I love him so much... and i really want him... but sometimes i feel nervous... again, he has been so nice to wait for me and what's more to not have sex for more than two years... should i be being more considerate and give my virginity to him?
2006-11-17 11:55:21 · 37 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you are asking complete strangers online rather than discussing it with your boyfriend then i guess you aren't ready yet hunny x
2006-11-17 11:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by mousie 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Hey Magrita,
Let's get this straight, hon - you owe your virginity to no one except the man you marry. Period.
He is not being "nice” to wait, he's being a gentleman, and that's to his credit. And you're not being inconsiderate by not giving it up, you are being smarter than most of your peers.
If he loves you enough to be worthy of that gift, he'll prove it by putting a ring on your finger.
There is no shame at all in being a virgin. All it means is that you have enough respect for yourself to wait until the time is right for you - whatever that means to you.
The question is do you still have that self respect today? I think you do. It's clear that you aren't convinced you want to have sex with him, or you wouldn't be asking, so let me put this question to you;
Are you willing to sacrifice that V-card - which you can never get back for a guy who is willing to take it away from you against your will, or will you choose the higher ground and save that v-card for the right man at the right time, and remember that moment for the rest of your life as the most beautiful thing you ever experienced instead of the dumbest mistake you ever made?
Your v-card, your call. I'd say you'll think much more highly of yourself in the morning if you wait.
Stay true to yourself, kiddo. You'll thank yourself tomorrow.
2006-11-17 12:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by stargazerjimbo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what I think. I think the real question is wether or not youre willing to make that big of a sacrafice to someone who obviously loves you so much that he could wait two years. That should tell you something. Wait until your married and if he cant wait that long then I guess that will be the time to decide. But dont start thinking on it now because if you confront him with it then maybe he will be like "well are you that eager because obviously this is the longest relationship youve ever had". Think on that sweetie and get back to me on it. I am only 14 and I know that.
2006-11-17 11:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by jigglet92 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your age, but if you are old enough to be engaging in this kind of activity, then I would say it would be a good decision and not a regret to give him your virginity. He obviously respects and loves you for waiting. I don't think you would regret it if it is with someone you really love and want. It is normal to feel a little nervous, it is something you have never done before. It is your decision though. Good Luck!
2006-11-17 12:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by Alberto L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, being in a relationship for over two years obviously shows you care about him and he cares about you. I dont see why you shouldn't have sex with him if you are legal, however don't feel you HAVE to. Talk to him about it, explain how you feel, he will be understanding, after all he loves you. If you don;t agree with it and your totally not confortable with it then dont. Your not being inconsiderate by not giving your virginity to him and i doubt he thinks you are aswell. If you want to have sex with him and feel you are ready but its just those nerves that are getting in the way, explain it to him. He'll be really understanding and put you at ease. Remember; It's your first time, your bound to be nervous, comminicate hunni!
gd luk hope i'v helped
xxx
2006-11-17 21:07:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly - lemme salut him for the long wait!!
secondly - lemme congrat u on finding him, for he belongs to the same group as the dinos = extint species. u go a good guy there gal.
when u ready u wont need to ask cos u'llbe willing n wanting it, won have to think over it too much, it'l just happen gal. ;-] put nothing else into consideration but ur feeling ok? after all, who's virginity is it? get what am saying?
2006-11-17 12:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by Lurgess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has waited for 2 years you have a one in a milion .. he is obviously as nervous as you
find somewhere you can go just the two of you to relax and enjoy
PS get a condom or make sure you are on the pill
2006-11-17 12:01:44 · answer #7 · answered by toon_tigger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going to be honest ...Yea he has waited for two years but ...What does that mean if you're not ready?? At least you know that's not the only reason he's there which is great .but again being honest you have to answer that question if you really love him and he really love you why not???? BUT REMEMBER NO MATTER WHICH ONE YOU PICK EITHER TO OR NOT TO PICK IT BASED ON HOW YOU FEEL AND WHAT YOU REALLY WANT TO DO AND DONT WANT TO DO BECAUSE ONCE ITS GONE YOU'LL NEVER GET IT BACK!~!!
2006-11-17 12:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by ~Jay~ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do love him and your ready to take the next step then you should. Hes waited 2 years so hes obviously one of the good one (There arent many guys that would wait that long) and it sounds like if it mattered that much to him then he wouldnt have waited.
2006-11-17 12:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by Darling_Bud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have found a bloke who is willing to wait for sex & their ain't many of them about! It shows how much he respects you for him to wait 2 years! If you still don't feel ready then why rush when you have a boyfriend like yours standing by who is willing to wait until you are ready. Wait until you feel ready, you will know when the time is right! good luck!
2006-11-17 11:59:44 · answer #10 · answered by BLONDESHELL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well yes if you feel that its time. But dont rush anything. It will happen on its own. You dont owe anyone because they waited on you. Remember that. If you're really in love with him and want to be with him then let time take its course.
2006-11-17 12:00:46 · answer #11 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋