She had sex with three different black men while separated from my son (who is white) and I am having a hard time accepting this child. I know it isnt the babys fault, its just the fact that she is gloating about it. HELP
2006-11-17 11:59:03 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Her and my son have been married for 5 years. This isnt the first time she has left him to go screw around. No I cant stand her but I try to get along with her for my sons sake.
She is the town tramp and I just wish my son would wake up and leave the HO.
2006-11-17 12:52:19 · update #1
I would think any child that is not you sons would be hard to accept. If they are back together tell him how you feel and have him talk to her. If he wont talk to her then you tell her and tell her that you will not be a part of this child's life if she doesn't stop acting this way. If they are not together then you don't need to accept the child and it doesn't need to be in your life. Sorry to say it that way but it is true. Also I think once you see that beautiful baby it wont matter anymore. GOOD LUCK.
2006-11-17 12:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would consider that being unfaithful. I certainly also would have a hard time accepting what she did,but since it is up to your son to determine if he wants to take her back we don't really have much to say about it. You might talk to your son and tell him how you feel. I think the fact the child is not his along with the fact she brags about it makes the situation tougher than it needs to be. It doesn't appear she is sorry for her unfaithfulness. But the child will have a worse situation to deal with so the way I see it FOR THE CHILD'S SAKE ACCEPT HIM/HER if your son does.I hope society can do the same. It is strange how children have a way of growing into your heart even when they aren't your flesh and blood.
2006-11-17 20:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is not perfect,and neither are we. If ur son
forgives her for what she did and accepts the
child then remember u are a mother and u
should act as a mother because Mother's al-
ways accepts. As for the daughter-in-law if
ur son still wants her then all u can do is re-
spect his decision. We live in a day and age
where many interacial activities occur as
because we are all humans ,color of a person's
skin should have no boundries.
2006-11-17 21:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not for you to say. If your son accepts it, then you have to too. If you don't like it stay away, you are not the grandparent so you can bow out.
But, I gotta tell you, if your son is supportive of her and the child you'd better be to or you may lose your son. My advice, be a grandma.
And, by the way, how do you how many men she slept with? If she told you that she may be just saying it to get your goat.
Step up.
2006-11-17 20:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by Smurfetta 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I commend you for trying to accept the child even though she's just your daughter-in-law.
You need to tell her to shut up. Being a whore is nothing to be proud of.
If she and your son do decide to get back together, then I guess you'd need to act like the child's grandparent. In time, you'll grow to accept the baby as a part of your family.
2006-11-17 20:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by Gwyn 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why do you have to accept a child thats not related to you under diress?
Heres the answer to that one - You dont have to accept the child. Hes [or shes] not kin to you. By all means dont be mean to the baby but you dont have to call the kid your grand child.
I have one more question for you. Would you accept the baby if it were white?
2006-11-17 20:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥♥ Pink ♥♥♥ 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
neither of you should gloat, neither should regret , the child is a new life in a very confused world, the most important thing for you is to be there for your grand child and your Daughter no
matter what your beleifs on a mixed relationship is, shes your daughter, and she gave you a grand child,,,,,be happy at that,
at some point in time racisim has tro die,please do not let the question of race even enter your mind its your grand child and shes your daughter, bew greatful,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,stinger5906,,,,,,,,,
2006-11-17 20:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to be a part of the baby's life. Sounds like you're the only sane person in this situation.
2006-11-17 21:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes in life,try to forgive her for her cheating on your son. Love has no color. Love this new baby as part of your family.
2006-11-17 20:04:32 · answer #9 · answered by pinkdiver 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a baby is a baby is a baby and is innocent. IF ur son can forgive , then i suggest u do or u will loose the child and ur son.
good luck
2006-11-17 20:01:31 · answer #10 · answered by Nora G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋