After 8 months I saw my ex boyfriend at my university campus. We go to the same university. He came up to me and seemed REALLY happy to see me, he was smiling and looking deeply into my eyes, he kept asking me all these questions. I kinda seemed annoyed. At the end of the conversation, he said he said he had to go , then he said "give me a shoutout and we can do something" , and I just looked at him, and he said "yeah we can see a movie together or anything you want", I just said bye and walked away. He was the one who dumped me 8 months ago. We only dated for a month and it never went past kissing cuz I'm saving myself for marriage. Now, I would never ask him out, since he dumped me. Is there any ways that I can get HIM to ask me out in a more direct way...? I know I could just ask him to see a movie, but I want HIM to make the first step. I want him to say "so do u wanna see a movie or....? Today he put "Casino Royale" as his msn quote. He likes James Bond movies & the new one is coming out tomorrow. I logged in msn today and he didn’t start a conversation with me & he didn’t ask me to see the movie with me. Since he hasn’t asked me for this movie does this mean that all his happiness & “let’s see a movie” was fake?
2006-11-17 11:58:01 · 14 answers · asked by sweet kisses 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know that he might not see the movie this weekend or he may not know if I like him, and he could be hesitating. But why do you think he is not making the first step yet and how can i get HIM to ask me out???
2006-11-17 11:58:55 · update #1
Hey, I understand that you may still have feelings left for this guy, but I'm telling you that most likely trying to get back with him may be a bad idea. It may just be hanging out for now, but it could lead to more, and unless youre ready for pain again, I say just avoid it. He may have just said give me a shout out as if a closure to the coversation and he may have not meant it.
2006-11-17 12:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did ask you out! Most guys will not come forth and say it like it is. You gotta take the hint and run with it! Call him, and he will make the next move. Think about it, if wouldn't have offered the invite if he wasn't interested still. He probably knows he made a mistake and now regreting it since seeing you. In his eyes his chances with you are none because he broke up with you.
2006-11-17 20:04:13 · answer #2 · answered by SHASHAS=) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because dear his is testing you. He want to see just how interested you are still in him..I think that he just used the movies and the going out to see if you would jump to the chance and to see if you have changed you course of action in your life...Some guys being who they are will not make the first move unless the girl do and to me is ashame..Because if he really wanted to talk to you and see you again when you called him he would have started talking...Really dear this is only a test and I suggest to you is to keep walking and not look back his way...
2006-11-17 20:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He already made a move and perhaps he thinks you aren;t up to is because you didn't follow up----text him the date, place and time of the Bond flick and just ask "Can I see U there?"...then meet him as a friend vs a "date" and watch what happens...he bails on you---well he's not that interested, or he goes and....at least you'll know and stop wasting time/effort on wondering,. Good Luck.
2006-11-17 20:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He already did make the first move, several times, when he sought you out, when he looked into your eyes, when he said give me a call. Geez, what's a guy gotta do to get your attention?
We women believe a little to much in this "Handsome Prince" dashing up to us on a noble steed.
You give him a call and say, "I've thought about it, I'd love to see a movie with you if you are still game."
Next time he hints so strongly, say "Sure, give me a call and we'll make plans."
Good luck.
Peace.
2006-11-17 20:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really wants to get with you, as you are willing, he would be quite specific on when, where, and what. You would not be asking the questions you are asking now. He is just keeping you as a "second" option when only second options are last resort. Do you really want that?
Find someone who really wants to spend time with you. He might end up better looking, more kind, and more thoughtful. Forget this loser. Really. :)
2006-11-17 20:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by navigate100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to hurt your feelings honey but when you see an old freind(or ex) sometimes it's polite to suggest doing somthing together, it's the other persons responsibility to make the next step, maybe since you don't want to ask him out you need to talk about your feelings with him, suggest getting together for dinner and discuss that, and maybe that way he'll break the ice.
2006-11-17 20:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he was just being polite.
Also, hes your "ex" for a reason. Move on and find someone better.
2006-11-17 20:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥♥ Pink ♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him make the move. Don't let him think you want him. You be you, a good man will find you. Don't push yourself, love will find the way.
2006-11-17 20:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gees, you're a tool. Screw him. Get bombed and do it with a frat guy. That will definitely piss him off
2006-11-17 20:03:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋