Could anyone tell me if it gets easier having twins and the older there get, mine are 10 month boy/girl twins?

Answer 1

Hi! I've got 10 month old identical girl twins so I can relate. Here's a few thoughts:

1. Have you joined your local Mothers of Twins Club? If you haven't go to www.nomotc.org. It's helped me so much to meet mothers of twins/multiples in my area. Plus, you see the triplet moms and think "well, at least it wasn't triplets!" ;-) It also helps to see the mothers who have adult twins and survived! I've gotten such great advice from those moms.

2. Find a message board online and use it for support and advice and a place to vent. My favorite is www.twinstuff.com but I have friends who also like www.twinsmagazine.com and ivillage.com. It's great to have a place to go that's all twin moms who know exactly what you're going through.

3. Think positive. People have told me from the beginning that it gets easier. And if I think back to when they were 4 weeks old, eating every 2-3 hours and not sleeping for more than 4 hours straight I realize how much I've overcome and how much easier it really is. Plus, now they are starting to walk which has the benefit that someday I won't have to carry them everywhere (even if it means I spend alot more time chasing them...)

Hang in there and congrats on your twins!

Answer 2

Hello, I have identical twin daughters who are 3 years old and it is JUST begining to get easier! They are at that age now where they play with each other and are not constantly demanding my attention. They were very bad sleepers until they were almost 2. If we got to bed before 2am that was an early night for us! They have been attending pre-school since they were 2 and that has helped. It has given them more of a routine and they have made a lot of friends. I have 8 sets of twins in my family and not one of the parents of them twins have ever told me it gets easier... but it does. Routine is the most important thing to establish. Also make sure you get some you time (or me time as I call it) Once a week I go to my friends house (she has no children) She runs me a hot bubble bath, puts on some music and we put the world to rights! Its the only time I get to soak in a bath without getting disturbed by little girls! I know when you have a bad day with twins its a BAD day and you never seem to recover from it. Believe me the good days will soon start to out weigh the bad. Twins are a blessing even though it might not seem that way!

Answer 3

As a 28 year old twin (and I still live with the other one after the odd year or two apart ) and I can tell you that it does get easier (according to the folks). They will always depend 110% on each other but still try to encourage independant activities (she's a historian, I'm an engineer). Don't do the whole 1 wears pink, 1 wears blue thing (they'll never forgive you) and try to split them as best you can - growing up together as well as same class, same form, same school, same friends is not healthy.

The bond is unbreakable but give it as much room as you can, seperate rooms if the house allows.Twins are cool (I would say wouldn't I) but they have trouble makng friends (if they've always had each other) so try to get them to do different things.

You'll do the best you know how and eventually they'll sleep at the same time but for now they're just keeping sentry for one another!!!!!"!

Good luck

Answer 4

I'm not going to lie to you and tell you it get's easier. It's just a different kind of hard. It really depends on what they do at what age, and whether you get help or not. It is a nightmare if they don't eat the same food, sleep at the same time, etc. (Even worse if they don't sleep through the night!).

I hope that the good times are worth the hassle.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

i dont have twins, but my girls are close in age. 4 and 5. It gets alot easier when they start to listen to rules and start to be able to help out around the house. Like clean their room. I am about to have a baby, and hope they help me with getting diapers,and stuff for the baby.

Answer 7

I cant say bout twins., but my two had a year between them and it was hard.
It did get easier and as I was young they were grown up when I was in my 30s.

Answer 8

my son and his wife have twins they are two now and they really run us all ragged but at least they go to bed by seven and stay there until 73--to--8 in the morning our two are boy-girl.

Answer 9

Two boys would've been a nightmare, but I reckon you should be ok until they're at school & have to take turns deciding whose turn it is to bring their mates home - cos you won't want two lots of friends round, will you? Girls & boys - everywhere!!!

Answer 10

if only there was a medal for you wait for whats in front of you ... wait till they can walk but all said and done .. tresue those moments as they can never be replaced and family are 100% A treasure ...enjoy my Friend.....its amassive learing curve and you dont stop learning ..enjoy