afraid to commit, has another girlfriend/wife even if you think there isn't one/maybe gay/maybe he was adopted/ embarrased of his family. many things.
It just seems that after 2 years you should have met someone in the family, if there is one. Again just ask him, maybe he will tell you. After all he is a lawyer, he should have a really good reason. Keep us posted if you ask him as to what his reaction was.
GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-11-17 12:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by tdakpj 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be so certain he's married. I know as a lawyer he's busy, so I'm sure at first it seemed normal to never hang out at his place...but after this long it's a bit suspicious.
You need to talk to him. Just lay it out there. Something like "I've noticed that you have never invited me to your house and it makes me feel like you might have something to hide because it just doesn't make sense." Listen to what he has to say, and you be the judge if he's telling the truth. Hopefully he'll recognize that what he's done is a little odd and invite you over. If, after confronting him, he still doesn't invite you, it's time to find a different guy.
2006-11-17 12:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by lilgiggle33 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have several concerns
1. this is not an equal relationship!
2. He is definately hiding something, keeping a peice of his life seperate from you
3. After two years I am sure this is more than just some bad habit.
You really need to talk to him on this, and if you already have, and he is being defensive about it then something is very very wrong.
Seriously!
If you talk he should be like:
"hey, no big deal, baby come over!"
OR
"Well, give me a day to clean i want the first time you see it to be special"
anything esle and its a big red flag.
2006-11-17 12:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He tells you he's a lawyer and he tells you he's not married...
Yeah, right. I wouldn't believe a word he is saying. You better show up and check things out for your own. And there are websites you can check up on him. Your local county common pleas court might have a website. Or check your municipal court for a website. Here's a website you can link to almost any existing public record search that your county might have. http://www.brbpub.com/pubrecsites.asp It's fun too.
2006-11-17 12:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either he is hiding something (someone?) or he does not want any more of a relationship than you already have. Does he come to your place? If so, quit inviting him over and just date. I'm sure you'll find out what's up then.
2006-11-17 12:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by Smurfetta 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope your sure hes not married, chances are that hes hiding something, suprise him with a home cooked meal and flowers whn u are absolutely sure hes at home , just go over, knock the door and hide and whn he opens the door surpise him
2006-11-17 21:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by haboba13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes married, or he has a female roomate hes screwing, or hes embarresed of the way he lives. My advice is that you find out why you havent been to his home and if that involves a little spying and a little reasearch on your part then you better follow up on it.
2006-11-17 13:16:27 · answer #8 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a bit strange and I wouldn't be comfortable with it.
And, after two years, where is this relationship headed? I see too many people right here on this board wasting too much time and too much of their lives in dead-end affairs.
2006-11-17 12:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is very odd a 2 year relationship and you’ve never been to his house. I would think that would be signs that something is up. I would address it to him because there is just something wrong with this picture.
2006-11-17 12:59:01 · answer #10 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋